Isn't hitting someone that won't hit you back

[JoseSanz]

just as cowardly as hitting someone weaker than you that can't hit back (nor defend themselves against you even if they were trying)?

 

My gf (well soon to be ex gf) slapped me hard during an argument and I'm beginning to think that was cowardly of her. Not only does she knows me but the most shocking part is she and her friend think this is suppose to be all forgiven and forgotten just like that.

 

Not sure if I'm overdoing this but I still felt assaulted. Needless to say I'm willing to bet if I'd done the exact same thing she did, both of them would have already file charges for assault. I know she would have without any hesitation. The more I'm thinking about this, the more I'm considering going NC and not even having her as a friend.

[M30USA]

just as cowardly as hitting someone weaker than you that can't hit back (nor defend themselves against you even if they were trying)?

 

My gf (well soon to be ex gf) slapped me hard during an argument and I'm beginning to think that was cowardly of her. Not only does she knows me but the most shocking part is she and her friend think this is suppose to be all forgiven and forgotten just like that.

 

Not sure if I'm overdoing this but I still felt assaulted. Needless to say I'm willing to bet if I'd done the exact same thing she did, both of them would have already file charges for assault. I know she would have without any hesitation. The more I'm thinking about this, the more I'm considering going NC and not even having her as a friend.

 

Girls see it on TV and think it's okay. If it happened once, it will happen again. Just ask yourself: if I get slapped (or possibly struck) again am I willing to stay with her? Because it WILL happen. Make the decision now, early.

[JoseSanz]

Girls see it on TV and think it's okay. If it happened once, it will happen again. Just ask yourself: if I get slapped (or possibly struck) again am I willing to stay with her? Because it WILL happen. Make the decision now, early.

This gives me more reason to make her my ex gf.

[CC12]

The more I'm thinking about this, the more I'm considering going NC and not even having her as a friend.

 

That wouldn't be an overreaction. Someone who hit you does not deserve your forgiveness. And the idea that she's not even asking your forgiveness and just expecting you to get over it is troubling. But at least that makes it easier for you to leave her.

[JoseSanz]

Though I don't necessarily like violence, I HAVE slapped people for saying crap they KNOW they shouldn't say.

 

Its a two way street: if you don't want to get hurt, don't hurt people on purpose. There ARE things someone can say they KNOW will be a dagger, so those folk really can't whine they got the stupid slapped from their mouths.

It would have probably been different if she actually realized it was wrong and apologized in that moment. I may have let it slide once and just tell her not to do it again. However, it's the general attitude of ''I'm a girl and can slap/hit a guy whenever I want to, he needs to get over it'' that's really the killer.

 

She thinks it's normal, which leads me to believe that she'll always be doing that and keep on inventing excuses.

Was what you said horrifying enough that most folk would slap you for it?

Why is that an excuse? She was arguing with me about not spending too much on her lately, how she didn't like my present for Valentine's day and it got to the point of getting called cheap. I argued back and reminded her that she doesn't do anything special either and how it's wrong that she allows her mother to talked bad about me behind my back (it's true, I don't recalled any single time where she has told her mother to stop, yet I've never disrespected that woman).

 

Why do so many girls think it's ok to slap a man for about anything he says? Had I done the same, I would be in jail right now, yet they don't see that.

[JoseSanz]

That wouldn't be an overreaction. Someone who hit you does not deserve your forgiveness. And the idea that she's not even asking your forgiveness and just expecting you to get over it is troubling. But at least that makes it easier for you to leave her.

This is what bothers me the most than the slap. That to me is basically her telling me ''This is how I'll treat you from now on everything I'm pissed off''.

[CC12]

Making fun if someone getting molested qualifies, I think most folks would agree child rape is not something to make light of.

 

Obviously, I agree that rape/molestation isn't something to make light of, ever. But I don't think the right reaction to someone making light of it is to hit them. It's perpetuating violence against others. It's letting your impulses act before your brain does. You don't hit people. Ever. And asking a victim "Well, did you deserve it?" is pretty bad. Think about what you're arguing here.

 

OP, you didn't like being hit, and it's perfectly reasonable for you to say "Never again."

[todreaminblue]

just as cowardly as hitting someone weaker than you that can't hit back (nor defend themselves against you even if they were trying)?

 

My gf (well soon to be ex gf) slapped me hard during an argument and I'm beginning to think that was cowardly of her. Not only does she knows me but the most shocking part is she and her friend think this is suppose to be all forgiven and forgotten just like that.

 

Not sure if I'm overdoing this but I still felt assaulted. Needless to say I'm willing to bet if I'd done the exact same thing she did, both of them would have already file charges for assault. I know she would have without any hesitation. The more I'm thinking about this, the more I'm considering going NC and not even having her as a friend.

 

 

soem women think its right because men are men and they can take it to physically hit them...its abuse....it isnt right....its not respectful....gettign hit is humiliation....shaming tactics.......its wrong ...... i feel shame when i get hit i feel humiliated and it hurts.....i have never charged anyone for hitting me but once someone does hit me...its not something i can forget ill forgive.......best wishes to you...you dont deserve to be slapped by a woman....nor does a woman or a man have the right to hit anyone...UNLESS in self defense...then its on like donkey kong.......deb

[CC12]

Great, lets have a society where any topic is acceptable, any declaration is okay and there are no consequences. Lets repeal seridition laws that keep us safe and all joke about raping each others kids and mothers, ya, that's the society I want to live in.....

 

Err, no thanks...

 

Whoa. What? Joking about raping kids and mothers? That hasn't happened here in this thread. Are you okay?

 

OP said, "I was hit and I didn't like it and I want to break up with her." And somehow you're arguing that he's wrong for feeling that way? And that maybe he deserved it?

[Emilia]

She was arguing with me about not spending too much on her lately, how she didn't like my present for Valentine's day and it got to the point of getting called cheap.

 

You need to up the quality of women you date me thinks.

[JoseSanz]

I hope the op didn't give her a melted candy bar while she gave him hundreds of dollars worth of gifts lol

I gave her a silver necklace for Valentine's Day while she didn't give me anything. All I got from her is a ''Happy Valentine's Day'' and that's it.

Whenever we went out, most of times it was me paying practically the whole dates. At some point I got sick of that, her not contributing to anything (and if she did, it minimum). On top of that, not standing up to her mother whenever that woman would gossip about me. Most of the stuff coming from her mouth was false.

Edited April 10, 2013 by JoseSanz

[Radu]

just as cowardly as hitting someone weaker than you that can't hit back (nor defend themselves against you even if they were trying)?

 

My gf (well soon to be ex gf) slapped me hard during an argument and I'm beginning to think that was cowardly of her. Not only does she knows me but the most shocking part is she and her friend think this is suppose to be all forgiven and forgotten just like that.

 

Not sure if I'm overdoing this but I still felt assaulted. Needless to say I'm willing to bet if I'd done the exact same thing she did, both of them would have already file charges for assault. I know she would have without any hesitation. The more I'm thinking about this, the more I'm considering going NC and not even having her as a friend.

 

Jose, you are right, and i wish i had your brains at what i suspect is your young age.

I took me to get to 27 to realise this kind of thing is not ok, and it should not be ok.

 

Learn from this one Jose, look back at the other relationships you had [and maybe post in my thread in the Dating section if you want], because this girl sounds full of red flags.

Leave, and never look back.

 

Atheist, this thread is not about you, or your daughter.

Sorry if it hurts your feelings, but that's about it.

And i think you did wrong by slapping your ex. Because if he had filed charges, it would have affected you, and you had responsabilities, your child/children.

You slap someone, that's assault, pure and simple ... females should not get a carde blanche just because they were born with a vagina.

You don't like what the bastard is saying, leave, disengage, or file charges for emotional abuse; there are options.

[M30USA]

I gave her a silver necklace for Valentine's Day while she didn't give me anything. All I got from her is a ''Happy Valentine's Day'' and that's it.

Whenever we went out, most of times it was me paying practically the whole dates. At some point I got sick of that, her not contributing to anything (and if she did, it minimum). On top of that, not standing up to her mother whenever that woman would gossip about me. Most of the stuff coming from her mouth was false.

 

Dude...I am not one to encourage people to throw out their relationships, but you need to get out of there. The physical aggression and gossiping mother will only get 100x worse. Trust me.