Normella Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Hi everyone! I'm a newbie! -waves- Anywho, so I've never been in an "interracial" relationship(I use it in quotes because I'm Latin American and we're not really considered a race, but you know what I mean), but it's not because I was opposed to it; it's just something that never happened lol..but yea, so I've been in this relationship for almost 5 months now and it's honestly been the best thing ever. Call me a whore, but I've dated over 20 guys(i didn't sleep with all of them but it looks bad, heh) and none have compared to this. I've never been the long term type either, you know? He's absolutely awesome. He's Persian, and i'm South American. His family isn't very religious at all and his oldest sister was in an 11 year long relationship with a black guy and they have a kid together. So, asking if it's okay to marry him on his part sounds a bit silly...but still. I want to know if anyone knows about the persian culture and if it's a really horrible thing to marry outside the race? We totally love each other and we both have talked marriage(soon, I know, but sometimes it happens that way). Does anyone have any knowledge about this stuff? I've never even brought anything like that up with him, but maybe I should? I asked a lot of questions..heh, sorry! Link to post Share on other sites
Honesty Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Race should not matter if you love someone or care about that person. It's true that sometimes there will be differences, but that should not be an obstacle. If he's a good guy that is all that matters. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Normella Posted September 14, 2004 Author Share Posted September 14, 2004 Well of course race shouldn't matter. I'll be the first person to tell ya that! But I'm talking about culture-wise and how strict some are, you know? I totally respect the differences of a culture, just like I'd want people to respect mine, so I wanna know if it would be okay to talk to him about it and maybe ask him about the issues. I've heard people who are Persian say that Persian men should ONLY marry persian women because of their tradition or something. He's never mentioned anything like this at all(he's never even dated a persian woman), but it's something that just BOGGLES my mind! lol Link to post Share on other sites
Honesty Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 Yeah, your parents culture might be very different from his parents. Obviously not dating a persian woman is not such a big deal because he's dating you, right? Ask him about his traditions and tell him about yours and maybe that way you will learn more about each other. You said it yourself that his family is not that into the religion. I'm sure if there were an issue you would know by now Link to post Share on other sites
Author Normella Posted September 14, 2004 Author Share Posted September 14, 2004 Very true. I'm just such a worrywart sometimes. I create problems because I don't want them to surprise me later on, heh. Thank you for the wise words, though! Link to post Share on other sites
Honesty Posted September 14, 2004 Share Posted September 14, 2004 You are welcome! Link to post Share on other sites
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