JasonL Posted September 15, 2004 Share Posted September 15, 2004 Okay, I just turned 21 and ive been friends with this girl who is about to turn 25. We have been friends for about a year. I met her through my best friends girlfriend. They were best friends. So when my friend started going out, I would tag along and so would his girlfriend's bestfriend. Eventually we would spend allot of time together and after about 5 months we went to a movie by ourselfs, just as friends. We went to a few other movies by ourselft and I found myself hanging around her house at night alone watching t.v. and just talking. After about 8 months of knowing each other, I told her how I felt and she said that she has also been feeling this way for a long time. We both decieded to go for it. After we talked for like 3 hours, I walked her home and before she went in, I leaned in for a kiss only to get denied. She said it was too soon. So over the next month we went to out to dinner and rented movies and sat on the couch and cuddled. I noticed every time that I had to initiate the holding of hand or getting close on the couch or at the movies. If I never tried to get close to her then we would just be sitting there, she would never try to get close. This being my first relationship (loser in high school) I am nervous. I don't really know if I can just let go and open my heart. If it got denied then it would really hurt, but I would be on cloud 9 if my love was returned. 1) Can you give me advice on what to do. One of the major reasons I have not put myself out there is my low self-esteem. She is a fully educated teacher, she took 4 years at university and taught for a year and is now back for another year to get a masters. She is very beautiful, funny, and educated women. And I on the other hand have not attended university and work a low wage job at Wal-mart. I always feel, how can she be attracted to me and want to be with me. I constantly feel like I am being judged by people for what I do for a living. 2) Is this a normal feeling and if possible can I get women to reply to this question to see how they view this. I am falling in love with her but I just can't understand what does she see in me. We still have not kissed to this day, everytime I leave we just hug goodbye and I am getting frustrated. If you could give me any response, It would help. The main two questions are beside the numbers in the post. Thank you for any help you can give. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JasonL Posted September 15, 2004 Author Share Posted September 15, 2004 Also I would like to add, that this is both are first relationship, and we are still both virgins and she wants to wait until marriage and I am fine with that. But the main fact is that we are both new at this. Link to post Share on other sites
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