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[cj]

i am 19 years old and i am going out with a girl two years older than me .year ago i kissed another girl confronted her the same day she we worked everything out .two months

 

ago i became jealous of her having guys as friends witch

 

i always were ok with. i had my mistakes and i am trying

 

to be a better person. she met this guy and she had a crush on him she even kissed him when she confronted me i forgave her.she wanted to go out with him maybe he is older than

 

she is and has two computer companies and he has alot of

 

money. she is at this moment back with me couple of days ago another guy friend of her asked her out that i am ok with. i dont know what am going to do if it was this guy.

 

i know that i am secure and not jealous. couple of days ago she told me she had no feelings for me mainly my falt

 

she still loves me that i know i just need to get that flame back i love her and would do anything for her .

 

so am i going nuts or just of my line

 

cj

[Tony T]

Sorry, dude. This girl is way too young for a long term relationship with you or anybody else in the world. She is just a child.

 

Most girls her age are fickle and flakey. That's just the way they are and there's little that can be done about that. Trying to keep her under your thumb will be an impossible task.

 

She is very much wanting to see what's out there, to meet different people...something most all girls her age want to do. The more you try to keep her from it, the more you will alienate her and piss her off.

 

She's going to do it, whether you like it or not so you may as well just resolve yourself to it.

 

You're not going nuts and feeling jealous about a girl you love doing these things is not out of line. However, you have got to understand her immaturity and the fact that she is in no way ready for a permanent or long term relationship. You have got to give her the space to do what she needs to do.

 

Rather than drive yourself crazy, my vote is to set her free for now. Otherwise, you are going to have serious problems on your hands and ultimately she will break up with you anyway.

 

If the two of you were meant to be together, she will end up back in your arms in the future. But if you care about yourself at all, you won't want to hang around while she does her guy thing right now.

 

While I'm at it, my bet is the YOU should be able to find lots of ladies you are attracted to as well...and maybe one of them is more likely to want to be devoted to you, even for a while. This chick you write about seemed to be that way, mostly for several years before she got antsy pants. Consider yourself lucky.

[sparkle]

If she likes this guy because he's got a lot of money,

 

you're better off with her anyway.

she wanted to go out with him maybe he is older than she is and has two computer companies and he has alot of money. she is at this moment back with me

Do you really want things to work out with her and stick by her side? She's thinking about dating other guys. She tells you she doesn't have feelings for you. But then tries to blame it on you and say because it's your fault? She's just being immature by turning it around on you.

 

You're better off without this girl. You're 19, young, SINGLE, and will meet lots of other women soon. You don't want to waste any more time on this girl because you'll be missing out on the other opportunities that await you.

 

You said you love her and will do anything for her. Will you give her space? Will you let her go? Let her go and give it some time. If she's meant for you, she'll come back.