Author carteblanche Posted April 5, 2013 Author Share Posted April 5, 2013 I agree. But you're missing the point of the OP's post. It's supposed to be a lesson to all those to keep no contact and learn indifference, so when the ex comes back they say haha not a chance. Its supposed to be empowering saying that no contact snd moving on can work. Its not a post of what if this happens and they come back, its a look I got over them and they did come back but I wasnt bothered and told them where to go, that is tje real POWER Exactly! This thread isn't about your ex coming back so you can be together - this is about getting to a place of such strength that you'd never take them back if they did come back. Link to post Share on other sites
westjames111 Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Well, it's never happened to me. Dumpers (in my experience anyway) just move on to new pastures, so it's best just to get on with your life. My recent ex - I don't want her back anyway - is heavily in denial (default setting for "cheaters"). She was unwilling/unable to take responsibility for her actions at the BU, and, I'm not holding my breath waiting for there to be a "Road to Damascus" moment there. Wow I guess this is what my ex is doing. That kind of cleared things up for me. This explains why she points the finger at me for being the bad person even though she cheated and left me.. Now she tells me I am in the wrong. Going back to the subject of this thread I don't know if she will come "crawling" back but her still reaching out to me even though I don't reply shows me she isn't happy or she wouldn't worry about me. I think maybe time will show her what she has done. If not, good riddance. Link to post Share on other sites
Seachelle1 Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 I only want him to come back to prove that I'm worth something. How pathetic is that? I don't even want to be with him, I just want him to stroke my ego and cuddle me. No, it's best at this point that he listen to his friends who are telling him to go NC. For me, it's the very best. It probably is for him as well. Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 I only want him to come back to prove that I'm worth something. How pathetic is that? I don't even want to be with him, I just want him to stroke my ego and cuddle me. No, it's best at this point that he listen to his friends who are telling him to go NC. For me, it's the very best. It probably is for him as well. Its actually not pathetic at all.... I think many people are more broken up from being dumped, not because they really miss the other person, but their ego and self esteem is pretty much shot to hell. Restoring that would be quite satisfying!! TFOY 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Crawling back would insinuate a regret on the dumpees part. To hear of those that have experienced this and how they dealt with it I think would be helpful. It does not purport to say it would initiate a reconciliation. Its to say you are coming back to me after everything you have put me through? **** off!! Its a strrngthening reaffirmation imo It's still not a good thread. It will give people who are still hoping for their exes to come back a lot of false hope. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rebecca1134 Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 I've had it happen and I've done it as well. He's always been the dumper and I the dumpee. He dumped me years ago, we both hooked up with others, he ends up contacting me saying how much better I am blahblahblah. We get back together. He dumps me again. Few months go by and I start dating someone else and so does he. He starts pursuing the **** out of me, begging me to hang out...we end up cheating on both the people we are dating, then dump them and get back together. Fast forward to the present, he dumps me again, and goes back to the girl he was dating that he cheated on. Its been a few months and I'm not sure if hes coming back again or not. UGH!! What a ****ed up ride. I guess my point here is to learn from my mistakes. The cycle seems to keep repeating itself until you finally decide you are done. Deep down I do want him to come crawling back. The human brain is sick. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Mack05 Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 I agree. But you're missing the point of the OP's post. It's supposed to be a lesson to all those to keep no contact and learn indifference, so when the ex comes back they say haha not a chance. Its supposed to be empowering saying that no contact snd moving on can work. Its not a post of what if this happens and they come back, its a look I got over them and they did come back but I wasnt bothered and told them where to go, that is the real POWER Real Power is knowing it's your ex's loss. The real power is not giving a monkey's nutsack if they come back or not. Real power is living your life well. Look at the thread replies. You have Amelie and singme2sleep two girls who are completely stuck in a rut and can't move forward, talking about "there is always a chance" and "I hope he does come back". I would love to know what is 'empowering' about that.... While the OP may have wanted this thread to be about 'empowerment' that was never going to be the case with a thread title like this. Not when the wounds are still so raw for so many Loveshack posters. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Real Power is knowing it's your ex's loss. The real power is not giving a monkey's nutsack if they come back or not. Real power is living your life well. Look at the thread replies. You have Amelie and singme2sleep two girls who are completely stuck in a rut and can't move forward, talking about "there is always a chance" and "I hope he does come back". I would love to know what is 'empowering' about that.... While the OP may have wanted this thread to be about 'empowerment' that was never going to be the case with a thread title like this. Not when the wounds are still so raw for so many Loveshack posters. Im doing well. 6 months NC. Unfortunately I still have the occasional fantasy of her coming back so i can tell her to take a hike. just my ego i guess. hope this goes away and i just dont give a monkey nutsack soon! lol rock on! Cav 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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