wife left cant get over it

[feelingallalone]

long story short my wife started an affair back in january, recently approxamatly 3 mths ago she took off with him to mexico, she said she wanted to "visit her family" i never let her come back but i havent been able to stop thinking about her. i really loved her but couldnt go through with another let down like her leaving unfortunatly now i believe that i really miss her i might just be feeling lonely but i miss her nonetheless.

 

we have talked online since she left usually just argue and she kept saing that she made a big mistake and misses and loves me all the time its probably a mind game i dont know what her game is.

 

after this happening is it absurd to still want her to come home, should i give into my heart or listen to my head and try to get over this and not talk to her. i dont know i just need some advice and some strength this has been the most diffucult time in my life, telling my wife no dont come home there is alot more to it if you have any questions ask me.

[YellowLioness]

I mean...really its all up to you.

 

Do you think you can trust her again?

[messedup]

i tried to get over it the first time but she never stopped talking to him of course behind my back

which i found out about it drove me crazy how do i know for sure its really over with him and if it is will she do it with someone else lots of other stuff happened her attiude towards me changed compleatly it was like she was doing me a favor to have sex and now i am just worried that if she comes back she will just come for a little while and then take the car and the dog i know it sounds silly but wihtout my dog i might not have made it through this just dont know what to do she says she wants to come home and start from scratch but is there an alternative motive behind this