He was one sneaky guy...i'm confused...please help me!

[mysticalstar]

Well hello everyone. I have never used this before, but I am going to give it a shot because I am once confused person! My friends have all given me advice but I would like to hear it from you. Here it goes.

 

For the past few weeks I have been dating a guy. Neither of us wanted to get real serious but things were going really good. We spent most of our time together so I thought things were progressing. Well I went home for a weekend and when I came back I found out he had another lady sleep over. He claims he slept on the floor and that nothing happened but what man in their right mind would sleep on his own floor! Besides there was drinking involved. Well I found it in my heart to forgive him. After that we talked about things and decided that even though neither of us wanted to get real serious, we would only see each other. He just didn't want the whole boyfriend/girlfriend title because that scared him. He promised that he would never do it again. Well the next few days we were back to ourselfs again. On Saturday however he said he was going to stay home and study. Well he lyed and ended up getting drunk with his roommates and I found out again a few days later that he had a different girl sleep over again. But that he slept on the floor again and that nothing happen. He promised me. I blew up at him and just told him that now i dont know what I want. We got in an argument and he left mad. He said he regreted it and it was stupid thing for him to do 2 times. That he really wants to be with me. I talked to him after that and asked if we could get together and talk. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO??? I really like this guy but if I were to give him another chance, i would be a complete fool. I really need some advice. There is a quote that I truely believe and it goes "If it happens once, its his fault, but if it happens two times, its yours." I just can't believe that he did this to me. I really want to be with him, but i think that was my red flag. If someone could please write me back and let me know what they think that would be truely great. Thank you very much.

[mighty bop]

Sorry to be so blunt, but can you really be that gullible? Forget that loser.

 

Chris

[EC]

I don't even know what to say....

 

You don't have a title yet you want to manipulate what he does...

 

 

He syas he doesn't want to be serious and neither do you so basically he has the right to do whatever he wants and have whoever he wants sleep over and you really can't get mad about it because your not together.

 

On the other hand think about this...

 

He said he was studying and then he lied...went out and got drunk..and then had a girl sleep over. Even if your not together you deserve a little respect and after doing it once and saying he wasn't going to do it again he did...Do you want a guy like that?

 

You obviously care for this man and he doesnt want to settle down but you give yourself to him anyways hoping one day hell make you his girlfriend? Well, you have to put your foot down or youll be waiting forever. Tell him commit or your out and if he doesnt want to then move on.

 

If you dont want to commit now either then you can't get mad when someone sleeps over his house.

[Papillon]

Dump his ass.

 

Consider yourself officially HELPED.