Dating a seperated man. She wanted divorce. Thoughts and s?

[january2011]

Clearly you have not read all my posts. Divorce final in July. He has his children 50% of the time. No child support

 

No, clearly I have not and for that I apologise.

 

According to your OP, you were looking for opinions and stories.

 

You didn't say that you only wanted opinions and stories that you liked. That's not what this site is for, unfortunately.

 

I wish you the best of luck.

[Minnie09]

Other than the fact that he's still married and a father of 2, which means a huge responsibility for a 22-year old "stepmom"-to-be, you've only met him in person once, and talking about love after just one weekend together is just immature and childish. I don't blame you for falling head over heels for a guy you met through online gaming and hardly know anything about, but given HIS age and life experience (as a spouse and father), something isn't quite right with HIM. At the age of 34 I would expect a little bit more maturity. He's either flat out manipulative, or simply not very "smart". I don't want to be judgmental, but having so much time available for a lot of online gaming if you have a family and a job doesn't sound healthy to me. You may call his W an idiot for letting such a great guy go, but if I were her, I wouldn't be so pleased with his online gaming either. "Normal" people have a social life and a lot to do, nobody I know in their mid-thirties would even consider wasting an hour per week playing play station. Sorry. That's for kids. And honestly, I've been refusing my son a ps because I think it's detrimental to his development. Anyways.....his W probably had her reasons to D him. If he's that immature in other areas of life, good riddance.*

 

And then on top of that hooking up with a girl 12 years younger than him that he met through online gaming? I don't know. He doesn't sound like a real winner to me, sorry. He seems full

of self-pity and fishing for compliments all the time. I can only go by the info op gives here, but the way he seems to be so smitten and acts so devoted already after ONE weekend is just so high school. Not a quality a smart woman would look for in a guy. Too much too soon. It's generally fake or he has to make himself believe it's the real thing which usually means....yes-bingo-rebound....yes.....distraction from his real issues whatever they may be (exw would be a good source of info here.....hahaha)......or....sorry OP - another possibility is that he's just not very bright (too much time spent on online gaming being an indicator here).*

 

Talking about moving there is WAY out of line at this point in time. And why exactly doesn't he want you there earlier than planned, even though you offered to live with a roommate first? Why doesn't he have to pay CS? Does he have a job? Jeez.....why aren't you freaked out over this? I am on your behalf.

 

Good luck anyways!

 

And one more time for the record....in case you think I'm

a pessimist.....you don't really KNOW him at all!

[MYCluciferase]

Sarah,

 

Having read the posts and your responses, I'm worried for you.

Sure there are some folks here that are a little over-cynical (though some cynicism is always a good idea for self-preservation) but you are completely resistant to any and all calls for caution.

 

Take the great advice about going out, dating locally, seeing people your own age. Sure you and he might be compatible, but you've hardly spent any time together. It seems as though you're in danger of committing to something with this partial stranger who's likely very needy. I'm not sure what you're going to get out of it....