Hoping for a nice first relationship

[datingtard]

Hello. Here's a little intro about me. I am a 24 yo guy, a recently graduate from uni. Compared to most my high school friends who have already started their working life, who are already in relationships with some even getting married, I am pretty much behind them in terms of experience. To begin with, I hardly socialise with people during my college/uni years. In as much as I would like to emulate my peers who are the social butterflies, I have found out that this introverted personality of mine was very ingrained. But I am still interested in people and I prefer having a few close friends rather than many acquaintances. I have a few close good friends.

 

In a standing continuum of people ahead and behind, I am glad that I am much well off compared to others who might have problems with health, education, family..etc.. but what bothers me is my past. I never really had a relationship. I still remembered having strong feelings for a crush in school many years back. It was a personal secret but my classmates knew it all which led to my embarassment. I remembered trying to impress her in studies but I never really told her I liked her or anything. Since then, I hardly even think about having girlfriends.

 

I still remembered a group conversation with the girls talking about the handsome guys in our uni. As I gave my opinion, there was this girl who asked me what I thought about my looks. It came point blank, and I still remembered telling her in a 'poised' way that I consider myself average. But the words were forced as I did not want to discredit myself. And it was like this until 2 years ago when I got a foothold in my self image. FYI, I never shaved up to that point in my life.

 

As for the natural 'guys' need', I went to the dating sites and met someone that I eventually experience it with. Her looks were not my standard and we did not have any emotional attraction at all, no romance. It was all very casual for 3 months. And I had to leave her after I graduated.

 

Do you think what I did was worth the gratification? Some people think having a fling is thrilling. I can relate to that but it kinda gets stuck in your mind. But I think what I want now is someone with mutual attraction, with whom I could have romance with and take it slow, like holding hands and stuff. I need a steady girlfriend, and I guess I want to feel how emotional bonding is like. Anyone who can share is appreciated. Have a nice day.

Edited April 7, 2013 by datingtard

[steveT95]

So you know what you want, good. Now get yourself out there and date go on dating sites, whatever, just talk to more people and one day someone will turn up that likes you for you. Not sure what else to say.

 

Oh, shavings good. Stubble is better than bum fluff!