Depressed and feeling like I’m losing myself after my recent breakup

[BeyondConfused1n]

Needed to get some thoughts out so i decided to start writing, any feedback from a different prospective is always welcome.

 

Since my last update I’ve been pretty conflicted with my thoughts about my ex. She attempted to contact me for about five days last month after being no contact for nearly 3 months, and I for the most part blew her off but also told her where I stood and how I didn’t think it was a good idea nor do I think I could get back with her ever again. So we left it at thatand that was that.

 

I know/feel what she did was a slap in the face (putlightly) and going back would probably be a mistake but it’s been four months and I still can’t stop thinking about this girl. Is that normal? I’m not saying that it’s all I think about, but I do notice that quite a few times throughout the day I still think about her, and miss what once, for some reason now a day sit’s been more often than not. What does that mean?

 

I know some feedback I will get is to fill my time and date other women, so my answer to that is: 18-20 hours out of my day is accounted for. The rest is sleep. I have no spare/downtime at all. I’ve went on dates with several different women and I was just not feeling it, or no connection, or whatever, but what does that mean? I’m not there yet? Am I not over my ex yet?

 

Thanks in advance for reading and feedback!

[BeyondConfused1n]

Anyone have any feedback to provide?

[Exitleft]

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Keep moving forward. Don't look back.

[aloneinaz]

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You made the right decision in blowing her off. She clearly is emotionally unstable like my ex and that's the last thing you need in your life.

 

Why do you still think of her or possibly miss her? Cause you have no one else in your life female wise so of course you'll think of your last girl friend. It sounds like your priorities need to be to make some lifestyle changes to have more free time. You'll never get over her until you meet her replacement. Plain and simple.

 

It's been 7 weeks since my ex broke up with me for the third time this year. She can F-off and will never hear from me again. I've been dating for the last month. It's been a LIFE SAVER for me as I can't imagine NOT dating, having sex with others vs. sitting home alone to ruminate over my bitch ex. I'm now dating the second girl I've really liked for two weeks and am happy. The first got DQ'D for playing stupid games. My only issue in dating is not dragging previous fears into new relationships. My ex did some damage with her emotional unstableness. Constantly worrying about her going off and breaking it off again, etc.. I know it will take time but I still worry too much when I don't hear from the girl I'm dating for a while, etc.. I guess it's to be expected.

 

Find time for a personal life. If you don't have "time" for this then your life is WAY out of balance...

[BeyondConfused1n]

You made the right decision in blowing her off. She clearly is emotionally unstable like my ex and that's the last thing you need in your life.

 

Why do you still think of her or possibly miss her? Cause you have no one else in your life female wise so of course you'll think of your last girl friend. It sounds like your priorities need to be to make some lifestyle changes to have more free time. You'll never get over her until you meet her replacement. Plain and simple.

 

It's been 7 weeks since my ex broke up with me for the third time this year. She can F-off and will never hear from me again. I've been dating for the last month. It's been a LIFE SAVER for me as I can't imagine NOT dating, having sex with others vs. sitting home alone to ruminate over my bitch ex. I'm now dating the second girl I've really liked for two weeks and am happy. The first got DQ'D for playing stupid games. My only issue in dating is not dragging previous fears into new relationships. My ex did some damage with her emotional unstableness. Constantly worrying about her going off and breaking it off again, etc.. I know it will take time but I still worry too much when I don't hear from the girl I'm dating for a while, etc.. I guess it's to be expected.

 

Find time for a personal life. If you don't have "time" for this then your life is WAY out of balance...

 

I'm really not sure why I think of her and miss her, but I know I do think about her a lot and do miss her. I've been trying to wrap my head around that as well, but still conflicted. I know it means something, but I dunno what the meaning is. I do go on dates with other women, I do have another girl in my life, not a girlfriend but dating. However, i'm still very distracted about my ex and what I've described in my post. Like I said, I've went on dates, I have another girl that i'm talking too, but that's not what's missing. Still very conflicted because my ex was exactly what I was looking for. Replacing someone you were once content with is a very hard thing to do. In my opinion.