Women that blur the lines of friendship and relationships... Need perspective...

[civpro]

Hi All,

 

I dont post alot, but I have found that there is a some really good advice here. This is somewhat of a general question, and perhaps something that you can give me some perspective on...

 

Why do women blur the lines of friendships and relationships, there doesn't ever really seem to be a good distinction??? I have been propositioned by some old female friends to have kids with them, now years later to strike up relationships, and all the more from what would have seemed a lack of romantic interest... Any feedback?

 

Let me give you a situation that really boggles my mind, and perhaps some of you can give me some clarity... I have known a girl for 5 years. For some time, I had been very interested in her, and from the right beginning we were awesome friends, but nothing ever developed - not because I didnt want it to, but because she didnt -always the brakes (recently told me that she was not able to satisfy what I am looking for). It has lead to some arguments, and some hard feelings in the past. Aside from a history of emotional issues relating to drugs and alcohol, and some pretty awful moodiness from female issues, she is quite a sweetheart...

 

After knowing her for all this time, she started bringing me to the family for holidays and family birthdays about half a year ago. It felt it to be a little odd but pretty cool because she is very protective of them, but I have come to like the family very much, but I am starting to feel a little uncomfortable, and some of that is my doing. I noticed recently that her sister is having the kids call me uncle Brian, and all are very suggestive about the girl and I. Somehow, I dont think she has clarified our relationship to them, and I dont feel comfortable just telling them myself. In addition, her dad is wanting me to come around, play golf, etc. Mom always asks about me... I feel like I am a boyfriend substitute or something. Anyone got an idea what is up here? Am I missing something significant? I am a confused schmuck? She pushes me away with words, but draws me in with action... The lines are getting blurred for me...

[TheBigQuestion]

Yeah, I know exactly what's happening here. You're being a chump and she's taking full advantage of it.

[civpro]

Turns out she was banging my friend. She just told me via text. What a super evening...