tuxedo cat Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 especially when he is sick. What a selfish jerk! Eh, that would have been the bare minimum of politeness, especially since she was the one who reached out to him and was being comforting. This guy seems insensitive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 Just send it now and get it over with. He is sleeping now he wouldn't respond the best times to get him are like 12-1 and after 4, if I send it after 4 I will sit in my class and worry the entire time then think of an excuse to go to the bathroom and check Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 Yes we talked yesterday (I said that)Just went back. Sounds like he responded the day before and that he needed to think about things. Honour his request. Leave him alone. Give him time to think things through. I know I should wear the braces but you be 22 and have a hard time dating and then tell me you would wear them, as if I don't get enough stares or enough guys turning me down.. would you date the girl hobbling around with leg braces and a cane.. I doubt it.Wear your braces. I'm not kidding. Dating is nothing compared to destroying your mobility for the rest of your life. Don't be stupid. Yeah, I'll take the infraction since no other word will do to describe not wearing prescribed braces. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
tuxedo cat Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 IB, when did you send him the text asking whether he had thought things over? And have you heard from him in any capacity since? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 Just went back. Sounds like he responded the day before and that he needed to think about things. Honour his request. Leave him alone. Give him time to think things through. Wear your braces. I'm not kidding. Dating is nothing compared to destroying your mobility for the rest of your life. Don't be stupid. Yeah, I'll take the infraction since no other word will do to describe not wearing prescribed braces. They are these really thick braces. I actually have 2 I have AFO braces (just google it) they are leopard and kind of cool, they can be covered with pants. I also have knee braces that I can't put under pants. I know I need to wear them my physical therapist tells me all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 IB, when did you send him the text asking whether he had thought things over? And have you heard from him in any capacity since? I sent it yesterday and no I haven't heard from him at all today Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 I know I should wear the braces but you be 22 and have a hard time dating and then tell me you would wear them, as if I don't get enough stares or enough guys turning me down.. would you date the girl hobbling around with leg braces and a cane.. I doubt it. Please wear the brace. You have so much life ahead of you. So much romance to experience. Believe me, you won't want to feel less attractive - not to mention less active- when you're 36. You will always want to feel beautiful. And, you will enjoy playing with your children all the more if you aren't in a chair (not that being in a chair stops you from that, but just that if you can at all avoid it, do it!). A friend from undergrad had to wear braces. She's married to a man who not only didn't mind it, he actually liked feeling like he could help her. Be the best person you can be to yourself. Someone else will find it attractive. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 They are these really thick braces. I actually have 2 I have AFO braces (just google it) they are leopard and kind of cool, they can be covered with pants. I also have knee braces that I can't put under pants. I know I need to wear them my physical therapist tells me all the time.So what. Wear them. NOW. This is ridiculous. You're not a child. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sivok Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 A text takes less than a minute of my time. If I was really into a girl, being busy is absolutely no excuse. Even if I somehow had a day that's so packed I didn't have a few minutes to call, I'd still have her on my mind all the time and toss a text back and forth while walking to different destinations. It just seems like he's not that into you... He's just too much of a coward to call it off. Follow tuxedo's advice and send a blunt text showing you aren't a needy woman who can be strung along for weeks like you have been. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Isabella82 Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 I've read all your posts and I can relate to your anxiety and wanting to settle down and get married etc... However, life doesn't always wind up the way you have planned and their are certain things that are beyond your control. Someone said it earlier but I found my 20's to be hard and I dealt with a lot guys that weren't ready to settle down. It does get better but you have to be patient. About your CP I can see your urgency and your thread would've had a lot more helpful responses if you had mention that earlier. Are your leg braces something you can just wear at home? This way you are at least wearing them half of the time? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 I've read all your posts and I can relate to your anxiety and wanting to settle down and get married etc... However, life doesn't always wind up the way you have planned and their are certain things that are beyond your control. Someone said it earlier but I found my 20's to be hard and I dealt with a lot guys that weren't ready to settle down. It does get better but you have to be patient. About your CP I can see your urgency and your thread would've had a lot more helpful responses if you had mention that earlier. Are your leg braces something you can just wear at home? This way you are at least wearing them half of the time? I could do that, I never thought of it much because I don't walk around a lot at home but I definitely could. Link to post Share on other sites
Isabella82 Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 I just google AFO braces and noticed that you can hide them under your pants. So, why don't you? Does it make you walk differently? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 I just google AFO braces and noticed that you can hide them under your pants. So, why don't you? Does it make you walk differently? I can hide those the knee braces I can't. I walk a million times slower and it probably looks totally weird but it is just super slow. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 Wait... So ten dates, less than 2 months and you are acting like this? Says the girl whose own relationship progressed at lightening speed and was super serious in 2 months? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 Ok I need all of you to come to a consensus on what I am going to do. A text or a call? Tomorrow or Thursday? (I am going to try to wait as long as possible but I am so anxious to just get it over with) I think I am going to say what Tuxedo said I also like what tbf said because maybe he does need time to think, I mean he has strep, he just started a new job, I definitely didn't help his stress levels (even though I think I was fairly reasonable with my request). I think he has had enough time to think, he has to know I am pretty serious because today is the first day since we met on OKC in January, that we haven't talked. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 I would do my homework tomorrow and Thursday. I do homework allday Link to post Share on other sites
tuxedo cat Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 Ok I need all of you to come to a consensus on what I am going to do. A text or a call? Tomorrow or Thursday? (I am going to try to wait as long as possible but I am so anxious to just get it over with) I think I am going to say what Tuxedo said I also like what tbf said because maybe he does need time to think, I mean he has strep, he just started a new job, I definitely didn't help his stress levels (even though I think I was fairly reasonable with my request). I think he has had enough time to think, he has to know I am pretty serious because today is the first day since we met on OKC in January, that we haven't talked. Ideally I think you should wait until Thursday so you can feel assured that you gave him enough time. I think this is more than enough time--he's had three weeks!--but I want you to not obsess over whether or not you did later. But if you're dying of anxiety do it tomorrow. If my read on this guy is right calling will just push him away further and you are less likely to get a definitive response. Btw, I understand exactly how you feel. Try to get a little sleep if you can. Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 I can't imagine having conversation flow so perfectly with someone else. I am just like done. I can't explain it. You can't explain it because you're being irrational and illogical and your subconscious mind even knows this. You're being dramatic, end of story. You're being over emotional and putting way too much emphasis on another human being. You went on 10 dates with someone. In no way shape or form was this a path to marriage. You're supposed to get to know each other slowly, not just jump down his throat acting like you're his world. And STOP messaging other guys? What about yourself are you so afraid of facing? That's the only reason I can think you're so against being alone. You're scared to actually face what's in the mirror. Instead you look for validation from external sources. I think talking with a therapist on a weekly basis will be good for you. You'll learn how to really see yourself from an outside perspective and how to think objectively and not so irrationally. Someone else said it already. Meetup.com. Make an account. Go have fun. That site is great. Link to post Share on other sites
tuxedo cat Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 IB--did you ever text him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 IB--did you ever text him? Nope not yet Link to post Share on other sites
nessaaa Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 He's being a dick. All you're asking is for some closure.. Block your number and call him? Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 Give it a week or two and if he doesn't respond by then, consider it over and move on. This type of forced space taking, leaving you waiting for a response when there wasn't any fight, is a great way to gauge whether or not the guy's compatible and cares enough to continue fueling an emotionally functional relationship. When a guy's already fading from the relationship, the more you push, the more he'll run. Push too hard, cornering a fading guy and he will lash back at you with cruelty. But in all fairness, if you corner anyone, they're going to come at you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 He's being a dick. All you're asking is for some closure.. Block your number and call him? I called left a message and now its done I feel relieved but if I don't hear from him ill be sad but I mean its whatever I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 what did you say in your message? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 10, 2013 Author Share Posted April 10, 2013 what did you say in your message? Basically I need to know where we stand. If you don't want to continue this tell me so we can move on, if I don't hear from you soon ill take that as its over. Basically that was it Link to post Share on other sites
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