netrie Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Is sex more than pure pleasure if a man keeps on coming back for more and calling and calling one year later? Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 Well it depends. If he calls just to get some then I have to say NO it's not more that just pleasure. Maybe you are good at what you do. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 That is a very, very good question. Link to post Share on other sites
imjustagirl Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 I love having raw sex with my boyfriend.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author netrie Posted September 16, 2004 Author Share Posted September 16, 2004 re: Originally posted by naive_2001 Maybe you are good at what you do. Well, I dont know what i do but he says I "smell" so good and he cant get enough of me! I thought it was a bit arrogant of him to tell me that he's "dated hundreds of women but..." Regardless, I had to break it off because he was not treating me right and actually started to act angry and emotionally abusive towards me. I pulled the NO CONTACT rule and its been 5 weeks now. I have a gut feeling he was "using me" and even if he wasnt, he was not being very loving and kind towards me... I had to pull out for my own sanity. I was crying all of the time towards the end of our last contact 5 weeks ago. He was hurting me emotionally. I cant explain it. Has anyone else been there too? Netalia Link to post Share on other sites
Dustin Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 First you have to realize that all men want... is sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted September 16, 2004 Share Posted September 16, 2004 When you put in that way, I have to say "Hon' he is definitely using you". If he cared for you he would not treat you bad to start off, and he would be there all the time. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author netrie Posted September 16, 2004 Author Share Posted September 16, 2004 Originally posted by Dustin First you have to realize that all men want... is sex. Dustin, Dont you think that men want and need love too? I mean, we are all human. Are you a M or F? Thanks for your advice on this one... Why would he "stoop" that low and just want to have sex with me? I cant understand it. Doesnt he have any self-respect? I am glad I ended this crazy thing. Whew! Netalia Link to post Share on other sites
prevch Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 in this scenario I think you are better off without him but as a man I can say "sex" is not all that's important. Not for me at least. I am much more interested in the deep love and companionship that I can share with someone. I mean sex is fun and can be very loving but in the end sex is only sex and nothing more. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by prevch in this scenario I think you are better off without him but as a man I can say "sex" is not all that's important. Not for me at least. I am much more interested in the deep love and companionship that I can share with someone. I mean sex is fun and can be very loving but in the end sex is only sex and nothing more. Too bad most men don't think like you! Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 I think for many men, sex is the only way they know how to be intimate and close to a woman. Too many women complain that all men want is sex. We want men to communicate with us emotionally, like we do with our female friends, but a lot of men can't do that b/c they were never conditioned to do that. I believe that a way to a man's heart is with sex, not just food. I'm not saying give it up to losers or spread your legs to find love, I'm only suggesting that women need to stop complaining that their boyfriends or husbands (not strangers) are only using them. I think a good majority of males don't know how to be close to a woman any other way, so what you're essentially doing is turning your guy's desire for intimacy with YOU down. As for the first poster in this thread, honey he IS using you. If you've had sex and only sex for that long and he doesn't care you haven't contacted him for five weeks, then you need to move on. He probably is incapable of loving anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 I can honestly say Dustin that all men do want sex as do all women. I have had 4 other girlfriends in my life, usually at least 2 yr relationships and my last girl was the best sex I have ever had!! You know why? LOVE. If he loves having sex with you then there might be something to it. He might actually love you....cant say for sure though. My other exes were good up to a point and then it got boring.....sex is VERY important in a relationship. You never know if you truly love someone until you have sex with them and can differentiate the difference between sex and making love. I love and long to make love to my ex.....that is true love.....everything else is just lust. Anybody agree with me? Link to post Share on other sites
Author netrie Posted September 17, 2004 Author Share Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by backspn ...my last girl was the best sex I have ever had!! You know why? LOVE. If he loves having sex with you then there might be something to it. He might actually love you....cant say for sure though. Hi Backspn, I could never pinpoint it. He would tell me he "craves" me. We have broken up and reunited, but he never loses his sexual interest in me, and when he would be with me, make love, I felt like it was love but then I was confused and he acted emotional and everything got "weird" and I ran away... Whew! I did the NO CONTACT and its actually been 3 weeks, I made a mistake and said 5 as I "felt" it had... I can't quit thinking of him and I have another DATE tonight with someone else. Netalia Link to post Share on other sites
Author netrie Posted September 17, 2004 Author Share Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by Lonestar I think for many men, sex is the only way they know how to be intimate and close to a woman. Too many women complain that all men want is sex. We want men to communicate with us emotionally, like we do with our female friends, but a lot of men can't do that b/c they were never conditioned to do that. I believe that a way to a man's heart is with sex, not just food. I'm not saying give it up to losers or spread your legs to find love, I'm only suggesting that women need to stop complaining that their boyfriends or husbands (not strangers) are only using them. I think a good majority of males don't know how to be close to a woman any other way, so what you're essentially doing is turning your guy's desire for intimacy with YOU down. As for the first poster in this thread, honey he IS using you. If you've had sex and only sex for that long and he doesn't care you haven't contacted him for five weeks, then you need to move on. He probably is incapable of loving anyone. You are so smart... I will think about this. Link to post Share on other sites
Author netrie Posted September 17, 2004 Author Share Posted September 17, 2004 Originally posted by backspn my last girl was the best sex I have ever had!! What happened to your last girlfriend in this case? Did you two keep on reuniting and breaking up? Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 Well I can tell you that this guy (meaning me) doesn't just care about sex. In my opinion sex is over rated and gets boring. I'd rather spend the time doing something that I find super fun than just lying there going through the same motions. Yes, I realize I am in the minority when it comes to the male population. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 You're having sex with the wrong people. Sex is one of the best activities around. Boring? Depends who you're with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author netrie Posted September 19, 2004 Author Share Posted September 19, 2004 Originally posted by Lonestar You're having sex with the wrong people. Sex is one of the best activities around. Boring? Depends who you're with. I agree. that is why it is so confusing and so difficult. Sex with someone I click with is the best thing in the whole world----when we are both enmeshed and in a rhythm known between us alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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