A short man is not equivalent to an overweight woman.

[johan]

I'm working on the math and short guy in no way is =, <, or > overweight women.

 

Although you would have to agree that short guy < tall overweight woman.

[suladas]

Some guys that fail when it comes to dating that happen to be short, need to have something or someone to blame their failure on. Taking ownership of the fact that they fail because of circumstances that they created, and could fix if they really wanted to is too much for them to bare.

 

Ya I don't get it. It's ONE small part of you, if you think that's why you're not successful, you're insane. No one is going to find every person of the opposite sex attractive, just a fact of life.

[suladas]

Short guy with bad breath and back hair maybe is = right?

 

I have back hair, what are you saying Amay?

[amaysngrace]

Ya I don't get it. It's ONE small part of you, if you think that's why you're not successful, you're insane. No one is going to find every person of the opposite sex attractive, just a fact of life.

 

I think penises are attractive.

[amaysngrace]

I have back hair, what are you saying Amay?

 

I think penises are attractive.

[suladas]

Although you would have to agree that short guy < tall overweight woman.

 

No actually, i'm not a fan of women who are really tall for the most part. I think actually height in women (as long as not really tall or short) is not one of concern to most guys.

[suladas]

I think penises are attractive.

 

I think penises are attractive.

 

Oh good, then I have something good to show you!

[somedude81]

Ya I don't get it. It's ONE small part of you, if you think that's why you're not successful, you're insane. No one is going to find every person of the opposite sex attractive, just a fact of life.

Yes it is just a small part. And I feel that any woman would consider my height in a factor for wanting to date me, or choosing a taller man over me when that's the only way that he's "better" than me, is absolutely shallow.

 

My height should be irrelevant. But based on the recent posts from women it obviously matters a great deal to some of them. And for what? Because supposedly a supposedly a short man can't throw her around the bed? That's ridiculous because a four foot tall man is stronger than the average woman.

[Ninjainpajamas]

Focusing on what you lack instead of what you have, will always lead you down the road of self-loathing, self-pity and lead you nowhere in the end only to being bitter and jaded thinking that if you had this or that, that your entire life would be different....and all the while you sit there and "justify" your lack of success, another man with your identical physical attributes/limitations...succeeds!

 

It's a total package deal folks...and I hate to tell ya, but if you're striking out repeatedly with the opposite sex...maybe, just maybe it has something to do with ::gasp:: you, your personality, your issues, you confidence, your self-esteem, your insecurities, your self-defeating attitude you take towards dating, your vibe, your passivity or overbearing posture...maybe just maybe, it's that little stank bubble you've created for yourself

 

Oh no never, no no it's always the entire gender itself...because even though all men or women have different preferences let's just simplify it and blame it all on somebody else or everybody else more like it.

 

You can sit there and cry about being too fat...you can sit there and cry about being too short...too ugly, too boring, unfunny, don't make enough money, don't have the right job, live at home or whatever it is that you think the whole world is against you and you're so misunderstood...but let me enlighten you here for a second...

 

YOU ARE YOUR WORST ENEMY...YOU HOLD YOURSELF BACK FROM BEING GREAT

You set those limitations on yourself, whether through your confidence and self-esteem or maybe just don't believe in yourself, maybe you think that until you reach this "x" here, that nothing in your life is going to work out. But you've made those rules, you've set those barriers and borderlines, you walk into a room carrying those fears and insecurities inside of you, and you know what people do when they tell they can rip you down with them....they do, they do actually what you want them to too, because when you're insecure about something YOU make it more noticeable than it is, even if it isn't noticed, you live in your own little head and world...you're the one walking around carrying that with you when each person you came across could have had a completely different opinion each time...but you tell yourself oh it HAD to be because I was too short, too fat or because of this or that....what a coincidence! it's exactly your insecurity! how amazing is that?!! woooooooow! couldn't possibly be a correlation between the two.

 

So yeah, you go ahead and approach any situation in your life and not believe in yourself...in see how far that gets you, see what happens when you psychologically, mentally and emotionally psyche yourself out by wearing your insecurities on your sleeves....even though you might THINK you're super secretive and some mystery, when it might be a helluva lot more transparent than you actually think...because guess what? sometimes the person overcompensating to one end is actually trying to hide and bury something that is realistically on the other end, maybe it's an actual insecurity, maybe when someone is judging you about your weight or size they are insecure about their own!....hmmmm!

 

You're sheep I tell ya! sheep! just following each other around in a circle while nobody knows exactly where they're going or why!

 

Baaaaaah baaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

[suladas]

Yes it is just a small part. And I feel that any woman would consider my height in a factor for wanting to date me, or choosing a taller man over me when that's the only way that he's "better" than me, is absolutely shallow.

 

My height should be irrelevant. But based on the recent posts from women it obviously matters a great deal to some of them. And for what? Because supposedly a supposedly a short man can't throw her around the bed? That's ridiculous because a four foot tall man is stronger than the average woman.

 

So you wouldn't choose a women with big boobs over a flat chested one everything else equal? BS. It's the same thing, get over it.

[SJC2008]

No actually, i'm not a fan of women who are really tall for the most part. I think actually height in women (as long as not really tall or short) is not one of concern to most guys.

 

Actually I wouldn't want to date a really short woman myself. My ideal range is 5'3"-5'7".

[iKING]

So you wouldn't choose a women with big boobs over a flat chested one everything else equal? BS. It's the same thing, get over it.

 

I wouldn't, just saying.

[suladas]

Actually I wouldn't want to date a really short woman myself. My ideal range is 5'3"-5'7".

 

Which is like a HUGE majority of the population? Not exactly being really selective with that range.

[suladas]

I wouldn't, just saying.

 

Well, within reason, and i'm talking compared to really flat. If you wouldn't, there's a phone call for you.

[amaysngrace]

Suladas are you the judge?

 

Do you think Belle from Beauty and the Beast is into beastiality? Probably, right?

[suladas]

Suladas are you the judge?

 

Do you think Belle from Beauty and the Beast is into beastiality? Probably, right?

 

Yes I am the judge. Yes she is.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Blah blah blah somedude is short blah blah blah somedude will never get laid blah blah blah

 

 

Give me something new to read

[suladas]

Blah blah blah somedude is short blah blah blah somedude will never get laid blah blah blah

 

 

Give me something new to read

 

Sorry nothing new on, only reruns.

[somedude81]

I'll get to Ninja's post tomorrow.

So you wouldn't choose a women with big boobs over a flat chested one everything else equal? BS. It's the same thing, get over it.

How many times do you think I've had to choose between two girls?

 

Yes, I would choose the bustier girl, but that isn't my point. Many women would chose staying single over a short guy. I absolutely would not do that.

 

Also for some reason women feel the need to randomly talk about men's height and and post how much they love tall men and/or turned off by short men.

 

How often do you see men randomly bring up breasts? I also don't think I've ever seen a man make a thread about breasts of any size.

[suladas]

I'll get to Ninja's post tomorrow.

 

How many times do you think I've had to choose between two girls?

 

Yes, I would choose the bustier girl, but that isn't my point. Many women would chose staying single over a short guy. I absolutely would not do that.

 

Also for some reason women feel the need to randomly talk about men's height and and post how much they love tall men and/or turned off by short men.

 

How often do you see men randomly bring up breasts? I also don't think I've ever seen a man make a thread about breasts of any size.

 

That's the difference, you are willing to settle for anyone. While most people have standards of what they want and will not accept less. Contrary to what you might believe, having standards doesn't mean you have less options, just better options. A lot of people don't find it flattering for someone to want to be with them just because they are there and there is no other options.

[amaysngrace]

I think a short man is equivalent to Wilson from castaway.

[somedude81]

That's the difference, you are willing to settle for anyone.

Absolutely not.

 

Just because I have low standards does not mean that I don't go after girls that I'm very attracted to.

 

While most people have standards of what they want and will not accept less. Contrary to what you might believe, having standards doesn't mean you have less options, just better options. A lot of people don't find it flattering for someone to want to be with them just because they are there and there is no other options.

What's getting me is what the cutoff point to not accepting any less is. Cutting off a seemingly great guy because he's short is asinine.

 

No matter how much I lust after large breasts, I cannot imagine passing over a girl because she's not as big as I prefer. If I ended up dating a girl with small breasts, I would never feel that I settled for her either.

 

Personally, I don't even like the term options. I see options as something that is presented and all one has to do is accept. Yes or No. I don't have options. That means that if I'm with a girl, I had to work to get her. That also means that I would not date a girl I'm not completely into, no matter what her bra size is, because if I'm not digging her, I wouldn't pursue her.

[suladas]

I think a short man is equivalent to Wilson from castaway.

 

No, because I loved Wilson, he's the best ball a guy could ask for

[Giraffe1]

Yeah I definitely think the OP is too caught up with his stature! Listen you have to work with what you were given. I'm a tall woman and some men will like my height other men won't. Regardless I work with what I got! I strut my stuff in heels and love to show off my long neck (hence the name Giraffe1) and legs whenever possible. Own your body and carry yourself with confidence, it really is that simple. There will be someone out there who likes what you are selling.

 

One other point I'd like to add. I went on a date yesterday with a guy who is 6'1 but he hunches over when he walks. It was a complete turn off, yes he is tall (which I like) but the fact he doesn't stand up straight and doesn't look comfortable in his own skin completely turned me off. He had everything else going for him but confidence. But confidence is such a big deal to me that I cannot proceed with him.

So, to reiterate work whatever height you are be confident, STAND UP STRAIGHT SHOULDERS BACK.

[Els]

That's actually EXACTLY how I view it. While I am more attracted to tall men, I would never turn away a decent man for being short, he has no control over his shortness!

 

The man I'm dating currently is shorter than me. No big deal

 

Yes, that means you don't necessarily find short men unattractive. Neither do I, to be honest. But some people do, and that's their prerogative.

 

I know it's not logical.

 

But the obsession that some women have in regards to men's height boarders on insane. One woman just said she resents an ex boyfriend for being short. WTF?!

 

Sounds exactly like what you say about girls with small breasts. It's interesting, by the way, how 'obsession' is relative. If a girl liked tall men the way you liked large breasts, would you say she's 'obsessed' with height? Hopefully not. So if she likes tall men just a little more than you like large breasts? Is she now 'obsessed'?

 

Perhaps it would be best to just leave people with contrasting preferences alone, and focus on those who don't much care about height. Plenty of men have absolutely ridiculous preferences for women in terms of aesthetics. If I were to obsess over not meeting everyone's 'standards', I'd go bat**** crazy.