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It's all guess work as to why and it doesn't help you to think about it. I'll put it this way, my ex still hasn't returned my things despite my request over 1 month ago. My ex still has photos of myself and her together and the comments associated ("you two are an amazing couple! wow handsome guy!"). She is now engaged to the man she left me for.

 

Don't think about it too much. Delete and block.

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Wow this FB thing is silly. I haven't begun to think of deleting photos. A lot of our photos are from trips and with our kids. It is a part of my life.

My ex still has stuff in my attic and garage. They are not in the way and if she needs them she can have them. We are only 2 weeks into it. Have a feeling she will back. I still haven't taken her company credit card away. She still works for me. She hasn't used it outside of work.

Any ways she may never remove the photos. Is all I was trying to say. Hang in there. It takes time. Took 4 months to get over my 10 year marriage.

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Good question considering their the one who ended it? Am I right? I'm betting because of their ego and its familiar.

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It's all guess work as to why and it doesn't help you to think about it. I'll put it this way, my ex still hasn't returned my things despite my request over 1 month ago. My ex still has photos of myself and her together and the comments associated ("you two are an amazing couple! wow handsome guy!"). She is now engaged to the man she left me for.

 

Don't think about it too much. Delete and block.

Yeah.. sometimes the ex's forget or just have it up still. My ex has some stuff up, I could care less. And some stuff she took off else where.. it doesn't mean anything.

 

All it means is to stay NC and move on....

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Wow this FB thing is silly. I haven't begun to think of deleting photos. A lot of our photos are from trips and with our kids. It is a part of my life.

My ex still has stuff in my attic and garage. They are not in the way and if she needs them she can have them. We are only 2 weeks into it. Have a feeling she will back. I still haven't taken her company credit card away. She still works for me. She hasn't used it outside of work.

Any ways she may never remove the photos. Is all I was trying to say. Hang in there. It takes time. Took 4 months to get over my 10 year marriage.

 

It really depends. I know my ex has had several relationships before me and yet there isn't a single photo or comment or anything to show for them. She clearly deleted them before I entered the picture or she decided to be very public about me. And yet, she is engaged to the man she left me for and apparently still has all of the stuff between us still up.

 

That includes her saying she loves me, misses me, all our couple photos, trip photos, her friends comments about us being a couple etc. I happen to think she just hasn't got around to deleting them and will eventually. It would be very odd to have that stuff up still if she is married to someone and looking to have a family.

 

Even if she did delete them though, I'm sure she will have them saved somewhere and never forget them.

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I think clearly, that she still has some unresolved feelings / issue as far as your concerned. She isn't doing the best job hiding this from her fiance. It maybe that he is understanding and until the actual wedding occurs he may think they're no harm.

 

When you have shared a part of your life with someone it isn't always easy to just push a delete button. However I wouldn't read too far into it as she is current in a relationship, and continuing on in that capacity with her fiance. She has excepted his proposal, and it could very well be a thought process for her given the so called finality of matrimony.

 

If you are still working to get over her I would stay the course.

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Honestly, it probably means nothing. My (ex)boyfriend of three years cheated on and broke up with me over two months ago, and I haven't deleted the pictures yet. But it's not because I'm hoping for something--I don't want hime back--I just haven't gotten around to it because there are so many, and I'm not ready to have to see them all again. And, as far as I know(he deleted unfriended me a few days ago), all of my pictures are still on his account despite him being in a new relationship now.

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I'm in the nc phase why wouldn't she delete me off of FB or take down our pictures ?

 

Just because she isn't with you doesn't mean you weren't a part of her life. Deleting you would be deleting part of her life. Don't read too much into it on "getting back together." Sometimes that happens and sometimes it doesn't. To be honest, maybe looking at those pictures is hard for her so deleting them would be difficult as she would have to look through ALL of those pictures. I wouldn't read into this one at all. If she wanted to be with you, she would tell you. She probably hasn't gotten around to deleting them or doesn't want to because you were a part of her life. I wouldn't delete them either. Its childish to just delete your memories because you aren't with someone anymore.

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To be honest, maybe looking at those pictures is hard for her so deleting them would be difficult as she would have to look through ALL of those pictures.

 

Yeah, this has got me thinking and I just went to facebook to start deleting some photos of me and the ex, and am now taking a break because it's taking forever. Have you recently tried deleting multiple photos that are spread out randomly thoughout many different albums on fb? It's so time consuming. And they aren't fun to look at either.

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I think clearly, that she still has some unresolved feelings / issue as far as your concerned. She isn't doing the best job hiding this from her fiance. It maybe that he is understanding and until the actual wedding occurs he may think they're no harm.

 

When you have shared a part of your life with someone it isn't always easy to just push a delete button. However I wouldn't read too far into it as she is current in a relationship, and continuing on in that capacity with her fiance. She has excepted his proposal, and it could very well be a thought process for her given the so called finality of matrimony.

 

If you are still working to get over her I would stay the course.

 

I think she just didn't get around to it yet. I don't really care to find out and don't have access any more anyway as I deleted/blocked her. My friends recently said that my ex has been strangely absent from FB ever since she left me, aside from the updates about her being in a relationship and then engaged to this other man.

 

My personal opinion is that if I am engaged to someone I am therefore opening up my life to them and their family, so it's precisely at that point that I need to be thinking about removing unnecessary pictures/comments. She hasn't done that yet, but doesn't mean she won't. It doesn't matter though as I am moving on and it's inconsequential to me how she handles things.

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