Author RiceaRoni Posted April 15, 2013 Author Share Posted April 15, 2013 Good day today I hope everyone else is doing fine. Stay strong 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 Ex's bday is coming up...would it be worth it to break nc just to say happy bday? I dont think he deserves a happy bday from me, bur I already know that when his bday comes around ill be feeling sad.. Link to post Share on other sites
blindhope Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Ex's bday is coming up...would it be worth it to break nc just to say happy bday? I dont think he deserves a happy bday from me, bur I already know that when his bday comes around ill be feeling sad.. No, it'll only hurt you. The only reason to do that, and I am guilty, is that you hope the small gesture will let them see how much you care, that their safety net is still under them. Then it'll kill you if he doesn't respond, or a simple polite response will cause you too much over analyzing. Hold off. He'll notice more what's not there than what he expects to be there. Be strong and make plans that day. Make sure to keep busy and occupied or else you'll go crazy resisting social sites and text messaging him. It's time for him to realize what he lost, You go this! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SendHope Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Glad to hear your doing well RR. I feel like Im only a few steps behind you on the recovery road so Im glad your doing well. Its been rough for me lately probably because would-have been 1 yr anniversary is approaching Its not worth it to say happy bday. If he ignores you youll feel bad and if he does it wont be what you hope to hear. Stay strong 2 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 (edited) Ill NEVER wish my EX a happy Bday. It is next month. F*ck No!!! And she wished me one in December..didnt respond. They dont deserve a word or thought from us. They no longer exist in our new universe. Cav Edited April 16, 2013 by cavalier99 2 Link to post Share on other sites
na49 Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I'd say to pass on the happy birthday message. It's obviously going to hurt, but you're strong enough to get through it. Consider it an endurance test to see how far you've come. With how often you go out with friends and whatnot, you'll be over him in no time. I don't think "being over him" necessarily means that you will never want what you had with him, or stop missing him though. It's easy to romanticize our past relationships and see only the great things because they were great. I feel like on LS people have some sort of criteria for when you are considered "over it" and unless you meet this, you need to keep "healing" but I feel like you're more over it than you think you are right now. anyway, what do I know? I'm glad you're having a good day. Mine could have been better.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 Haha thanks guys..I wasn't planning on it, but I wanted to see other's opinions.. I actually feel like I'm starting to get over his @$$... he never deserved me, because i deserve better... Hopefully his new gf opens her eyes and sees the real him...then maybe I would be right about how frustrated he made me, and how selfish he was..when I all i did was give. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 I'm feeling strong Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 6 months post BU and it really did get easier... I thought I'd be sad forever, but man was I wrong. Today has been great 1 Link to post Share on other sites
McDonald Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I wished her a happy birthday. It was about 3 weeks post breakup. All I got was a "thanks" a day later. Not worth it RR. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 yeah he's not getting anything from me. I'm good from him i can't believe after all this time I'd be finally over him.. I do admit I miss him, but I realize how much he put me through and in the end he isn't worth it. I may have some rough days still to come, but for now I'm doing just fine 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 17, 2013 Author Share Posted April 17, 2013 Feeling good I hope everyone else is doing fine Stay strong and stick to NC! Feel free to use this thread to gadge your progress as well 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 18, 2013 Author Share Posted April 18, 2013 Feeling pretty nostolgic today... And a little sad... Hes happier with someone else..probably happier than he was with me And it upsets me because I put so much effort into pleasing and caring for him, and to think its all gone to waste....and hes with some girl whos too caught up with the idea of being in love.. I hope today gets better.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 18, 2013 Author Share Posted April 18, 2013 Sunday is gonna be a rough day for me as well.. Its his bday...im not going to wish him a happy bday, but that day is gonna be emotional for me... And ideas of him and his new gf spending it together are going to eat at my mind Link to post Share on other sites
iouaname Posted April 18, 2013 Share Posted April 18, 2013 Do you have anything planned for Sunday? You should plan something good for yourself! Treat yourself to something as a reward for not contacting him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 18, 2013 Author Share Posted April 18, 2013 Do you have anything planned for Sunday? You should plan something good for yourself! Treat yourself to something as a reward for not contacting him. No I have nothing planned... And im scared if I end up going out ill just run into him and her. Ill try to find something to occupy my mind.. Link to post Share on other sites
SendHope Posted April 18, 2013 Share Posted April 18, 2013 You should try learning a new language! It's something that will occupy you if you can't get anything going with friends on a particular day. I'm not gonna lie, it's quite a challenge to follow up through it. I stopped learning once the novelty wear off haha. But it's something to try. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
iouaname Posted April 19, 2013 Share Posted April 19, 2013 No I have nothing planned... And im scared if I end up going out ill just run into him and her. Ill try to find something to occupy my mind.. I know that it's bad to wallow in misery but honestly, some days it's not such a bad thing to just allow yourself to feel sad. Through this breakup there have been a lot of days which I just feel 'down' but I go about my business, and then one day it all kind of just explodes and I spend the day in bed/in my apartment in my pajamas just crying and watching shows. If this Sunday that's what you feel like you want to do - go for it! Turn off your phone if it helps (just so you don't need contact him or anything), find a season of a show that you think you'll enjoy, curl up in your pajamas with some feel-good food and watch! It's okay to take a 'you day' even if it means being sad. And honestly, the next few days after this kind of day, I feel so good and motivated 1 Link to post Share on other sites
blindhope Posted April 19, 2013 Share Posted April 19, 2013 He's not happier with her than with you. You can only see the bliss of a new relationship, which I'm sure you shared when you first went out. Remember that people usually repeat there mistakes, She cheated with him, so when this new novelty wears off she'll cheat on him. People who aren't mature enough can't handle it when relationships move past the lust phase. When it becomes real and you get to actually know who the other is as a person. That's when they run like your ex, or wander and cheat like her. So keep reminding yourself how lucky you are and that your better off. The pain and loss seems to become less and less. You're healing and soon you'll find something better, and something that has the chance to become real. As for Sunday do something you enjoy or always wanted to try, but may not have because he wasn't interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 20, 2013 Author Share Posted April 20, 2013 Thanks you guys.. Ill def try to be busy with something this Sun Currently ive been alright. Content. I was texting this guy and weve getting along great, but hes pulled back and has distanced himself...and idk what to do so ive been giving him his space. Link to post Share on other sites
Still kicking Posted April 20, 2013 Share Posted April 20, 2013 Love yourself more mama! It gets better. Give yourself space from ex and anyone new, take care f you. It hurts like hell trust me I know, mine ended last year after 22 years together, hurt my confidence, hurt my self esteem and left me broke. Rebuilding, that's the name of the game and I can faintly see a future where my financial situation improves and other women are starting to see the spark that I've hidden for so long. I might cry later, then joy comes in the morning with the start of a new day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 21, 2013 Author Share Posted April 21, 2013 Today went well My little cousin came over and spent the day with me And my mom wanted to take me shopping haha.. I just hope tomorrow goes well... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 21, 2013 Author Share Posted April 21, 2013 So far so good today I woke up pretty happy...even forgot for awhile what today was lol Hopefully the day keeps getting better Link to post Share on other sites
Author RiceaRoni Posted April 21, 2013 Author Share Posted April 21, 2013 Today has been pretty chill and calming Its not as bad as I thought it would be haha... His bday isnt important to me anymore. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
iouaname Posted April 21, 2013 Share Posted April 21, 2013 Yay! Good for you! I was thinking about you today and I'm glad that it went okay. Honestly, our fears of things are never quite as scary as what it actually is. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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