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[cheeky]

i am 19 years old and i am going out with a girl two years older than me .year ago i kissed another girl confronted her the same day she we worked everything out .two months

 

ago i became jealous of her having guys as friends witch

 

i always were ok with. i had my mistakes and i am trying

 

to be a better person. she met this guy and she had a crush on him she even kissed him when she confronted me i forgave her.she wanted to go out with him maybe he is older than

 

she is and has two computer companies and he has alot of

 

money. she is at this moment back with me couple of days ago another guy friend of her asked her out that i am ok with. i dont know what am going to do if it was this guy.

 

i know that i am secure and not jealous. couple of days ago she told me she had no feelings for me mainly my falt

 

she still loves me that i know i just need to get that flame back i love her and would do anything for her .

 

so am i going nuts or just of my line

[Nic]

This girl sounds like is she is either confused, or playing games with your head. it is not fair on you at all for her to get back with you, but at the same time, she can tell you she has no feelings for you.

 

THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT. you made a mistake by kissing another girl, you were honest about it, and told her you want to work things out with her. you know it was a mistake and it probably made you realise just how much you love your girlfriend. you don't have to try to be a better person. you already are a great person, who just happens to have a made a mistake and can see that. don't let this girl make you feel bad about it when she has done the same thing to you. that is hypocritical.

 

i don't know if i'm jumping the gun here, but i wonder if your girlfriend tries to make you uncomfortable with her guy friends. she could be insecure and that's why she's doing this (if i'm right that is). i'm just sensing that you've let her make you feel like this all your fault and that you're not good enough. you are good enough, do don't beat yourself up about it when you have no reason to.

 

you obviously want her to yourself, but she seems to have no problem accepting other dates from other men. that is not fair on you, and you don't need to put yourself through this pain.

 

confront her and ask her if she really wants to be with you. you are only going to sell yourself short if she doesn't. there is no point hanging on to her, just because you love her. because if you want diffrent things, nothing will ever work and you'll end up getting very hurt. it will be painful to ask this, but it will be for your benefit. you NEED to know if she wants to be with you.

 

you need to find out where you stand in her life, and if she wants to be with you. i think there is a lot of insecurity here, and that needs to be worked on too. it is not healthy to bring a lot of insecurities into a relationship. they need to be worked on before anything else can develop with her, or with someone else.

i am 19 years old and i am going out with a girl two years older than me .year ago i kissed another girl confronted her the same day she we worked everything out .two months ago i became jealous of her having guys as friends witch i always were ok with. i had my mistakes and i am trying to be a better person. she met this guy and she had a crush on him she even kissed him when she confronted me i forgave her.she wanted to go out with him maybe he is older than she is and has two computer companies and he has alot of money. she is at this moment back with me couple of days ago another guy friend of her asked her out that i am ok with. i dont know what am going to do if it was this guy. i know that i am secure and not jealous. couple of days ago she told me she had no feelings for me mainly my falt she still loves me that i know i just need to get that flame back i love her and would do anything for her . so am i going nuts or just of my line

[Tony T]

Sorry, dude. This girl is way too young for a long term relationship with you or anybody else in the world. She is just a child.

 

Most girls her age are fickle and flakey. That's just the way they are and there's little that can be done about that. Trying to keep her under your thumb will be an impossible task.

 

She is very much wanting to see what's out there, to meet different people...something most all girls her age want to do. The more you try to keep her from it, the more you will alienate her and piss her off.

 

She's going to do it, whether you like it or not so you may as well just resolve yourself to it.

 

You're not going nuts and feeling jealous about a girl you love doing these things is not out of line. However, you have got to understand her immaturity and the fact that she is in no way ready for a permanent or long term relationship. You have got to give her the space to do what she needs to do.

 

Rather than drive yourself crazy, my vote is to set her free for now. Otherwise, you are going to have serious problems on your hands and ultimately she will break up with you anyway.

 

If the two of you were meant to be together, she will end up back in your arms in the future. But if you care about yourself at all, you won't want to hang around while she does her guy thing right now.

 

While I'm at it, my bet is the YOU should be able to find lots of ladies you are attracted to as well...and maybe one of them is more likely to want to be devoted to you, even for a while. This chick you write about seemed to be that way, mostly for several years before she got antsy pants. Consider yourself lucky.