Married men leaving wives?

[Leegh]

I often hear references about "single moms" and I also hear references such as "married men never leave their wives". The two above statements seem to be contradictory. Why are there so many "single moms" if the married men are not leaving their wives? Are the wives leaving their husbands, or are the children born out of wedlock. Any thoughts?

[xxoo]

When you hear "married men", is it in reference to affairs?

 

A married man who wants a divorce is different from a married man who wants to remain married and cheat. The former group is obviously more likely to divorce.

[Leegh]

When you hear "married men", is it in reference to affairs?

 

A married man who wants a divorce is different from a married man who wants to remain married and cheat. The former group is obviously more likely to divorce.

Good point. I should have been more clear. I am referring to married men who cheat.

[carhill]

In my social circle, the men appear(ed) apparently reluctant to leave their spouses and most of the divorces I've personally seen are where the woman left and 'cleaned out the house'. Since no one really knows what goes on inside a M besides the two people M, it's hard to know exactly who did what and when prior to the more public actions.

 

Most of my male friends, married many years, have expressed they'd feel lost without their wives and their companionship and love, so I accept this as they would be reluctant to leave proactively, even in the face of marital discord. Hard to know.

[january2011]

There are also women who adopt children on their own or have fertility treatment on their own.

 

I think that in your OP, these are generalisations and the numbers don't quite match up exactly because there are outliers/anomalies.

[cocorico]

I often hear references about "single moms" and I also hear references such as "married men never leave their wives". The two above statements seem to be contradictory. Why are there so many "single moms" if the married men are not leaving their wives? Are the wives leaving their husbands, or are the children born out of wedlock. Any thoughts?

 

My H left his xW, but as the children chose to live with us, she was not a "single mom".

[cocorico]

There are also women who adopt children on their own or have fertility treatment on their own.

 

I think that in your OP, these are generalisations and the numbers don't quite match up exactly because there are outliers/anomalies.

 

And, in some countries, the sexist assumption persists that it is universally in the children's best interests to live with the mother, post divorce, so in those countries custody is usually given to the mother unless she is clearly unfit. That also accounts for many "single moms".