Author jennaflorrie Posted January 7, 2014 Author Share Posted January 7, 2014 jenna, please understand that people like him don't - can't - change just because they want to. They need serious, long-term, professional mental help. Sure. Of course. Its good that he acknowledges what harm he has done. He is trying to get on with his daughter. I am wary, naturally. He will stay right where he is. Trust has been broken too many times. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jennaflorrie Posted January 7, 2014 Author Share Posted January 7, 2014 During the holidays - did you spend it with your kids only or did you include him in your gathering? Thankfully, that was easy.....I worked Christmas Eve night...he worked Christmas day and Boxing day - long days....so problem solved. I was very worried about it, but the shiftwork came in useful after all. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jennaflorrie Posted January 7, 2014 Author Share Posted January 7, 2014 Shockingly....a friend of mine has separated from her husband. She was so supportive of me and was herself trapped in a miserable marriage. She didn't think her H would let her go, but before Christmas HE asked for a divorce. They are in the process of selling their home. I think she has it a bit easier in a way. Her H wants a divorce. She wants out. It is more difficult in my situation where you H declares undying love for you and will not let go. Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 You're not a possession. It's not UP to him if he lets you go. The judge will make that clear to him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 You're not a possession. It's not UP to him if he lets you go. The judge will make that clear to him. And your actions can send him a clear message more than a judge. Any holiday that comes - you can make it perfectly clear to him that he's not spending it anywhere near you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted January 20, 2014 Share Posted January 20, 2014 Any update? I'm wondering if you moved and are enforcing your personal boundaries to move forward in a positive and healthy manner for yourself? Link to post Share on other sites
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