will i ever be ready?

[kidd089]

I am a former member here from a year or two ago, this site has helped me alot, but i no longer remember my old username.

 

I have been single 1 year and a half basically.

after a 6 year relationship which ended up with my ex running off with a friend of mine to another state.

 

I have no bitterness about this issue anymore.. i am happy they are happy although i have no contact with either at this point.

 

I have met amazing women since my breakup, some very beautiful kind hearted and down to earth girls who are girlfriend material.

 

For the first 6 months i always convinced myself i wasn't ready. I needed time. But here i am meeting new people, amazing people and using the same excuses that i'm not ready for a relationship.

 

I find the smallest excuse, weather it be she smokes, she's been with someone i know mutually, or even just the age difference.

 

I always remember having this same issue before i met my ex.

 

I'm 23 now, and i'd like to be able to let my self live and love again.

 

not to say i haven't been trying.

 

People say, when you're ready, or when the right one comes, you'll know.

 

Maybe i have just become so used to the fact that i like being alone.

 

then on the other hand i wish i had that someone again.

 

i'm not grieving over my ex anymore.. i just can't seem to hold feelings for anyone. and there has been 10-15 girls in the picture that i have seen since.

 

i wonder if anyone can relate to this?

[Roadkill007]

Honestly the best thing you can do right now is live for yourself. You're still young and don't have to take things that seriously. That said, you should definitely give it a go when you meet someone who you feel initially that it may work with, but without immediate thoughts of what might happen years down the road. You're still young enough that it shouldn't be a priority to settle when you're thinking about a budding relationship. Kind of feels like you're getting emotional cold feet, and that's fine. Just don't communicate otherwise to whoever you're dating. Misleading is not nice.

[grkBoy]

When I was 35, I ended up feeling very burned in the dating scene.

 

Best to take some time for you. Put dating on the back burner and do things to enjoy life. Fulfill yourself and make yourself happy being alone.

 

I can't explain why it happens, but you'll then meet someone you'll end up clicking with and thus lowering your guard to.

[Lani]

Of course you will be ready.

And all those people that tell you when the right one comes along you'll know, well, they're right.

 

Don't overthink this. Just live your life, and enjoy what comes along.

You say that you were like this before you met your ex, so it's obviously worked out for you in the past.

 

Hang in there, it'll happen when it should.