loquita1 Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 H and I have been married almost 5 years. He comes from a broken home, and I come from a tight family unit. We have been seperated for 7 months and through out that time we have been doing everything as a family. He left because we lived in my mom's house and he felt that she as well as my sibling where bullying us out. they were not. He had talked to me before about moving out but i just dusted it under the rug and then one day he had a place and he was gone while my entire family was on vacation. I pleaded with him but he wanted to go. in addition to our living situation we didn't agree on the money, on lots of things and we were not happy. we went to therapy and the therapist said to me he seems to want to move on but has that cliff that he wants to stay. we stopped going. we went to a weekend retreat and we had our ups and downs. we had post sessions but he keeps going back to the same issues. he won't move past them. one and a huge one was that i did not introduce him to an old friend of my childhood and he was standing next to me. i really am stupid and i was w/another childhood friend and I said do you remember so and so...i totally was a jack ass and didn't. i appologized for this and to this day he will not let it die. he then talked to a person about becoming intimate but he at the end did not. he said he did not want our marriage to end. he confessed and this pissed me off. anyway we are always together and we are like family but we live in two diff. household which also is taking a toll on both of our financial situations. this weekend was our sons 4th birthday and everything was super! he posted on FB " I love my son, the is the only one that matters in my life". i felt like that was an eye opener. i confronted him about it and said that is how you really feel. he said i was over reacting and since then he has been very secretive about where he is when before he was not. i just need help! how did you move on?:( Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted April 10, 2013 Share Posted April 10, 2013 i just need help! how did you move on?:( You focus on your son. It seems strange to me that you didn't mention him until the end of your post and then only in passing as I can only imagine how this drama affects him. He needs your full attention now more than ever. Not much you can do about your husband. I'd guess his interests already lie elsewhere ... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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