Mjfru Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Ok well here we go . . . . My girlfriend and I are wonderful together, we always have the best time in the world when we are together. Here's the part that gets confusing then. Well when we aren't together, I really don't know, it's like some subconcience mind of mind always making me think bad things about my relationship, and I tend to worry way too much, not to mention I feel that I may have a slight crush on another girl, but it's strictly a crush, whereas I'm in love with my girlfriend. So all this worrying and this crush kinda is making me feel horrible sometimes. Well I feel that the slight crush I can avoid, because my crush is on a girl who is basically my best friend, and I don't want to screw up our friendship, so avoid it. The only things that really make me still think about it is things like, "what would happen if we were together, how would that be, would it be as wonderful as it is with my current gf, or as great as a friendship that I have with her (my friend)?" and then the other thing on my mind is that by telling her how I feel, I may destroy our whole friendship if she doesn't feel the same . . . With the worrying, I truly don't know where it comes from? I mean I am a worrysome person, but I'm very happy with my girlfriend until this little voice comes in. It will always make me think that she doesn't miss me and stuff like that. I really don't know, it just messes with me, my worrysome self, I've become my own weapon. So what I did tonight was something that I hope I won't regret and that I hope will help me to realize how much I love my girlfriend . . . . well I told her that we should take some "space". Now I'm feeling that this is the right move, because I've done it before, and it was successful, but with another girl. She personally is doing this all for me, she thinks that we are great, and she said that she just deals with my worryness cause she loves me so much. So this "space" was my own opinion and she approved, but just to help me, she said that she doesn't need help, that she's fine with us. Well what happened last time was that it felt like we broke up, the "space", so that in turn made me feel really hurt, I missed my ex dearly and I really knew how much I loved her. So I was hoping for the same results this time around with my current girlfriend, so that way it may teach me that I need to stop worrying so much, and that my "crush" is really just a little thing and it will go away. Well I'm asking if anyone else really feels that I made the right choice? I'm really just looking for a general opinion of my whole situation, and by putting you comment in to help me out, it will be greatly appreciated. Anyone's comment helps me a whole lot, cause I just need outside information on the situation. Thank You Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 I have to admit that I didnt read all of your story but.... If you've done it before either you pick the wrong girls or you have a problem.....why do you keep taking breaks with women....don't play games like this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mjfru Posted September 16, 2004 Author Share Posted September 16, 2004 to tell you the truth i really don't know why i do . . . . . do you think I should call off the break and just learn to settle down again, cause we are a great couple, it's just that I always worry . . . . I don't know, I think it's my own personal problem I just don't know how to fix it . . . well if anyone else has suggestions I'd love them . . . . Link to post Share on other sites
ozziegirl Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 If you're having 'worrysome' thoughts about your relationship, you did the right thing by creating space. I think that if a relationship is absolutely right for you, you don't have doubts strong enough to make you take action. You're struggling with something you need to resolve. You're being extremely fair and honest by letting your girlfriend know that you need this time. Congratulations! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mjfru Posted September 16, 2004 Author Share Posted September 16, 2004 Well I feel that by taking this time I may indeed be able to figure out why I am acting the way I do when we aren't together. I can figure out why I'm always arguing with her about stupid things like, "do you miss me" because of how much I worry. Well I'm still not 100% sure this was the right move yet, but that's probably because it's the first morning after it started. As time goes by it should get easier. I told her that we should take around a week of "space" cause I feel at that point I should be better, and I also asked her if she will definetaly come back to me after the break and she said that she would, cause she loves me and she's strictly doing this "space" to help me out. So I don't know, I'm probably about 65% sure that it was the right move so far. If anyone else has comments, once again, it's surely appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
TommyGirl Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 First of all, how old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
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