Faye Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 I have an issue. When my boyfriend and I were temporarily separated, he rekindled his old romance with this girl name Jessica. From my knowledge and what he has told me, the relationship was over and he wanted to rebuild our relationship by making the necessary changes. We have an 11 year old son together. The problem, this girl continues to call him, I mean burning up his phone. He told her, in my presence, to stop calling him. But apparently she is WHIPPED and she keeps calling. She has my cell phone number as well, so when he hangs up, she calls my number. From 10:30pm Saturday thru 3:00am Sunday morning, she kept calling trying to talk with him, ringing both phones. It was annoying. He tells me he has not done anything wrong to mislead the young lady. But I don't think he is totally innocent, that somehow he caused this girl to go over the edge because he was not having his way with me. I totally don't trust him. I mean this is not some young lady that came out of the blue--I mean at one point he cared for her, probably still do. When I confronted him, he tells me he loved me and want us to work it out. All I know, this lady is opposite of me. She is about 19 or 20, no education, no job, no place of her own. So she will be totally dependent upon a man. Someone that is easily controlled. He blames me. He tells me that there would no be a Jessica if I respected him and not put him out. The reason why I put him out because he was abusive and always unfaithful, staying out overnight and not calling. So I got fed up. But I think I am a convenience for him and somehow he is just using me. I have established a career for myself and has proved to independent. But somehow he feels he should be the KING and wear the CROWN while I the QUEEN pays all the bills and has a stable job. Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 I think you said everything in your post that needs to be said. He obviously is not the kind of trustworthy and reliable guy that one would want to have at home. His former girlfriend doesn´t seem to understand why he doesn´t wants her anymore and she also seems very desperate. To me it looks like he also used her and now doesn´t know how to get rid of her. If it wasn´t for your son I would say, give him a kick and be happy without him. As you are not alone you have to think carefully. In my opinion, he´s a bad choice. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Your little king and his commoner wench need to be deposed with a steel-toed boot applied to the rectal locality. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Faye Posted September 13, 2004 Author Share Posted September 13, 2004 My sentiments exactly. Link to post Share on other sites
YellowLioness Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Kick his rear out and get a restraining order. However, it sounds like you don't want him to leave. That's another situation all together. I think its ghetto for you to let him use you this way. In this day and age, no woman has any reason to let a man run all over her. I realize it is harder though when you have a child with someone. However, you want your child to grow up knowing the right way to treat a woman, if the child is male. Or, if the child is female, you'll want her to know what she should and should not put up with when it comes to men. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Faye Posted September 13, 2004 Author Share Posted September 13, 2004 Thank You for that. Link to post Share on other sites
EagleChick13 Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Let Him Go!! Let Him Go!!! Let him Go!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 One.....change your cell number and dont tell anyone...not even your guy. Second.....tell him he's not welcome anymore. You have a child to look out for and his/her rolemodel is his/her Dad. I agree with Yellow.....raise your prince/princess the right way so they have a chance of knowing what REAL love is. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 The king, and wears the crown?! Oh hell no! Take that crown and shove it in his royal a$$! There wouldn't be a Jessica IF you hadn't put him out, well isn't that rich? There wouldn't have been a reason to put his sad butt out IF he had been a man to begin with, and here he is still being an idiot in telling you that you're responsible for his actions and behavior, ugh! Change your number, and change the locks to the "castle" while your at it. Let this idiot know that you as the queen have made a decision and he has been overthrown as king! Blah! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Faye Posted September 14, 2004 Author Share Posted September 14, 2004 Thank you all. This really helps. I have no one to talk my problems out with. So Thanks for taking time to listen and giving good advice. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Nor will we allow our children to witness people treating us like we are anything but the queens we are. Say buh bye and don't look back. If he can get a grip on his macho head trip THEN he can start being a father to your child. Until then- you are both better off w/out him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Faye Posted September 15, 2004 Author Share Posted September 15, 2004 That is right, I am no fool. Last night, while he was asleep, I removed the house keys from his key chain and put fake keys in place so he would not notice. I wrote a nice letter explaining that I will not be used. I gave you a chance, and you "F" it up. The person that needs my full attention is my son. He is already having problems in school. Do you know what my son asked me yesterday, He said, "Mom, what do Dad mean when he say he does not **** whores, he pimps them?" My focus right now is on my son. Thank you all for your comments, it help alot. Link to post Share on other sites
Fayebelle Posted September 15, 2004 Share Posted September 15, 2004 Oh my God! Not a minute too soon by the sound of things. It would break my heart to hear my son say that! Good for you Faye. Stay strong even when things get hard (which unfortunately they usually do) We're all here if you need us. Link to post Share on other sites
tokyo Posted September 15, 2004 Share Posted September 15, 2004 Originally posted by Faye Do you know what my son asked me yesterday, He said, "Mom, what do Dad mean when he say he does not **** whores, he pimps them?" Oh my god, what a sh*thead!!! Link to post Share on other sites
j_nelson Posted September 15, 2004 Share Posted September 15, 2004 your man is a goof...get rid of him Link to post Share on other sites
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