What is up with all the women in this forum with low self esteem?

[reaver]

It honestly flabbergasts me the amount of situations I see posted on this forum where a woman has a boyfriend/fiance/husband that has physically cheated or repeatedly emotionally cheated and they say they want to work on the relationship. Im afraid to have daughters when I have children.

 

I know this site attracts certain people, but the amount of self rationalizing and denial about women who have S.O's that cheat is astounding. They focus so much on their "love" they have for the other person and are in denial about what their S.O. has done to them and what it means. They are quick to write off a guy's character flaw that led to him cheating, but the men tear apart any woman who does the same thing. In the Infidelity section of this site for cheating married people, a guy who has a wife who has had an affair and wants to work on things gets blasted apart but the reverse situation, there is a higher number of supportive people. Its abolsute bull****. I think its such bull**** us women are supposed to accept this behavior because "hes a man" and its evidence to me feminism still has a ways to go because we are not equal in this respect where both genders are judged the same for bad character.

 

Alot of these situations these women post, the vast majority of men would never tolerate. This is why men get away with cheating more...because women tend to have lower self esteem and are too emotional when making dating decisions. Love is not unconditional in the dating world. Why are women so intent on thinking if they "love" their partner more his character flaws will magically disappear and he will magically start treating them the way they deserve?

Edited April 15, 2013 by reaver

[reaver]

Centre for Clinical Interventions (CCI) - Psychotherapy, Research, Training

 

This is a set of online tutorials I have found that are good to read if you have low self esteem.

 

Hopefully a woman out there will read them and benefit from them...

[Toddbt12y1]

It's hope more then "love." They hope he will change, cause they "love." Him(they may very well love him). It truly is a shock, when you have been cheated on. Guy oR girl, denial of an affair or some strange hope is a better choice to the truth.

 

I never condoned my exe's cheating. But foolishly stayed with her, till I had proof of the cheating(certainly at a large cost to my own mentality). Also, I too believed the fantasy, that she would wake-up and realize the depth of my care for her. Unfortunately, it never happened.

 

Guy or girl; either can be entrapped by their emotions. Girls have it a lot worse then their brothers in this cheating arena. As females by nature, and as mother's are more caring then guys. But as a male, who was cheated on; I can honestly tell you: it hurt like hell. Was surprising, and I played doormat(until I had proof).

 

Emotions are powerful and not everyone can master them.

[William]

While discussions about women with low self-esteem are acceptable, it is not acceptable to discuss the psychologies of fellow members, individually or as a group, on-forum. Hence, this thread is closed to discussion.