I got back with my gf, right or wrong?

[liamcran]

Well, I've been seeing this girl for 4 and a half months now and 1 month ago we broke up for almost a week here's the story:

Me and her started going out and I really was falling for her she seemed so perfect and right for me. I really really liked her in fact I'm pretty sure I was in love with her. Well anyway 2 months into the relationship something really strange happened she started acting weird around me. And it was strange because it was out of nowhere. The day before she was really lovey-Dovey and the next day it seemed like she was really unhappy to see me. I immediately noticed something was wrong and especially when I met with her on my break at the library she was busy studying with some other friends and asked if I could come back later. When I did come back at the end of my break I saw her exiting the library with another guy. And when I went in for the usual hug and kiss and she seemed awkward and uncomfortable to do it around this 'guy' anyway that day I got home and confronted her about this. She said we weren't meant to be and she wasn't feeling it anymore. I tried hard to convince her to stay with me but nothing worked and we broke 2 days later on the Monday. We didn't talk for 3 days and I felt so hurt without her. It really felt terrible. But before we broke up I asked her multiple times if there was 'somebody else' and she said no without hesitation every time. So anyway the next day I went to the library again on my lunch break and saw one of my friends sitting at a table behind a table where all of my new 'ex's friends were sitting some of them mutual with me but she wasn't there. So I decided to sit with my other friend on the table behind them and started chatting with her. Later into the break she showed up and I did not know because she sat behind me and my back was to her the entire time. She was sitting next to the guy she was with the other day. And I found out later on she held hands with him right there, right behind me under the table. Also later that day she let one of her ex's 'feel her up' in the heat of the moment.

3 days later I messaged her i couldn't bear to let this relationship end with no sort of closure. I deserved that much. And I said you lied, there was another guy, she said she was so sorry and that it was the stupidest thing she has ever done and blah blah blah you get where I'm going and she said she wanted another chance. It was hard to say no but I said I wanted to wait. I told her if she wanted me back she had to prove to me she did. I also confronted her about her holding hands with the other guy and she said she was confused and she had a thing for him but that's all. And I also confronted her about the thing she did with her ex and she said she did not stop him because it was in the heat of the moment and because it felt good at the time. But she said the day after that I realised how much I missed you how much of a mistake I made and that I need you. You don't know what you've got until its gone. She said the real reason she broke up with me was because she was afraid of commitment and she had a thing for the other guy but she didn't know if it was a contribution as to why we broke up. I didn't completely believe her. How do I know she wasn't just doing this because she couldn't get the other guy? But she said that he liked her too so i dont see why she couldnt have or was that a lie? But what really set me off was when I was with her alone and I told her I missed her. And she started crying next to me. It was definitely not fake. There was some real emotion involved and I believed her then, that she really did want me back and those feelings were still there. So a week later I took her back. But here's the thing... It's been 2 months since that and even though she stopped being friends with both those guys she still hangs out with them from time to time and she even informed me a few days back that her and the other guy are friends again but assured me history won't repeat itself. Here's the thing... I'm so paranoid nowadays about who she's talking to what she's saying to those two guys and other guys for that matter and things like that. I have regained some of my trust of her and she deserves it she's done very noble and thoughtful things to make it up to me. And I can see that her love for me is strong and legitimate now. And I am quite sure overtime we will heal completely but what we have now is really a lot better almost a new relationship. She didn't cheat on me even though what she did was quite slutty. I do believe In second chances.

Here's my questions:

Was this afraid of commitment thing really why she broke up with me or was it because of this other guy?

Was it good enough to base my decision to get back with her on the fact the she cried?

How can I make that paranoia go away?

Was it right to get back with her?

My friends say what she did was a bit slutty :/ this may be true but what if she really was confused?

[Darren Steez]

You sound really young. Get another girl.