PJKino Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Attraction at first sight is overrated. Regardless, if you disagree with me and believe being short has no impact on attraction at first sight, great for you. Why are you on all these height threads again? i never said i disagree i just find it disheartening that almo7t all women are not attracted to short men physically.. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 i never said i disagree i just find it disheartening that almo7t all women are not attracted to short men physically.. Yes, there are certain features that lend themselves well to attraction at first sight, and there are other features that become more prominent when you actually talk to someone for a while. The latter is much better IMO. As I have said, most of the short dudes I know with balanced lives have no issues finding quality Rs. Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Yes, there are certain features that lend themselves well to attraction at first sight, and there are other features that become more prominent when you actually talk to someone for a while. The latter is much better IMO. As I have said, most of the short dudes I know with balanced lives have no issues finding quality Rs. Well then men have a much broader range of what they find attractive..youre implying basically almost all women have the same tastes in what the find physically attrative when it comes to height Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Well then men have a much broader range of what they find attractive..youre implying basically almost all women have the same tastes in what the find physically attrative when it comes to height You're reading way too much into this because you want to affirm a belief that you're caught up in. No, of course 'all' women don't have the same tastes in what they find attractive. Neither do 'all' men. However, it's quite safe to say that only a minority of men will find a 200 lbs woman attractive at first sight, and only a minority of women will find a 5'2" man attractive at first sight. Is that really hard to relate to? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PJKino Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 You're reading way too much into this because you want to affirm a belief that you're caught up in. No, of course 'all' women don't have the same tastes in what they find attractive. Neither do 'all' men. However, it's quite safe to say that only a minority of men will find a 200 lbs woman attractive at first sight, and only a minority of women will find a 5'2" man attractive at first sight. Is that really hard to relate to? you made it seem like you were talking about any man under average height not just extremely short.. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 you made it seem like you were talking about any man under average height not just extremely short.. ... I'm not responding anymore until you can actually hold a conversation instead of constantly nitpick at details as they pertain to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author silicone Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 That could be for other reasons. I don't think it's a limitation and I do fine. Before joining forums, I had no knowledge of how (seemingly) important height was. I mean, there were a few rare occasions growing up as a kid where people would call me "shorty", but nothing that left a lasting impression on my psyche. Nothing that made me feel bad about being short. I knew being tall was advantageous, maybe not so much in dating, but I would assume most people would prefer to be taller than shorter. Then I come on here, and see women gushing about height. You could imagine my surprise as I have never seen or heard this in real life. Now, for that, I am glad I'm short. If being short makes dating harder, than I am more than happy to overcome yet another obstacle and prove to people anything is possible. My first exposure to this was searching on Twitter, yeah it was much more brutal than anything I've read on forums. This forum is one of the last where I joined, the newest being Reddit. I unfortunately, don't follow the same sentiment as you; I'd classify overweight being an obstacle, but not height. This situation has proven to be anything but beneficial. The depression caused by it forced me to quit wrestling, something if I return to, I'll never be able to pick up where I left off. That said, are you a 5'2" guy? Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 (edited) I did wrestling. That was good, and fun. Watching two men grapple on a mat? Probably doesn't turn women on. Does turn some men on though. I was at a good advantage: my heavier muscular weight compared to my small frame made me more agile than my slightly taller opponents, especially if they dehydrated themselves to enter a lower weight category. Wrestling... great agility and strength! If you'd like to tune this into a more 'macho' sport, maybe martial arts? I did judo for awhile in college, for instance. My teacher was not tall. And after the semester was over, I dated him He was pretty hot... yep. p.s. watching two men grapple on a mat sounds like fun to me! All those rippling muscles Sumo wrestling, not so much. Standard wrestling... mmm... mmmm.... especially if the prize was me, ha ha Edited April 7, 2013 by RedRobin Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 My first exposure to this was searching on Twitter, yeah it was much more brutal than anything I've read on forums. This forum is one of the last where I joined, the newest being Reddit. I unfortunately, don't follow the same sentiment as you; I'd classify overweight being an obstacle, but not height. This situation has proven to be anything but beneficial. The depression caused by it forced me to quit wrestling, something if I return to, I'll never be able to pick up where I left off. That said, are you a 5'2" guy? I'm 5'7 on my best day, and I weigh 145 lbs. I have garnered interest from all ethnicites, all heights. I dress well, I consciously developed my personality to make it more attractive to women, and I have a solid understanding of social dynamics and dating trends. That is why I do well. Oh, and I'm pretty confident. Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Lol! Relax, Fudge, relax. Link to post Share on other sites
Author silicone Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 I feel better now Before I post, have you read the thread, especially where I say that I have no trouble with gay men? Link to post Share on other sites
123321 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Height is a thing but not the sole thing, compensate. Get a good career going and work on your personality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author silicone Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 Height is a thing but not the sole thing, compensate. Get a good career going and work on your personality. The thing is, I don't see why I have to compensate. Why can't I just be normal like everyone else? I'm only 19, but I'm employed as a software developer. I didn't go to until but I am following a course and will be doing my masters very soon. Outside of work, I am a pilot, I love flying. I don't know what's wrong with my personality? Link to post Share on other sites
Author silicone Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 Wrestling... great agility and strength! If you'd like to tune this into a more 'macho' sport, maybe martial arts? I did judo for awhile in college, for instance. My teacher was not tall. And after the semester was over, I dated him He was pretty hot... yep. p.s. watching two men grapple on a mat sounds like fun to me! All those rippling muscles Sumo wrestling, not so much. Standard wrestling... mmm... mmmm.... especially if the prize was me, ha ha I've done some BJJ before, before I started wrestling, effectively. Now, I wouldn't mind going back in for you Link to post Share on other sites
123321 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 The thing is, I don't see why I have to compensate. Why can't I just be normal like everyone else? I'm only 19, but I'm employed as a software developer. I didn't go to until but I am following a course and will be doing my masters very soon. Outside of work, I am a pilot, I love flying. I don't know what's wrong with my personality? Keep doing those things, and believe me, your day will come sooner than you think. Just don't f*ck up and marry the first woman who holds your hand. *This could be a conversation with my 19 year old self. Link to post Share on other sites
Author silicone Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 I'm 5'7 on my best day, and I weigh 145 lbs. I have garnered interest from all ethnicites, all heights. I dress well, I consciously developed my personality to make it more attractive to women, and I have a solid understanding of social dynamics and dating trends. That is why I do well. Oh, and I'm pretty confident. I've only really come into contact with two ethnicities, my own and Caucasian white. I've had one from both attracted to me, both taller than me. I'm 5'2" and weigh 126lbs. I don't know if I dress well, but I am told I look sharp: my ex went wild when I wore a suit, and people often think I'm gay because dress "immaculately", actually, I just like to look good. I wear fitted clothes anyway. I don't directly come into contact with women, though I do work with women every day. I know I'm a fun and cool guy to hang out with. I haven't been callee creepy to my knowledge. Yes, I have a mild Asperger's. Link to post Share on other sites
Author silicone Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 Keep doing those things, and believe me, your day will come sooner than you think. Just don't f*ck up and marry the first woman who holds your hand. *This could be a conversation with my 19 year old self. How, if I can, develop interests? I mean, I'm pretty full: every Thursday, I help out at the local youth cadets, and I'm technically in the Voluntary Reserve training branch. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Honestly, you sound like you're pretty much set. You have a full life, a career, friends. You're 19, you had a few failed Rs. That's pretty much par by course, in fact probably above average. Good things come with time. Have patience, have confidence, continue to build you life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author silicone Posted April 7, 2013 Author Share Posted April 7, 2013 Honestly, you sound like you're pretty much set. You have a full life, a career, friends. You're 19, you had a few failed Rs. That's pretty much par by course, in fact probably above average. Good things come with time. Have patience, have confidence, continue to build you life. I wish I could. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I wish I could. Well, look at it this way; lots of tall guys have never even had a R at your age. Doesn't that make you feel ahead of the curve? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThaWholigan Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 Well, look at it this way; lots of tall guys have never even had a R at your age. Doesn't that make you feel ahead of the curve? Precisely 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted April 8, 2013 Share Posted April 8, 2013 I wish I could. Dude you're 19 most guys your age are still virgins and have never had girlfriends. Seriously you're worrying about nothing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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