becca Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 LAST WEEK MY EX CALLED. It has been a year since we talked. He called and hung up about 5 times and I knew it was him. then he drove by my house and i was outside. when he saw me he took off. then he called again 2 days later. and finally i got him to say something. He just said hi and wanted to see how i was doing. but then he asked who i had living at my house. i told him. and then when he got confirmation that there wasnt anyone to worry about he wanted to hang up. so does that mean he still wants to be with me and is scared to say anything or his wants to still be in control of me and not let me move on. he knows im not over him, and i feel like he wants to keep me in the distance in case things go sour for his current relationship. and that i will be there. i dont understand after all this time he now gets intouch with and only to find out the people who are living with me. i just wants some answers and if he wants me then he needs to say so, cause if not then its not fair to keep me in check and make sure i dont move on. he cant do this its not fair. we were together for 10 years and broke up. i still want to be with him, but if he doesnt then he cant call. i was wondering if he still wants to be with me or is he just kepping me at a distance incase they break up. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 13, 2004 Share Posted September 13, 2004 Well I don't know the nature of your break up with this guy, but because you asked if this meant he still wants control over you....... i'm thinking he was a controlling person in the relationship to begin with? Who knows really what it could mean. Obviously it would bother him for you to be living with someone else otherwise he wouldn't have made a trip by your home to check and he wouldn't have asked. BUT that doesn't mean that he wants to get back together with you. Could be that he just has a huge ego and wants to make sure you're still all about him (and after a year, sweetie, you need to move on) I don't know, I think that in some ways I probably would have told him that it really wasn't his concern IF you were living with someone or whom...... that he lost the right to question you about your personal life a long time ago. And if he is still involved in a relationship with someone else, even if he is calling you now *just in case it goes to hell* why would you want to be this guy's backup plan? You deserve better than that! Don't wait on this guy anymore. It's been a year and it is time for you to move on regardless IF he wants you to or not. Link to post Share on other sites
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