Locust Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I met this woman online about a week ago in chat room and we share photos of each other and I find her attractive. We share few common things which is good and everything seem good. She then told me how old she was, she is in her mid 30's and I'm in my mid 20's. That is issue one and the other issue is distance, I live on the west coast and she lives on the east. We been talking on Yahoo IM over the week and I just cannot see myself dating a woman who is 10 years older than me and distance is beyond what I planned. I know she told me on Yahoo IM that she is beginning to have feelings for me, and wants me to close any OLD profile I have open. I'm not willing to do that. So for the past few days I have not signed on Yahoo IM to avoid her. Off topic here: At the same time I met a 18 year old Polish girl in Poland online in a chat room as well. She is too young for me and super far away. But she be writing me several emails. I think I meet women chat rooms better than I do in public. They always too far though, maybe one day I will meet someone closer to me.
MrCastle Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 So what is the question here? Or what do you want us to comment on? How we feel about relationships with older women (love them)? Or our feelings on long distance relationships (don't believe in them)? 2
Author Locust Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 So what is the question here? Or what do you want us to comment on? How we feel about relationships with older women (love them)? Or our feelings on long distance relationships (don't believe in them)? I'm asking what should I do, and how can I let this go without her getting mad at me. I rather do this early than to wait months later and then tell her. Have you dated a woman 10 years or older than you? How did it go?
MrCastle Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I'm asking what should I do, and how can I let this go without her getting mad at me. I rather do this early than to wait months later and then tell her. Have you dated a woman 10 years or older than you? How did it go? Well, don't tell her it's because of her age, that's suicide. Just tell her you would like to be friends because the distance is too much for you to overcome. Most women I date are 5-7 years older it seems. Never dated 10 years older if I remember correctly, but one of the last women who showed interest in me was 32 and I'm 25. I find the hardest women to date are women my age sadly. I always go looking for them but they always manage to ruin things with their immaturity, without fail.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Older women (30+) are easier to date. They've been around the block a few times and appreciate things more. They know what they want. They also tend to be dtf more often than not and many don't play the games that younger women do. (DISCLAIMER: Older women on Love Shack do not represent older women IRL. Older women here act like young girls.)
Author Locust Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Older women (30+) are easier to date. They've been around the block a few times and appreciate things more. They know what they want. They also tend to be dtf more often than not and many don't play the games that younger women do. (DISCLAIMER: Older women on Love Shack do not represent older women IRL. Older women here act like young girls.) Have you experience dating a older woman?
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Have you experience dating a older woman? Yes. I've dated and hooked up with many. Most of them are straight to the point. I've met my fair share of older women at a bar alone just looking for a guy to go home with. No shame in their game.
Author Locust Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Wow! Lot of women in their 40's look great but I just feel awkward going with someone who is much older than me.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Wow! Lot of women in their 40's look great but I just feel awkward going with someone who is much older than me. Just do it, especially if they're hot. They're really good in bed too. 1
MrCastle Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Just do it, especially if they're hot. They're really good in bed too. Listen to this man. Older women *get* it. 2
dasein Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Didn't read whole thread. You don't even know these are women you are talking to, suggest meeting however in more local environments and moving to face-to-face ASAP after meeting. Good luck.
Author Locust Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 Didn't read whole thread. You don't even know these are women you are talking to, suggest meeting however in more local environments and moving to face-to-face ASAP after meeting. Good luck. I don't feel as shy to meet people online so easy to approach but in person I'm nervous and shy. Meeting people in a chat room is the same as on a online dating website, you taking a chance. Hoping she is real. Even if this person is real, they live too far from me and huge age gap so I don't really have much level of interest.
darkmoon Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 older women get hit on, look, you fancy her so other men probably do to, we're not desperate, we know how reel a guy in by now ffs 1
PogoStick Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 older women get hit on, look, you fancy her so other men probably do to, we're not desperate, we know how reel a guy in by now ffs I want to be reeled in! Take advantage of me. I'm so innocent! 2
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 older women get hit on, look, you fancy her so other men probably do to, we're not desperate, we know how reel a guy in by now ffs If you're in Cali and hot....and like hot younger guys, drop me a line.
ltjg45 Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I can't blame the OP for thinking that way. While there is attractive older women, I have a hard time thinking I may be dating someone whose age is pretty close to my mother. (She had me at the age of 18-19.) 1
Author Locust Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 I can't blame the OP for thinking that way. While there is attractive older women, I have a hard time thinking I may be dating someone whose age is pretty close to my mother. (She had me at the age of 18-19.) Yeah its pretty awkward, I couldn't do it.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Wow! Lot of women in their 40's look great but I just feel awkward going with someone who is much older than me. Well you can't change how you feel but you know...women do this all the time. If you are really not interested, tell her the distance is too far (which it is). I would also question how legit Little Miss Kielbasa to be honest. There are lots of stories of little foreign girls looking for money. Be careful of that.
Standard-Fare Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 I think the question of whether to date "an older woman" is totally irrelevant here. The OP talks about two women, one on the East Coast and one in Poland, .... while he leaves on the West Coast. OP, how about pursuing realistic relationships that won't be based entirely on the Internet? How about women you actually have a good chance of meeting in person during the crucial "getting to know you" phase? How about someone you wouldn't have to buy a $500+ (and can't even imagine the fare to Poland) to visit? Even if you think starting out a relationship on the Internet is more natural to you, you should consider restricting yourself to locals within a two-hour car ride. Otherwise, you're actively choosing to make things more difficult for yourself. 1
tricolors Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Yeaaaaah. If a woman you've never actually met before, who you're not even sure IS a woman, says she "has feelings for you," simply from having talked on Yahoo instant messaging, I don't think I'd put much thought into it. You need to seek out women close to you, and actually meet them in person.
WhoreyBull Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 (edited) You say you start relationships online because it's more comfortable for you, but that could be part of your problem. You are operating within a comfort zone that is inhospitable for relationships. You're going to have to do some things that make you uncomfortable in life, whether it be dating someone older or approaching a woman in person. Edited April 14, 2013 by WhoreyBull
ascendotum Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 Yeah its pretty awkward, I couldn't do it. You just solved your own dilemma.
Standard-Fare Posted April 14, 2013 Posted April 14, 2013 You say you start relationships online because it's more comfortable for you, but that could be part of your problem. You are operating within a comfort zone that is inhospitable for relationships. You're going to have to do some things that make you uncomfortable in life, whether it be dating someone older or approaching a woman in person. Yes to the above. Think of it this way: Most people end up in long-distance relationships NOT by choice. It's usually an obstacle that circumstances force, and if there's no chance of living in the same vicinity again, these relationships usually crumble. So, why would you choose to take this path from the beginning when you don't even have to? If you know someone lives across the country from you, or in Poland, don't engage beyond friendly chatter.
Author Locust Posted April 14, 2013 Author Posted April 14, 2013 I think the question of whether to date "an older woman" is totally irrelevant here. The OP talks about two women, one on the East Coast and one in Poland, .... while he leaves on the West Coast. OP, how about pursuing realistic relationships that won't be based entirely on the Internet? How about women you actually have a good chance of meeting in person during the crucial "getting to know you" phase? How about someone you wouldn't have to buy a $500+ (and can't even imagine the fare to Poland) to visit? Even if you think starting out a relationship on the Internet is more natural to you, you should consider restricting yourself to locals within a two-hour car ride. Otherwise, you're actively choosing to make things more difficult for yourself. Your right. Poland is close to Ukraine and he met his finance there through ha Russian dating website. He said it cost about 5k for about 2 months so its expensive. I wouldn't do it personally and yeah she might be the green card girl. But I just signed up on Badoo which is a website that helps people meet locals. I can adjust me radial distance and I said about 20 miles from where I am and that would be about a 30 minute drive north or south of San Francisco. AT least these people will be within the San Francisco Bay ARea. Have any of you tried badoo?
Poppy fields Posted April 15, 2013 Posted April 15, 2013 Older women (30+) are easier to date. They've been around the block a few times and appreciate things more. They know what they want. They also tend to be dtf more often than not and many don't play the games that younger women do. (DISCLAIMER: Older women on Love Shack do not represent older women IRL. Older women here act like young girls.) I am an older woman on LS. I don't think that I act like a young girl. I act the same IRL and no one says I act immature. To my face.
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