Praying4Peace Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Does anyone else care when it is the OM/OW/MOM/MOW's bday? I feel blah. I'm sure he's getting slathered with attention so that makes me a real nutjob. "Oh how I wish I could wish you happy bday!" LOL...needed to write that out to see how loserly it looks. Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Does anyone else care when it is the OM/OW/MOM/MOW's bday? I feel blah. I'm sure he's getting slathered with attention so that makes me a real nutjob. "Oh how I wish I could wish you happy bday!" LOL...needed to write that out to see how loserly it looks. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
So happy together Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 It isn't loserly at all. That is a horrible feeling. If it makes you feel any better, the last time that my bf celebrated an anniversary I caused a giant fight and ruined it for him. Link to post Share on other sites
loredo21 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 My exMOM and I both turned 30 last year...and when both hit I wanted so badly to hear from him or be able to wish him well...it is an awful feeling. And you're not alone. If youre in NC it is hard not to want to wish them well. But sticking to it is very important! Keep your head up! You are NOT a loser. Hugs! Link to post Share on other sites
lilmisscantbewrong Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Several years prior to d-day he always celebrated his birthday at our house. So, when the first birthday hit after d-day that was so hard for me. I sent him a post card but didn't sign it - he would probably have guessed it was me though (didn't send it to his house). There was nothing sappy on it - just hoping he had a good day. Of course nothing no response. Then my birthday came and nothing..... Hurt like hell so I completely understand. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Praying4Peace Posted April 15, 2013 Author Share Posted April 15, 2013 Awww... I'm sorry you are having a crappy day. Are the two of you still together or have you broken up? We are NC for 4 months. With the exception of the smallest three 'breadcrumbs' which might be my imagination bc I doubt he'd want to hear from me or do anything like that if he is trying to fix things at home. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Praying4Peace Posted April 15, 2013 Author Share Posted April 15, 2013 Thanks LFH! I don't have any desire to break my resolve either. There is no way that I am EVER going to contact him. I have too much pride. And it is disrespectful. NC = No New Hurts. Even if he was thrilled to hear from me I would not want to be the one to open the door. I was married. Now I'm almost D. He is in the same position...probably better. No thanks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HonestNeurotic Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Sorry you are hurting.......Hugs. Think of the pain you are in when you want to give in. Remember that this "love" is hurting you. It shouldn't hurt. You're not a loser. Link to post Share on other sites
Goodbye Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I'm dreading his birthday. It is right after mine. Last year he claimed his wife blew it off and then I found out otherwise on FB. Link to post Share on other sites
who_am_i Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 My xMM's birthday always falls on Mother's Day weekend. He used to say that it got lost in all of the Mother's Day tasks he was expected to do for her. I'm gonna guess she puts a little more effort into it this year...that's if she's not expecting a Mother's Day ticker-tape parade for letting him stay. Oh well...not my problem anymore. I know it sucks...hard! I say pour yourself a nice big glass of pinto! Link to post Share on other sites
lynn1954 Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Hang in there, Praying4Peace! I'm sorry you're feeling blue about his birthday. As you told us, you're planning to keep your resolve for NC, so I second the opinion of who_am_i when she suggests you have a big glass of wine. As many glasses as you want! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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