Do all guys cheat?

[Esoteric Elf]

No, bro.

 

Some guys don't have a partner to begin with, so cheating is something kind of impossible.

[Woggle]

Oh you still got time. You're wife is still young when she starts sagging your eyes will wonder off.

 

I don't mean to sound like a pooper but its true

Obviously your neighbor will say that, as if he would admit to that.

 

 

Never say never guys.

**** happens.

 

Sorry you feel that way but it's way off.

[stealthy]

No, bro.

 

Some guys don't have a partner to begin with, so cheating is something kind of impossible.

 

Well this doesn't really apply to you now does it?

 

Thanks for the insightful input.

[rydergirl]

Do ALL guys cheat? No. Do MOST men cheat? Yes.

Women cheat too but I think the numbers are lower than men.

Men are attracted to looks and beauty. If you land the hottest babe around once she hits 40 you will look around sometimes earlier. Despite her perfect soul and character. People forget that men are evolved to screw or think about screwing every attractive women they look at. They are essentially weak horndogs and expecting a man to go the rest of his life never acting on any impulse is unlikely.

[man_in_the_box]

Oh you still got time. You're wife is still young when she starts sagging your eyes will wonder off.

 

Oh yeah because women never let their eyes wander you dirty hypocrit

[Richard Friedman]

Most guys with options will cheat. I lived with a bunch of watre polo players in college. Most of them had a steady girl, but there were always a bunch of random girls around(groupies i guess). I'd say at least 80% of guys were cheating. Otoh I've seen a few guys turning down some smoking girls who were throwing themselves at them. Bottom line is that there are sonmme guys with strong personal values/boundaries, but most guys will cheat if the girl is hot enough and write it off as a mistake. One explanation I heard: I'm not gonna get married to my gf. So if get an opportunity to band another girl, I think if in a couple years I'll regret not having slept with her.

[Esoteric Elf]

Thanks for the insightful input.

Always a pleasure, stealthy.

[love1336x]

Lol, I don't know about *all*, but I did date a man in which.. he wasn't all attractive, and he ended up cheating on me.

 

He was 5'3 and was 214 pounds. I thought at the time he would never cheat because he STRONGLY believed he wasn't attractive, and felt I was a "GODDESS". He was he never had a 10 (me) ever look his way.

 

However, he did. Now I believe not *ALL* men may cheat, but some might.

[coltsfan1]

Oh you still got time. You're wife is still young when she starts sagging your eyes will wonder off.

 

I don't mean to sound like a pooper but its true

Obviously your neighbor will say that, as if he would admit to that.

 

 

Never say never guys.

**** happens.

 

My grandfather is MALE he has never cheated. My grandparents have a story book relationship, married before he shipped to Germany in 46, first daughter born while he was in the war, & they are both still living now. He never cheated, its not in HIS character. And therein is the answer to the OP's question, its a matter of the persons character.

[Eggplant]

I'm a woman. My strong suspicion is no. If I thought all men cheated, I wouldn't be wasting my time looking for a non-existent man with integrity and instead would be looking for some combination of Einstein and Shaq to donate sperm.

[carhill]

Nope, never have cheated, never will.

This answer brings up a really good point, and a possible reason why discussions like this are largely fruitless.

 

Internally, one knows whether one has 'cheated' or not, based upon their own personal moral guide. The OP demonstrated this by defining the parameters of cheating as deceiving one's partner/spouse regarding sexual relations with another. That's very specific.

 

Secondarily, as I'm communicating here, we're all communicating the results of that internal process and no one else really knows for sure what internal process has taken place; only the person themselves knows. Hence, any 'stories' which are told are just that, stories. They can be authentic; they can be lies. The only person who knows for sure is the person telling the story themselves.

 

Do we believe that all guys cheat? Reading the stories it appears that, no, not all guys cheat. We each form our own beliefs.

[Negative Nancy]

I am a guy and I will state that though I have never cheated, I think most will when given the right opportunity. However, the majority of men in this world dont get frequent opportunities to cheat.

 

I also think its a huge misconception that men only cheat when something is missing from a relationship. I think females are more prone to that while men are simply opportunistic.

 

I struggle with the idea of monogamy because there is alot of research out there that suggests most men are wired for sexual variety and cannot be satisfied with one woman for extended periods of time- through no fault of her own- simply because it is the same female. While other research shows women can be satisfied as long as its not routine and her guy changes things every now and then. For men, that helps but it is not enough. I dont think it matters if your spouse is awesome or not, a different hot girl hitting on a married man is exciting because shes...different!

 

unfortunately, this is the truth.

[Woggle]

I am a guy and I will state that though I have never cheated, I think most will when given the right opportunity. However, the majority of men in this world dont get frequent opportunities to cheat.

 

I also think its a huge misconception that men only cheat when something is missing from a relationship. I think females are more prone to that while men are simply opportunistic.

 

I struggle with the idea of monogamy because there is alot of research out there that suggests most men are wired for sexual variety and cannot be satisfied with one woman for extended periods of time- through no fault of her own- simply because it is the same female. While other research shows women can be satisfied as long as its not routine and her guy changes things every now and then. For men, that helps but it is not enough. I dont think it matters if your spouse is awesome or not, a different hot girl hitting on a married man is exciting because shes...different!

 

Then why is it that I have never had the desire to cheat? I have had plenty of chances but the thought never occurred to me. This has nothing to do with gender because women cheat as well.

[Woggle]

I didnt say they dont cheat. But if there were more women willing to do casual sex, I think far more men would cheat than women. I think more often with men its about opportunity rather than reasons. Of course some women do that too but I think its less likely. Keep in mind I am a guy and I have never cheated either but I think you and I are the exceptions.

 

Getting casual sex as a married man is one of the easiest things in the world so it is not lack of options. That wedding ring bumps a man's attractiveness up three points with some people.

[nessaaa]

My grandfather is MALE he has never cheated. My grandparents have a story book relationship, married before he shipped to Germany in 46, first daughter born while he was in the war, & they are both still living now. He never cheated, its not in HIS character. And therein is the answer to the OP's question, its a matter of the persons character.

 

 

So you think...

[LSTom]

The majority of men cheat, but not all.

 

That's been my plight: finding guys isn't hard, finding one who can keep it in his pants while expecting my fidelity in return is the difficult thing. I don't dig hypocrites....

 

You know, I've found women cheat almost as much as guys do.

[coltsfan1]

You know, I've found women cheat almost as much as guys do.

 

This is true, woman are better at hiding it then we men.

[ChessPieceFace]

Do ALL guys cheat? No. Do MOST men cheat? Yes.

 

Again, show me the proof of this, otherwise it's just another big steaming pile of man-hating BS.

[2sunny]

Not at all. The willingness to cheat doesn't have much to do with gender.

 

^^^^

 

Or looks!

 

It has to do with integrity, morals and self control... Or lack of!

[Archgirl]

Of course all men don't cheat!?!

 

Why on earth would anyone think that?

 

Most of the men I have been lucky enough to know are fun, caring loyal people.

 

This is a very silly thread

[crederer]

No, not all men cheat. I cheated once in a past relationship after finding out that my girl cheated on me. It was a revenge thing I guess. Then we stayed together for a few months and I realized that the relationship was completely messed up.

 

I have not cheated again after that, and quite frankly don't care to. I do okay with women and I could certainly do it if I wanted to.

 

In my experience, women cheat more than men. I don't have science to back me up but I am aware of far more women cheating than men. And it's weird cause the guys tend to be more open about it with their buddies (kind of like bragging, in a weird way) than girls with male buddies, so it makes me think there are way more women cheaters around me that I'm not even aware of.

 

I personally know 8 women that cheated. I know of 3 guys that cheated.

[Tinie]

Huh. I must be living on a different planet because almost all the men I know of are loving, caring and loyal. Yeah I have met a couple rotten apples here and there, but I really have a hard time believing the "all men cheat" claim that some posters have provided. I think it depends on your being either an attention seeker or not. Attention seeking is not limited to one gender, when last I checked...

[Bazukaz]

Huh. I must be living on a different planet because almost all the men I know of are loving, caring and loyal. Yeah I have met a couple rotten apples here and there, but I really have a hard time believing the "all men cheat" claim that some posters have provided. I think it depends on your being either an attention seeker or not. Attention seeking is not limited to one gender, when last I checked...

 

You are not ona different planet... Different people have different circles of friends. I have never cheated myself(although there were some options) and am pretty confident most of my friends haven't either. But my girlfriend has cheated. Does that bring to any conclusions ..? No. No generalizations from just a small set of samples.

 

There is one questionable source about women cheating more than men:

Women More Likely to Cheat Than Men, Claims Study | Shaadi.com Blog

 

And another gives similar numbers for both men and women:

Women Cheating About As Often As Men, Says Study - ABC News

[JessieJ08]

I think its about character also. I dont know why people base it off looks anyone can cheat ugly or attractive. Specially today people have so little respect for couples A married woman was trying to hook my man up with her friends and she was attracted to him and let me say she was UGLY and had nothing on me in the look department her friend was pretty but come on why would you want to mess with any human who is so quick to break up your happy relationship for sex they aren't worth it. My boyfriend didn't cheat because he didn't need to He is happy with me and no one is worth losing the person you love specially one time of sex or sex period. Also being secure helps a lot if your with someone you dont have doubts about your more then likely not going to cheat. ;-) Communication is key

[jw123]

Anyone, male or female, no matter how loyal or what their character can cheat under the right circumstances. Do not think you are immune because of your character. Pride cometh before a fall.

 

There are those of weak character that will cheat when given the opportunity and actually seek it out. Those are the serial cheaters.

 

And then there are people like me, who cheated once in 28 years of dating and marriage. I had turned down many opportunities to cheat over the years but one time I did not. My wife at the time had recently told me she wanted a divorce and kicked me out of the bedroom. There was a friend who had made it clear she was interested in having sex with me so the next time the opportunity arose I said what the hell. It was nice to have someone who wanted me when my wife had made it clear to me she didn't. I felt very guilty about it afterwards, however. I never considered myself a cheater but that's what I was. I made a vow not to be with another person. It doesn't matter what the circumstances were. I broke my vow. I haven't cheated before or since. Once a cheater, always a cheater? Not so sure. Once a lying scumbag, always a lying scumbag- probably so.

 

And those who say it's all about looks are wrong. Many, many of the mistresses I am aware of are less attractive than the women who are being cheated on. They all provide something the men need, excitement, acceptance, escape from the daily grind, etc.