learntobreathe Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Hi, its been 6 years I dated this guy "B". He was a nice guy and has been with me since high school. Everything went absolutely well until the LDR happened. Before that, I had a history with him. 3 years in the rship, I did not exactly cheat on him but I was with another guy and I did tell him but he couldnt accept it. After the guy and I broke up, he wanted me back. But he told me the day we broke up he had never forgiven me and has always felt that way ever since I got back with him. I am confused as before we got back together, he promised he would forgive and forget. Afterall I gave him the choice if he wants to be with me and he asked for it. I did not beg to get back with him. His mum isnt supportive as well and pretty much a racist towards me. I feel really hurt as she would rather have him with his friends than to talk to me. After the LDR happened, I started to realise he was lying and used his mum as an excuse of flirting with other girls so that his mum wouldn't know that he is with me. It's till the point, he started to block me on all social media sites that updates me with things he does. He told me its because his mum made him do it. He broke up with me one day and left me trembling and crying but I swallowed my tears and tried dealing with it but he didn't let me by constantly smsing me. I did the No Contact but it still hurts me so badly. The last time I saw was a girl hugging him and calling him her husband. It stabbed me right in my heart but the girl told her friends he was just his best friend. His mum is moving back and away from him and he told me that I would hear from him as soon as she leaves but I saw him making plans by accepting invites from parties. He also acts differently when he's around his friends especially the guys. He just keeps lying to me and I try my best not to make excuses to cover his flaws as I always trust the people I love and now he is just abusing the trust. So please give me some advice and thanks for lending me your eyes and ears Link to post Share on other sites
bob the brave Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 It's pretty obvious you guys still care for each other, but there is some unresolved anger, jealousy, whatever issues that need to be brought out into the open. You need to sit down and open up and be frank about stating exactly what it is you each expect from the relationship and what problems you are having. You each need to better understand the other and be able to talk together instead of playing games. Personally I think he is too close to his mother, but there are a lot of guys like that. That dosen't make them bad guys, but it is usually and issue for the gf or wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Author learntobreathe Posted April 6, 2013 Author Share Posted April 6, 2013 He pretty much is playing with my feelings as he comes and go and he flirts with other girls. He even made excuses by blocking me on his social media stuff but my friends told me he has been flirting and all. He is doing fine without me, but what really hurts is he enjoys giving me the false hope that he is coming back for me by telling me wedding plans and all. And yes, I agree he has kept it in him angry and all but when I confront him about it, he will lie and say I'm cool with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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