Woggle Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 To those who swore they would never marry again or at all what made you change your mind. After my divorce I actually said I would rather pour acid down my throat than ever get married and at the time I meant it. I was so glad to have that drama out of my life that I never wanted to go back to it again but then I met my wife. Of course she is gorgeous but that by itself is not nearly enough. What made me want to marry her is that she is the first women I have ever been with that has shown the same love and loyalty that my closest friends display. I wouldn't say unconditional because she would never tolerate abuse, cheating and general mistreatment but as long as I do right by her she is loyal as hell. She stuck with me even after my ex shot at us. To me nobody man or woman should make a commitment as big as marriage without thing kind of love and devotion from their partner and they should show it in return. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 I haven't changed my mind about marriage but I do acknowledge and support your evolved criteria and essentially have taken that on for myself. So, my 'mind' about marriage remains constant but I've changed my criteria regarding whom I'll consider for marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 Post divorce, while there was no swearing of never again, I wasn't certain the institution was something for me. What changed my mind was meeting my husband. The lyrics to , explains everything. No halo but a rock solid man who willingly stands back to back with me. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted April 4, 2013 Share Posted April 4, 2013 For me, it took being in the dating pool for 23+ years... I had long-term relationships (one was 11 years) after my divorce, but even then - as loving as those relationships were - I knew in my heart they were not lifelong relationships. It took being with someone who not only "got me," but fully appreciated the whole package that was "me." With the others, there was always this thing I had to do on my own (my art), or that thing he would not care about (whatever books my interest me at any given time). Now, we have such a symbiotic care for one another that I am genuinely interested in his profession and he is genuinely interested in the art I am creating. We go to bookstores together and share what we are reading. We debate which concerts we are going to go to (instead of me going alone). And while we still have necessarily alone time, there is nothing in our lives that is relegated to "his interests" or "my interests" that segregate us. Our philosophies on life and how to deal with people meld and it is my first completely open and frankly honest relationship. And I am going to be 50 next year. It took me that long to find someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Nyla Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 My husband and I both said that we would never get married. What made me change my mind is that my husband doesn't treat me the way I was afraid of. He doesn't treat me like a maid or cheat on me like the husbands I grew up seeing. I don't feel like I had to give up my identity or freedom to be with him. My husband simply believed he was too independent and solitary to marry, which is why he waited until he was 36. He had commitment issues and he used to be very cold. I warmed him up. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparty97 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 "She stuck with me even after my ex shot at us." Your ex shot at you? Wow...you know how to pick 'em. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Woggle Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 "She stuck with me even after my ex shot at us." Your ex shot at you? Wow...you know how to pick 'em. I picked much better this time around. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparty97 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 I picked much better this time around. Not a better shot I hope. Link to post Share on other sites
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