shellen Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 my ex is asking me to meet his mum because he wants her to help him decide between me and his current gf... for those who dunno my story pls go to this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t47555/ sounds ridiculous right? he says he does not trust his feelings. i asked him what were his feelings but he did not say. and it's kind of weird because it is not like we have been going out at all and we have not been catching up over the phone either because i felt that a friendship was not working for me.and ours is a interracial interreligious relationship he will have to face a lot of troubles if he is with me (his current gf has no such problems), so if he reallie has no preference to who he wants, then he should just stay with her, not worth the hassle if he does not want me or love me more. i asked him if he wanted to be with me and he said yes.and i asked does he still love me and willing to go through everything with me and he said yes.so i dun understand what he is confused about. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 WTF? The little pussy has to ask mommy to choose? What the hell is up with that? You're not going to date mommy, fer chrissakes (well, these days you can never be too sure ) [size=20][color=red]BIG. RED. McF*CKING. FLAG.[/color] Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 What is this cheerleader tryouts? Ask him what he'd like you to wear. And what he wants you to say. Then ask him is he wants you to win or lose and you'll have your answer. In fairness though, alot of people use their family as screeners. They just aren't so blatantly honest about it. So is that a point for honesty? Hard to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shellen Posted September 14, 2004 Author Share Posted September 14, 2004 u mean as an excuse to reject me? ive thought abt that but the thing is i already chose to exit on my own...then he tells me this... Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 He's an idiot and a momma's boy. Find someone with a spine who knows that he wants you and doesn't hide behind his momma's skirts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shellen Posted September 18, 2004 Author Share Posted September 18, 2004 u noe what...he is just talking nonsense. I dun think he reallie meant to do it. after telling me loves me and wants to be with and me and willing to go through everything to be with me. I asked him so what is his plan, are we still meeting his mum and when, he did not respond. So i just gave him some time to think abt it. The next time he replied which was two days later, it was to tell me something that was totally irrelevant to what i asked. It was like he just conveniently forgotten my question. So I asked him again what was his decision and he did not answer my question seriously. I was suppose to be gone and the reason i took a step back was because i thought he was sincere this time. and it was the first time since we broke up that he actually admitted that he loved me and wanted to be with me. Previously it was just implied. and i thought he did not want to deal with difficulties of being with me but now that he actually said he was willing to go through it with me, i wanted to give us one last chance. I did not expect him to have a decision already but at least show that he is trying hard to arrive at one. But now it seems that he is back to what things were like before, that I wanted to walk away from. Although letting mum decide is a stupid idea but at least it shows he is trying to make a decision, now I dun even know what is he planning on doing or if he is planning to do anything. What is it that he wants from me? I have already volunteered to walk away. Why did he tell me he wants to make a decision and then now nothing. And why does he tell me loves me and wants to be with me but cannot put his words into action? I know it is time for me to walk away for good. But if he reallie meant what he said, isnt that such a waste?And if after a yr of being with someone else he still feels the way he does for me, doesnt that mean something? why does he still want to continue with someone whom he does not love completely. And to be willing to go through the difficulties for us to be together, you must love the person quite a lot. isnt obvious that im the one he loves? and if he din mean what he said, why say it? I was not asking for reconciliation anymore, I wanted to walk away. I dunno..i just dun understand what he is thinking... sorry for ranting... Link to post Share on other sites
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