Confusia1 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 WTF?? It seemed to be going well. I messaged her, she messaged me back and we exchanged a few messages. Today, I went to message her back and BOOM! Her account has gone! Is everyone total weirdos on that site or what? I spoke to another woman who was practically saying she wanted to sleep with me, then when I suggest f*** buddies, she said "I think we should leave it" Haha! Online dating does seem to attract some strange characters. I was going to say that this new girl's account deletion was a shock, but nothing surprises me any more when it comes to Internet dating. Link to post Share on other sites
CryForNoOne Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Actually they both sound completely normal. If you think that's weird, you'll be in for a real shock in time... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Object_a Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Sounds par for the course mate. When someone deletes their account it's usually because they're either in a relationship already and were looking to fool around or they've just started going steady with someone. People who flake before you actually meet them are ten a penny. But don't let it put you off - you can have a lot of fun with online dating provided you don't take it too personally Link to post Share on other sites
ses Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I don't know about the first, but the second girl may just have been flirting and enjoying the attention. In other words: a tease. She may have wanted the sex within the framework of a relationship, and/or didn't want you to think she was an easy lay (even if she implied it). Some girls, like guys, enjoy the chase and tire of people who give in without too much effort. It's OLD. You'll find a variety of characters. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusia1 Posted April 15, 2013 Author Share Posted April 15, 2013 Sounds par for the course mate. When someone deletes their account it's usually because they're either in a relationship already and were looking to fool around or they've just started going steady with someone. People who flake before you actually meet them are ten a penny. But don't let it put you off - you can have a lot of fun with online dating provided you don't take it too personally I messed up on the one that wanted to sleep with me. She actually said she wanted to have sex with me, but wanted to go on a date first. I thought to myself "Why/a date?" so that's when I text her and said "would you consider f*** buddies" and she replied "I think we'll leave it" This new one who deleted her account. I literally only exchanged about 3 messages with her. She said she was new, so maybe she already had someone in mind outside of online dating. It is pretty boring on Okcupid though. I have messaged some real weird ones. Not that they are unattractive, just that they're odd mentally. How many of them do you think are fake? I'm new to online dating, but I've heard there's a lot that are fake. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosopher Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 How many of them do you think are fake? There are undoubtedly quite a few fakes on online dating, such as girls who are only using online dating to boast their ego or on OkCupid to play the quizzes. A few of the fakes may even be guys pretending to be girls to see how many messages they will get from guys and what sort of messages they get (I have read a couple of stories of guys doing this). That said I do think the majority of girls on online dating sites are genuinely out there to meet guys. My advice is to ask for their number within the first few messages and then arrange to meet up. That way they won't get bored of the messaging and you will be able to get more of their attention. Link to post Share on other sites
hppr Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 If they delete their account or backtrack/stop talking to you it's because they are lying about something. They're way older, super fat, married, that kind of stuff. Also all the intimate talk and conversations is masturbatory for women, it's the same thing as men looking at naked pics of women. They get off on the fantasy of meeting you but have no intent of following up in reality. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 WTF?? It seemed to be going well. I messaged her, she messaged me back and we exchanged a few messages. Today, I went to message her back and BOOM! Her account has gone! Her husband caught her trawling... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Object_a Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I messed up on the one that wanted to sleep with me. She actually said she wanted to have sex with me, but wanted to go on a date first. I thought to myself "Why/a date?" so that's when I text her and said "would you consider f*** buddies" and she replied "I think we'll leave it" Wow, smooth This new one who deleted her account. I literally only exchanged about 3 messages with her. She said she was new, so maybe she already had someone in mind outside of online dating. If her account was new and disappeared quickly then all the things mentioned already are very likely. She may be married and just curious to see what's out there, or whatever. Or she may have been overwhelmed with messages on her first few days and decided "screw this." I wouldn't worry too much about fake accounts. There aren't so many outright fakes, but it seems very common for people to use old photos and then turn up to dates looking quite different to what you expected. Link to post Share on other sites
outsidethebox Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I think you have it backwards. The account "disappears" when the other person clicks on Hide. They no longer see you and you no longer see them. You are the one being deleted from their side. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I find online dating to be boring. The girls are generally less attractive than the ones you could meet IRL and it's less fun and more work. Example: I could go out to a bar, meet a really hot girl, have fun with her, and have sex with her after a few hours of meeting her. Even if we don't have sex, I still had a good time. If I date online, I have to message girls that may or may not be hot IRL and sit in front of my computer screen. I have to talk to her a bit, then set up a date, then go on it, then have sex. Boring! To each their own though. Link to post Share on other sites
Estate Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 WTF?? It seemed to be going well. I messaged her, she messaged me back and we exchanged a few messages. Today, I went to message her back and BOOM! Her account has gone! Is everyone total weirdos on that site or what? I spoke to another woman who was practically saying she wanted to sleep with me, then when I suggest f*** buddies, she said "I think we should leave it" Haha! Online dating does seem to attract some strange characters. I was going to say that this new girl's account deletion was a shock, but nothing surprises me any more when it comes to Internet dating. Ok dude... seriously?????????? A girl got a bit flirty online so you flat out asked her to be a **** buddy? Could you be more clueless?????? Also... the other girls deletes her account... jesus, you messaged a few times! Get over it, she has a life in the real world, she probably met someone. Like... in the real world. What, you think because you exchanged a few messages online she owes you something? Good god, you're right, there are some weirdos online. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I thought that happened ALL THE TIME on OKC to me. I would be chatting with some guy, after a few messages here and there - poof! - I'd log in one day and the account would be deleted. It happened so often that I thought this was pointless and that's why I deleted my own account. I wasn't getting anywhere with it. But that's not unique to any online dating website, whether it's free or not. Link to post Share on other sites
sigurpol Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Sounds par for the course mate. When someone deletes their account it's usually because they're either in a relationship already and were looking to fool around or they've just started going steady with someone. People who flake before you actually meet them are ten a penny. But don't let it put you off - you can have a lot of fun with online dating provided you don't take it too personally Pretty much it. When I did OLD, every now and again this would happen: some girl and I seem to hit it off and then one day, they're not on anymore. Because I live in a smaller city, I would eventually see most of the people I would be talking to on the site and those who deleted their account would be with someone. It's a bummer but what can ya do? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusia1 Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 Ok dude... seriously?????????? A girl got a bit flirty online so you flat out asked her to be a **** buddy? Could you be more clueless?????? Also... the other girls deletes her account... jesus, you messaged a few times! Get over it, she has a life in the real world, she probably met someone. Like... in the real world. What, you think because you exchanged a few messages online she owes you something? Good god, you're right, there are some weirdos online. No, the girl I asked if she wanted to be a f*** buddy, was already saying she wanted to have sex with me. We had met on Okcupid, we exchanged numbers, was texting back and forth a few times, bit of sexting, then she said she really wanted to have sex with me, but she wanted a date first. I didn't understand why she would want a date if all she wanted was sex; so I asked her whether she wanted to be a f*** buddy instead, to which she replied "I think we'll leave it". In regards to the girl who deleted her account, I have no idea what was going on there. All I know is, she seemed to be interested, but then her account is suddenly gone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusia1 Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 I thought that happened ALL THE TIME on OKC to me. I would be chatting with some guy, after a few messages here and there - poof! - I'd log in one day and the account would be deleted. It happened so often that I thought this was pointless and that's why I deleted my own account. I wasn't getting anywhere with it. But that's not unique to any online dating website, whether it's free or not. I am totally new to online dating, but after hearing bad reports from it; I wasn't expecting too much to be honest. I could not see myself paying for online dating. The only reason I'm using online dating is that I don't have much chance to get out and meet people as I work during the weekends. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusia1 Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 Pretty much it. When I did OLD, every now and again this would happen: some girl and I seem to hit it off and then one day, they're not on anymore. Because I live in a smaller city, I would eventually see most of the people I would be talking to on the site and those who deleted their account would be with someone. It's a bummer but what can ya do? Thing is, more often that not, the most attractive ones are usually online dating the longest. I think that maybe the girls are either a) too picky or b) have someone and just want to inflate their ego. To be honest, If I was a really attractive girl, I would also be extremely picky on a dating site. Link to post Share on other sites
steveT95 Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I find online dating to be boring. The girls are generally less attractive than the ones you could meet IRL and it's less fun and more work. Example: I could go out to a bar, meet a really hot girl, have fun with her, and have sex with her after a few hours of meeting her. Even if we don't have sex, I still had a good time. If I date online, I have to message girls that may or may not be hot IRL and sit in front of my computer screen. I have to talk to her a bit, then set up a date, then go on it, then have sex. Boring! To each their own though. So you are only interested in sex? Whereas I believe a majority of genuine people bothering to go on online dating are on it for something a bit more serious. Dating people isn't just to get sex and move on, for god's sake. No, the girl I asked if she wanted to be a f*** buddy, was already saying she wanted to have sex with me. We had met on Okcupid, we exchanged numbers, was texting back and forth a few times, bit of sexting, then she said she really wanted to have sex with me, but she wanted a date first. I didn't understand why she would want a date if all she wanted was sex; so I asked her whether she wanted to be a f*** buddy instead, to which she replied "I think we'll leave it". Mate, I think she was possibly interested in you for a relationship and didn't want to just be a one night stand so wanted a date. Or if not that she wanted a date so she felt less cheap. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Sex requires energy. Date = dinner = food/drink = energy. Got it? Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I will delete my match account soon, just because I'm tired of OLD, reasons for deleting can be multiple. In any case, she had low interest in you if she didn't send you some other contact info before closing her account. The second one, the one who said she would like to sleep with you, I'm on her side. Even if she said she wanted to sleep with you, she didn't say she wanted to sleep with you before getting to know you. She told you she needed a little time, at least one date, and you said no, so she said no as well. Link to post Share on other sites
KathyM Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 The one girl wanted a dating relationship that included sex. When you put her down on the level of ****buddy, she realized you were not interested in a real relationship, so she blew you off. The other one, I'm guessing you came on too strong with the sexual inuendos and sex talk, and she realized you were only interested in sex, so she hid her account from you, or got discouraged from online dating altogether and deleted her account because the only guys on there were just looking to get laid and she wanted an actual relationship. Either that, or she met someone and decided to exclusively date him. That would be my guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Estate Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I didn't understand why she would want a date if all she wanted was sex; so I asked her whether she wanted to be a f*** buddy instead, to which she replied "I think we'll leave it". Exactly, you don't get it. There is a difference between openly sexual banter to show you are attracted to someone and open to some fun and just flat out asking her to be a **** buddy. Way to degrade someone man! I can only repeat. You're not just getting the situation. You're not reading these people or their intents and it's so commonplace on here it's not even funny anymore. How are guys just so social CLUELESS???? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CryForNoOne Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Exactly, you don't get it. There is a difference between openly sexual banter to show you are attracted to someone and open to some fun and just flat out asking her to be a **** buddy. Way to degrade someone man! I can only repeat. You're not just getting the situation. You're not reading these people or their intents and it's so commonplace on here it's not even funny anymore. How are guys just so social CLUELESS???? I hate to admit it but whenever I'm feeling down about my love life, i read threads from other guys here and I feel much better... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I had an account on OKCupid months ago. I was talking to this one guy, and literally dates later I just deleted the account. I was being hit up by so many perverts and people obviously wanting nothing but sex. I was so disgusted I just shut it down. The guy I was talking to actually found me on LinkedIn and was like... "where did you go?! You were so cool and you just deleted your account!" I honestly wasn't thinking about him at all. I just felt so dirty on that site that I shut it down. Link to post Share on other sites
Estate Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 When you take the conversation down a one way avenue you can expect where it will head. That a person out of the blue becomes confused by where they are heading when all of the signs on the road led one there is the perplexing part. If a person speaks about sex openly with someone they don't know and have never met expect on the other end they will anticipate a desire for a purely sexual encounter and act accordingly. Only women who want to play games would expect some other outcome. Absolute crap. Flirting is flirting. Being a creep is being a creep. Learn the difference. No wonder you guys can't get girls... you won't approach real women and when you get a bite you flat but ask to be ****ed. Who does that??? Maybe she was testing the guy... so many creeps ask for sex online there is a pretty good chance that if a guy could actually hold his head in some sexual banter and try to qualify the woman instead of letting his penis talk then he might actually get somewhere. Seriously... you guys are clueless... its not even funny. It's like if some guy dropped his pants on a bus and ran around screaming you'd all do the same as clearly you now feel that to be the social norm taking their lead. CLUELESS! Seriously... who brought you up? Who thought you manners? Who thought you to interact with people socially? It blows my mind to think. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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