BomBuns Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 I know a lot of people say "You'lll just know, it hits you like a brick!" But can anyone else let me in on this feeling or the mental process you went through that made you realie they're the one. Link to post Share on other sites
Sparty97 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 I know a lot of people say "You'lll just know, it hits you like a brick!" But can anyone else let me in on this feeling or the mental process you went through that made you realie they're the one. I must have been high or drunk, because I was wrong Link to post Share on other sites
Author BomBuns Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 damn really! that sucks man XD But see that's why I'm asking this question because getting married to someone is a bigger deal than people seem to realize before they get married. :0 Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 In my experience, this is a conclusion that is made after the fact, when things work out and you spend a lifetime with that person or that person becomes "the one who got away." Marriage is not a guarantee that this person is "the one." That is, you cannot know for certain who was your "the one" until you are on your deathbed and looking back on your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
all_cats_rgray Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Everyone that has told me they just knew. Divorce with in a few years. It's called infatuation. Relationships take work. Who would have know, good things don't just happen. You have to make them happen. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 It was how we got through the tougher times together that convinced me. When life got hard, and we got stronger and closer, I knew that he was the person I wanted by my side for my whole life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Poppy fields Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 We connected on almost every level, had awesome, mind blowing sex, and he was the most genuine person I had ever met. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 (edited) intuition, is that "you'll just know moment" only you can decide who you want, but if you're having second thoughts, i mean your here wondering presumably, so you need to probe him gently, about what your relationship will be, have a chat with him, i mean day to day, what will your shared life be like? if you can't communicate now and sort it out, idk, you might not ever be able to sort out anything much Edited April 7, 2013 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
DazedConfusedEtc Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 (edited) sorry made a mistake! Edited April 7, 2013 by DazedConfusedEtc mistake Link to post Share on other sites
Thegameoflife Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 The one? The truth is that it's fairytale nonesense that there is one. The reality is that there are many. For me, there are thousands of women right in my own city, and millions around the world that I could make something work long-term with and be happy. It's not about finding the one, but finding someone who will put up with you and all your quirks, and love you regardless. Sometimes it doesn't pan out, but new opportunities are all around us to find someone that will. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
2.50 a gallon Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I had been in a disastrous marriage that left me determined to never fall in love again. Fifteen years happy years go by, where I was more than happy to live alone. I had a great social and sex life. I could do what I wanted (hobbies, self interests), when I wanted, and with whomever I wanted. Second date, first kiss, and my thick, high, armored walls melted away, for the first time in years I realized that I was lonely. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 (edited) The one? The truth is that it's fairytale nonesense that there is one. The reality is that there are many. For me, there are thousands of women right in my own city, and millions around the world that I could make something work long-term with and be happy. It's not about finding the one, but finding someone who will put up with you and all your quirks, and love you regardless. Sometimes it doesn't pan out, but new opportunities are all around us to find someone that will. There are a lot of social and cultural fallacies and myths about finding the "one" facitliated by BS Hollywerid and such. And there are a lot of variables that go into making a LTR / marriage work. One of my absolute turths about marriage / LTR's that I know to be true by personal experienc is that when we marry? We're not just marrying one person? We're actually marrying three different people! There's the one we think we're marrying! There's the one we're actually marrying! And then there's the one that comes about as a result of having married your sorry, crazy, strange azz! Relatioinships ~ marriage? Easy to get into, but can be hard to maintain and evn harder to get out of? The best bet is to just be yourself and to have full disclousre and honesty about who you are any and all things about yourself. Doesn't matter that you've got strange habits, are a social or cultural misfit (used as subjective terms BTW) whatever ~ there to is someone out there that is looking for someone just like you! As in "Where have you been all of my life!" It also has to do with maturity, growth and life experience. What you want and seek in someone in your twenties is totally oppossite of that of what you wanting and seeking ~ and even needing later in life? And then its just gender based as well. Most any pre-teen or teen age girls can give you a very explicit list of what they want and need in a husband, regarless of how un-realistic. And although most boys and grown men can give you just as explicit descriptoin to the very fine detail of what their idea car is? Most can't or don't even have a clue other than she be a HBX10 (Hot Bade X 10) and that she's willing to have sex with Me! I can give you the benefit of my years and experience though? It has a hell of a lot more to do with what's between a woman's ears than what it has to do with what's between their legs! Mrs. Gunny is the gal I've been looking for all of my life. She's no Playboy bunny at 51, but she's MY Playboy Bunny, And she and I are totally and completely compatiable ~ but what is all the more? Complimentary to one another mentally, emotionally, sexually pyschologoically in many, many ways. It shouldn't be based solely on looks, nor apperance. If your lucky, and I do mean damned lucky, you work long and hard at it all day ~ each and everyday of your life ~ keep and maintain your focus ~ your 'eye on the ball' and you end up being married to the same person for forty, fifty, sixty years? What your going to end up with isn't some Hotbabe X 10 but more like someone that belongs in a nursing home. And if and when you get there? You'll then know for sure and certain that she's the ONE, when you're seventy - eighty something doing the low crawl past the nurses's station to get to her room so you and she can :love: :love: in the bathroom! And the nurses come busting in the room with the "Crash Cart' like an LA SWAT team because you've set off the heart and blood pressure monitors ~ alarms! That's when you'll know for sure and certain? She's "Tha' ONE!" Edited April 8, 2013 by Gunny376 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I know a lot of people say "You'lll just know, it hits you like a brick!" But can anyone else let me in on this feeling or the mental process you went through that made you realie they're the one. I knew the moment I first heard his voice but I am not sure how common this really is. I have heard similar things said by others in the faith who had been praying for their highest love to come into their life and by one non religious friend who thought she was in for a one night stand but never left his place in the morning. They have been married now for over 30 years. For me, H simply appeared one day and that was that. We both just knew and time has proved to make our relationship stronger, even though we have had seen terrible times come and go. Take care, Eve x Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Everyone that has told me they just knew. Divorce with in a few years. It's called infatuation. Relationships take work. Who would have know, good things don't just happen. You have to make them happen. I agree with you and january. However, I think maybe the question it gets at, is "What made you decide, out of everyone else you've been infatuated with/in love with to this point, that THIS person, should be the one you take the next step of marriage with?" I think that is a valid question, despite marriages not working out. But still...there is something about this person (for some) why they choose them "above all others" for that time period at least. Link to post Share on other sites
worldgonewrong Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 Q. "What made you realize they're the one?" A. (for me) When you can look the other person in the eye and feel a deep sense of TRUTH and TRUST between the two of you. When you realize that the act of lovemaking extends far outside before you even enter the bedroom. When you regard that person truly as your best friend and lover, with no schism or equivocation separating the two in your mind. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
miss_jaclynrae Posted April 9, 2013 Share Posted April 9, 2013 As someone who is divorced, I can still say that the connection I had with my EXH was one that is rare. We didn't work out, but life happens and people change. That feeling though stood through a ton of ****, and the bonds of marriage can only handle so much strain. I have and do believe in that connection. They may not be the one forever, but since nothing is guaranteed, that connection is still something I will not settle to marry again without. It is intense, and insane, and ultimately a beautiful feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
cocorico Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I don't trust easily, and I did not believe in love. I had been around the block a few times and I was pretty clear on what I wanted -and what my boundaries were. He ticked all the boxes, and after I spent a long time checking him out thoroughly, I decided to approach him. The chemistry was spectacular, but we "connected" on many other levels too. I liked how multi-faceted he was, that I was always discovering new things about him, and that he was always growing, learning, changing, unwilling to stagnate. His core values aligned with mine perfectly. He was easy to be around and I did not feel crowded by him. I found myself willing to trust him, and we fell in love. Ten years on, he still fascinates me, and I've not had a moment's regret. Even if it all goes pear-shaped tomorrow, it would have been abundantly worth it! Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I don't trust easily nor do I like sharing my problems with others, no matter how close they are... But when I not only felt I could but actually wanted to share my problems with him that's when I knew he was the one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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