Ex bf is asking me back but we both cheated on each other

[SocialButterfly]

I've been single since breaking up with him on May 2012 but for the last two months, he's been asking if I want to get back together.

 

I would but we don't really have a good history. We both cheated on each other, well it really my fault. I did it first and later on he does it back. He knows I found out and wants to work it out this say. Keeps saying he forgives me now, says he's sorry for his cheating but I saw what it did to him at the time.

 

I don't know. Should I get back? Or is this yet another plan in getting back at me...again?

[sunbeach200]

I doubt its a plan to hurt you further. Lets face it, you both cant hurt each more than you both have for cheating on each other. It sounds like he never wanted the relationship to end but your actions made it so. Or started all this mess....

You were wrong to cheat and he made the situation worse by retaliating.

 

If you both want to get back together then you both need to agree that a healthy relationship involves 100% commitment. And honesty!

 

But what about you? Have you asked yourself if you can commit to a relationship? Are you ready to be faithful to him? Do you know why you cheated in the first place? If you are still confused then best you stay single for a while

Edited April 11, 2013 by sunbeach200

[SocialButterfly]

Are you ready to be faithful to him?

Yes, I am ready. If he means it and is willing to put this behind as I am too, I'll consider getting back with him. It was my fault for all this to go downhill and if given this chance to start all over, I'll be the gf I wasn't then.

 

Do you know why you cheated in the first place? If you are still confused then best you stay single for a while

I cheated way back in July 2010 out of desperation at the time. He was away on a business trip and since he didn't contact me on the first 2 days, I started listening to my now ex friend Jenny about how I should date other guys. I was stupid back then and let myself get influenced too easily instead of focusing and trusting my bf then.

 

I've been trying to do right since then but it wasn't enough to make him feel better. He seem forgiving at first but then cheated back.

 

I still regret cheating on him to the point I wasn't dating anyone when I broke it off.

[SocialButterfly]

Please don't... you both are not ready for a relationship... look inside your soul and see if you are ready for a monogamous relationship...

For what is worth it... I don't think you are!

But I caused this. He wasn't the type of guy to cheat but just reacted in anger. I don't blame him anymore.

My cheating was way back in July 2010. I've learned since and haven't been dating anymore since the break up.

[BetrayedH]

He's not trying to get back at you further.

 

I think almost everyone has to learn the infidelity lesson. Sounds to me like the two of you have learned it by virtue of experience. You could certainly speak to that better than I.

 

I would recommend that you are both proactive in being transparent/rebuilding trust (don't expect it to be "behind you" entirely) but yeah, if you both still have feelings for one another and can forgive, I see no reason not to go for it.

[coffeebean201]

Is he the guy for you, or a guy for right now?