RomanceLow Posted April 14, 2013 Share Posted April 14, 2013 Background story short and simple: Ex caught sexting other ppl, I broke up with him twice. We agreed to be friends. I text him for his birthday and 2 weeks later it's my birthday. He never texted me saying happy birthday and we have scheduled to hang out a week from today. What do I do? I'm hurt over this, but i want to see him at the same time though he practically cheated on me? Am I over thinking this and should i still hang out with him? I broke up with him four months ago and haven't seen him since. Link to post Share on other sites
lynn1954 Posted April 14, 2013 Share Posted April 14, 2013 You broke up with him for a good reason, but getting over a break up can be difficult. You get confused about whether to see the ex or communicate with the ex. Don't get together with him, and don't plan to see him or talk to him anymore. Do some stuff that you like, and hang out with some friends and family who love you and appreciate you. After a while, you won't want to communicate with him any more so there won't be any confusion. Link to post Share on other sites
reaver Posted April 14, 2013 Share Posted April 14, 2013 Grow a spine and stop talking to him. What is the matter with women nowadays? GROW SOME BALLS. Men act like selfish pigs because YOU let them get away with it. Just stop!!!! Ok done. Link to post Share on other sites
nonameforme Posted April 14, 2013 Share Posted April 14, 2013 Background story short and simple: Ex caught sexting other ppl, I broke up with him twice. We agreed to be friends. I text him for his birthday and 2 weeks later it's my birthday. He never texted me saying happy birthday and we have scheduled to hang out a week from today. What do I do? I'm hurt over this, but i want to see him at the same time though he practically cheated on me? Am I over thinking this and should i still hang out with him? I broke up with him four months ago and haven't seen him since. Happy (belated) Birthday to you! I hope you didn't let this guy ruin your special day. Okay, here's my take: A lot men don't generally pay attention to dates that are important to women. I know when it's my husband's birthday, he could honestly care less if people make a fuss or not, but he's learned over the years, that I do like a bit (but not too much) of a fuss when it's my birthday. Maybe it's a difference between sexes, or maybe it's just me. I know this has hurt your feelings, and I'm sorry for that. Now this is rather mean spirited of me, but I would be tempted to pull a no show on your scheduled hang out time. This guy did not treat you with respect when you were together, and although forgetting your birthday was most likely accidental (him just being in his own little selfish world), I wouldn't continue a friendship with him because he didn't act like a decent person when you were with him. I know a lot of people can be friends with an ex. I think that only really works when the break up was due to things other than the ex having been a deceptive jerk. If he was sorry, I think he should be falling all over himself trying to show you that he cares, and that (in spite of his past behavior while you were dating) he values your friendship. He sounds like a taker and he doesn't deserve your time and energy. Turn the page, start a new chapter and go out and make new friends. Don't waste your time of this one--it will emotionally drain you and make you resentful/bitter. Link to post Share on other sites
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