jacki Posted December 5, 2000 Share Posted December 5, 2000 well i really need advise on this matter, i know that i am not weird but this sounds stupied to me. first i am 30 and my boyfriend is 30, he is looking for a relationship where he can fall in loveand get married, this is what hetold me when we met. now 8 months later he is saying that the relationship is boring, the reason why it is borong, he does not have to chase me, he knows where i am at, ( i do have 3 kids) so i am at home alot, why do guys want a girl that they can trust then when they find one they are lost with her, i do not play games in relationships so me pretending anythign would be just stupied to me. furture more this guy comes from a past where his ex married his best friend, another girlfriend went out with him for 2 years then told him that she was marrying someone else a week before the wedding. i know that he is hurt from all of this. thats why i find it to be weird that he would not be attracted to someone that he can trust. we do have great communication, we talk about everything. we are great support for eachother and encourge eachother to do everything that wecan in life. hep please. just explain why guys need this in life? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 5, 2000 Share Posted December 5, 2000 This guy obviously comes from a very screwed up family where there was always chaos and action. He is bored in a relationship with a woman he can trust because he prefers seeing women who tell him they're going to marry someone else a week before the wedding and where his ex marries his best friend. This guy's got lots of problems and is not likely to change soon. Face it. He is simply addicted to drama, which his subconscious mind obviously thought he would get from you. Seems like now he's trying to create that. Because of his family background, until he gets massive therapy to deal with his chaotic upbringing, it is likely he will always find a nice, comfortable, peaceful, supportive lifestyle boring. Your only options here are to either let him go off to find excitement or to become more of a challenge and create some chaos for him yourself. I think you have your act together too much for the latter. Link to post Share on other sites
Deejette Posted December 5, 2000 Share Posted December 5, 2000 He talks about being bored because you are stable and not jerking him around playing games. The fact that he is bored is not about you but about him, that he has to have things on the edge to be interested. There is nothing boring about a loving, together person who is responsible and kind. Be nasty, flirty, and tricky, and his interest will spark up again. But why? He has proven himself to be unworthy of you. This guy obviously comes from a very screwed up family where there was always chaos and action. He is bored in a relationship with a woman he can trust because he prefers seeing women who tell him they're going to marry someone else a week before the wedding and where his ex marries his best friend. This guy's got lots of problems and is not likely to change soon. Face it. He is simply addicted to drama, which his subconscious mind obviously thought he would get from you. Seems like now he's trying to create that. Because of his family background, until he gets massive therapy to deal with his chaotic upbringing, it is likely he will always find a nice, comfortable, peaceful, supportive lifestyle boring. Your only options here are to either let him go off to find excitement or to become more of a challenge and create some chaos for him yourself. I think you have your act together too much for the latter. Link to post Share on other sites
jacki Posted December 5, 2000 Share Posted December 5, 2000 He talks about being bored because you are stable and not jerking him around playing games. The fact that he is bored is not about you but about him, that he has to have things on the edge to be interested. There is nothing boring about a loving, together person who is responsible and kind. Be nasty, flirty, and tricky, and his interest will spark up again. But why? He has proven himself to be unworthy of you. i felt that i was right, i do not really know about relationships because i do not get into one unless i am serious, reall the way this guy has messed meup big time, i will give him excitment in his life I WILL LEAVE HIM!!! thank you guys, your time is appreaciated Link to post Share on other sites
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