A cheater's ultimatum

[RomanceLow]

So my ex never actually cheated, but he attempted to cheat by sexting other girls and looking to hook up. When confronted he said he cared deeply over me and he was seeking more attention. It's a terrible excuse, but iLove him and he's military and I understand that military men tend to be cheaters and they see nothing wrong with it. I'm in love and my judgment is unclear. I sought help from a relationship counselor and she told me my heart feels one thing, yet my brain tells me I shouldn't. I guess I have to options with this guy... Listen to plan then judge. I'm suppose to hang out with him in a couple of days, i'll tell him how i feel bcs my therapist said it is not good to bottle up feelings. This is what i'll say... I still like u.Then i'll ask him How do u feel?And if he still likes me i'll continue. With that said I'm still dating I'm still sleeping with ppl I'll give him options: We can be friends and just friends. If we try it again we can only try it bcs u want to change u can't do it cause I want u too.We must see my therapist before all this.And it doesn't have to be right now it can be months from now, but My feelings might have changed or stayed the same,but If u do change ill b happy whether it b for me or the other girls in the future.

And if we do try the relationship and u end up with ur old habits ill never want to talk or hear from u again.U choose I'm happy with any choice. What's your guys thoughts?

[Auguria]

Hold on now!

 

...You'll ask him " if he still likes you"?

In how many actions and ways, does he need to tell you that you are not important to him? Don't you see his immaturity? His "need for attention" is affecting your self-worth, your self-respect! Never let a man, in the name of love, treat you as second-best.

 

Ultimately, you'll follow your heart. You'll go back, in hopes that he will change, that he will see only you, but, ultimately, it will not happen, because he is still a boy, not a man.

 

I wish you luck.

[KatZee]

Him looking to cheat is only indicative of him being unhappy in the relationship. Asking if he still likes you is completely irrelevant. He's still unhappy. And in the future, the sexting will turn into something physical and he WILL cheat on you. He'll just take his sneaky behavior further underground so you don't find out.

 

You've been given the evidence. He's looking to cheat. Stay with him and you're just asking to be fully cheated on. If you know what he's capable of and you stay, you really shouldn't be surprised when he does finally do it.