Just letting off some steam

[Angry]

My girlfriend of a year, who I trusted and loved so much, left me for another guy. I never did anything wrong to her, and treated her with the utmost of respect and thoughtfulness. I just want to say, I hope it all goes wrong for her and stuffs up in her face. Then she can come running back to me and I won't be there!

 

I hate her for her selfishness and lack of concern for me. What goes around comes around and I hope it does!

 

She also has the nerve to tell me being friends would mean a lot to her! Well, she's got another thing coming because I am not going to torture myself like that. Who does she think she is? Doesn't she realise it would have meant a lot to me if she hadn't of done this?

 

The selfish cow. I still love her, but I really hate her for abusing my trust and I hope she gets her just desserts!!!

 

Just had to get that off my chest. I'm mad and I'm hurting because of her. She had no right to do that to me!

[Nic]

That angry stage you are at right now is great. You're dealing with this, and it's so much better to feel angry than sad.

 

You have every right to be angry at her, the unappreciative, self-serving so and so.

 

She will get what she deserves (if she hasn't already). But she doesn't deserve you.

 

Stick to your guns, and don't contact her. She doesn't deserve you in her life.

My girlfriend of a year, who I trusted and loved so much, left me for another guy. I never did anything wrong to her, and treated her with the utmost of respect and thoughtfulness. I just want to say, I hope it all goes wrong for her and stuffs up in her face. Then she can come running back to me and I won't be there! I hate her for her selfishness and lack of concern for me. What goes around comes around and I hope it does! She also has the nerve to tell me being friends would mean a lot to her! Well, she's got another thing coming because I am not going to torture myself like that. Who does she think she is? Doesn't she realise it would have meant a lot to me if she hadn't of done this? The selfish cow. I still love her, but I really hate her for abusing my trust and I hope she gets her just desserts!!! Just had to get that off my chest. I'm mad and I'm hurting because of her. She had no right to do that to me!

[Tony T]

Getting really pissed is an excellent way to get over someone pretty fast.

 

But be sure to take a few things into consideration. First, there is no great way to break up. If you're upset with her because of the way she broke up with you, I'm sure it weighed heavily on her mind for a long time and she did it with great pain and regret. Take my word for it, any feeling human has big problems with breaking up. It is very hard for people to break off a relationship...it is one of the most difficult things we do in life.

 

Secondly, if you really love this lady you want her to be happy and you want her to be free to travel her path unobstructed through her journey on planet earth. I know you are angry, depressed, and hurting but she felt there were other experiences destined for her. She has a right to move on. In time, I hope you will develop an attitude of allowing the people you love to have freedom of movement in, around and out of your life. It is not for you to imprison the ones you love and demand that they remain by your side if that is not their will.

 

Third, if everyone that dated stayed together forever, I really don't think the system would work very well at all. The reason we date is to experience other people, have fun, give and receive love, etc. That is what the two of you did. But during this dating process, MOST people don't stay together. Almost everyone dates a few people, some date many people, until two people meet who find each other very compatible and right and their timing is such that they decide to commit to each other for a lifetime. And even then, depending on the country you are in, the chances are moderate to excellent that it's not going to be a forever thing.

 

I hope in the future you will highly value each and every golden moment you are with someone you love. And when those moments cease, whether it's because they left you, you left them, or they passed on, you will not be angry or depressed but you will celebrate those golden moments you enjoyed. For if the person had never entered your life, you would never have experienced those precious and valued times. That's really all life is, the joy we experience from day to day. Just how we experience loss eventually determines how we experience life.

 

Celebrate what you had, let this lady be free to go in peace to find her bliss wherever she seeks it, and you do the same.

 

But, in the meantime, get MAD AS HELL!!!

[cj]

Getting really pissed is an excellent way to get over someone pretty fast. But be sure to take a few things into consideration. First, there is no great way to break up. If you're upset with her because of the way she broke up with you, I'm sure it weighed heavily on her mind for a long time and she did it with great pain and regret. Take my word for it, any feeling human has big problems with breaking up. It is very hard for people to break off a relationship...it is one of the most difficult things we do in life.

 

Secondly, if you really love this lady you want her to be happy and you want her to be free to travel her path unobstructed through her journey on planet earth. I know you are angry, depressed, and hurting but she felt there were other experiences destined for her. She has a right to move on. In time, I hope you will develop an attitude of allowing the people you love to have freedom of movement in, around and out of your life. It is not for you to imprison the ones you love and demand that they remain by your side if that is not their will. Third, if everyone that dated stayed together forever, I really don't think the system would work very well at all. The reason we date is to experience other people, have fun, give and receive love, etc. That is what the two of you did. But during this dating process, MOST people don't stay together. Almost everyone dates a few people, some date many people, until two people meet who find each other very compatible and right and their timing is such that they decide to commit to each other for a lifetime. And even then, depending on the country you are in, the chances are moderate to excellent that it's not going to be a forever thing. I hope in the future you will highly value each and every golden moment you are with someone you love. And when those moments cease, whether it's because they left you, you left them, or they passed on, you will not be angry or depressed but you will celebrate those golden moments you enjoyed. For if the person had never entered your life, you would never have experienced those precious and valued times. That's really all life is, the joy we experience from day to day. Just how we experience loss eventually determines how we experience life. Celebrate what you had, let this lady be free to go in peace to find her bliss wherever she seeks it, and you do the same. But, in the meantime, get MAD AS HELL!!!

STOP STOP STOP!!!!!!!!!

 

EMEDIATELY

 

no dont be angry she is the one with the los

 

forget about her if you dont you are going to take out

 

revenge on the next girl so just forget about her and enjoy

 

the your new girls company.your anger can aviod you trusting another girl that realy loves you and trust you

 

see you later

[Deejette]

It is always hard when someone we love isn't there for us any longer. It is like a death in a way, and we have to go through the mourning process. The first stage of the process is denial, "No, this can't be true, she doesn't really know what she is doing, she can't mean what she said." Then comes anger, "That ungrateful cow, I hate her guts." Finally you get to acceptance: "Hey, what will be, will be." The last step is learning something from it and moving on to a new understanding, even seeing the situation as good that it happened the way it did.

 

So now you are in the anger phase, but take heart. It won't last forever.

STOP STOP STOP!!!!!!!!! EMEDIATELY no dont be angry she is the one with the los forget about her if you dont you are going to take out revenge on the next girl so just forget about her and enjoy the your new girls company.your anger can aviod you trusting another girl that realy loves you and trust you see you later