Boyfriend cheated on me with a prostitute while drunk

[Disappointment]

Hey there,

 

I'm totally confused and disappointed. My boyfriend cheated recently on me with a prostitute while he was out with his guys. He says he can't remember any of it because he was totally drunk. Apparently his guys wanted to go to a stripclub but they ended up in a brothel. After some of his guys (who also have girlfriends) disappeard with girls he says he wanted to have a massage but seemed to have had sex instead.

 

If he can't remember how does he know that he had sex? Because he caught a sexual disease and had to take antibiotics. When he found out he told me. I feel very disappointed now. I believed we are perfect together, I was so in love with him, he even moved country to be with me. He says he doesn't know how it could happen, that everything has worked out so well with us and that he didn't plan to do any of it. He says he felt save with his friends and could never imagine that anything bad could happen while he is with them.

 

I trusted him very much and could never imagine that something like that could happen to us. We made eachother very happy..

 

I told him I would stay together with him and try to forgive, but I think I will be never able to trust him again as much as I did before that happened. Also we need to wait now to do an HIV test.. It seems like a nightmare.. But day after day I realise that it really happened to us.

 

I'm starting know to think about why I loved him so much - because he is/was caring, trust-worthy, making me happy... I know he's still the same person but doesn't it look like what I loved so much about him wasn't the truth - or was it really just a horrible mistake of him, which shouldn't change my feeling towards him?

 

It would be great to get advise from you!

Thanks!

[reaver]

Why are you still dating him?

He cheated on you, slept with a prostitute and got a disease. Do you have any self respect or self esteem? Why arent you walking away? What else does he need to do to make you realize he has ****ty character and you deserve better? You should NOT trust this guy. Getting drunk is NO excuse for anything. He is NOT the person you thought he was. Clearly, you arent perfect. Time to get out of lala land.

 

Women need to stop think with their emotions so much and use their brains more. "Oh but I love him so so much" Honey, boyfriend love is not unconditional. Its conditional. Meaning, when he screws up you are allowed to not love him the same.

 

Tell me, if roles were reversed, do you think most men would tolerate this? No, because men have balls and tend to have better self esteem than women. Go work on your self esteem. I really hope you dont have anything...HIV is serious and is nothing to take lightly. If anything you should stop seeing him because he might have passed on a deadly virus to you.

Edited April 15, 2013 by reaver

[white123]

I'm laughing at home right now! is this REAL post? not some internet troll?

 

The only one situation when man don't remember what happen is so serious conditions in which he is not able to "make love" even with a sexy prostitute.

 

I bet that if you stay with him, this will happen again.. no, I don't bet. because it is so obvious that there is 1.01 rate only.

 

but you have 2 options:

 

1) live your life as a priceless trash

2) have your own self-esteem and move on

 

it's up to you! We cannot chance your value nor your life...