fortyninethousand322 Posted April 29, 2013 Share Posted April 29, 2013 I seem to find this scenario happens so often and I don't know how much is 'normal' decent guy behaviour and how much is creepy. I get chatting to someone online, via a dating site, and they seem decent guys. If we can't meet for a while, their chatting via text or whatever, inevitably seems to turn to innuendo and hints at what fun we could have together. If I don't stomp on this straight away, they get more specific. I know a guy is going to wonder if a woman is at all interested in sex in general, if not necessarily with him, but it just seems a bit too soon to start introducing this. I don't know if I'm going to find him attractive in person and if it's going to lead that way in the long run, so why do guys do this? It seems a guy will assume, from seeing your photo and talking to you, that they will find you sexually attractive and so they are assuming you will do too. This seems crazy to me and I feel they are trying to get positive feedback on this too soon when I don't have enough information. It gets irritating. I won't flirt with someone when I'm not sure about them. I don't want to encourage a guy falsely. How do I know whether I'm going to find him physically attractive in person or not? He might have irritating habits, he might smell, anything could put me off. I suppose my question is, why do guys assume the woman will be attracted in the same way or are these constant 'prods' in text, conversations and so on, basically because they are not sure she is? Ironically, guys who do this are usually very good at dating. If you aren't interested in this kind of thing they'll go find someone who is. I've never done this, and don't particularly plan on it. But the guys who do probably had success with it in the past and just stick with it. Link to post Share on other sites
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