My girlfriend wants to be a stripper?!

[Daemon]

Ack! Is it just me, or would any of you have a problem with your spouse or significant other prancing around naked in front of 40 random horndogs so strangers can go home and think about them all night(or at least 3-5 minutes depending on the person).

 

Had an interesting conversation with my love last night. She told me that the first week we had been together, she spent the night stripping for the first time at a strip club, and told me how much she loved it, and would like to start doing it again.

 

Of course, I told her that I would have a serious problem with that, I didnt feel I should have to lie. Apparently, she does'nt feel that her body is something that should be shared with people sparingly, and its "No big deal".

 

It makes me a little sick to my stomach to think about, and it bothers me that those same thoughts make her happy. She's not going to do it, and she's okay with that, but I'm a little disturbed that she has a want for other men to see her naked, and to dance in the laps of strangers. I can see the ego boost it must be, being sort of worshipped by someone in the moment, but shouldnt some things be sacred? She's not going to do it, but the fact that she wants to is what bothers me.

 

I suppose it wouldnt bother her if I got naked and rubbed up with a couple women I didnt know. I swear this relationship has more and more interesting quirks by the day! Sometimes I just want to run away from this, but I love her more than anyone I've met.

 

-Daemon

[Deejette]

Well, the fact that she isn't stripping now is a good sign. But if she is secretly doing it on the side, then, look out! I think it is good that she was honest about it with you.

 

The anonymous attention and admiration of horn-dogs is a big motivation for some women who feel that the menfolk in their lives don't make them feel beautiful or desired. Just as men have that voyeuristic tendency (liking to watch), women have an exhibitionistic tendency to a greater or lesser degree.

 

But I would not like it if my private lover was strutting his stuff at Chippendale's, being pawed by drunken babes who put dollar bills in his g-string. Love is intimate and beautiful when it is sacred, not for public consumption by strangers.

Ack! Is it just me, or would any of you have a problem with your spouse or significant other prancing around naked in front of 40 random horndogs so strangers can go home and think about them all night(or at least 3-5 minutes depending on the person). Had an interesting conversation with my love last night. She told me that the first week we had been together, she spent the night stripping for the first time at a strip club, and told me how much she loved it, and would like to start doing it again. Of course, I told her that I would have a serious problem with that, I didnt feel I should have to lie. Apparently, she does'nt feel that her body is something that should be shared with people sparingly, and its "No big deal".

 

It makes me a little sick to my stomach to think about, and it bothers me that those same thoughts make her happy. She's not going to do it, and she's okay with that, but I'm a little disturbed that she has a want for other men to see her naked, and to dance in the laps of strangers. I can see the ego boost it must be, being sort of worshipped by someone in the moment, but shouldnt some things be sacred? She's not going to do it, but the fact that she wants to is what bothers me. I suppose it wouldnt bother her if I got naked and rubbed up with a couple women I didnt know. I swear this relationship has more and more interesting quirks by the day! Sometimes I just want to run away from this, but I love her more than anyone I've met. -Daemon

[Nic]

i know i would hate it if i had a boyfriend who had women stuffing money down his pants and rubbing up against women.

 

mainly because i don't like the idea of having to share my partners body with a bunch of horny chicks that i wouldn't know from a bar of soap.

 

i'd like to think that my partners half-naked body is for my eyes only. because i know i would truly appreciate not just the body, but everything underneath too. that to me is special, but i could just be being old fashioned.

 

when i'm in a relationship, the only person who sees me in little strings etc, is my boyfriend. i'm not uncomfortable with my body at all, i just think it's special in a somewhat sort of sacred way, and i wouldn't want to share it among horny seedy people.

 

she sounds rather insecure. give her time and she may realise (if she wants to) that the attention from you is enough. you really love this girl, so that may mean the world of difference to her.

Ack! Is it just me, or would any of you have a problem with your spouse or significant other prancing around naked in front of 40 random horndogs so strangers can go home and think about them all night(or at least 3-5 minutes depending on the person). Had an interesting conversation with my love last night. She told me that the first week we had been together, she spent the night stripping for the first time at a strip club, and told me how much she loved it, and would like to start doing it again. Of course, I told her that I would have a serious problem with that, I didnt feel I should have to lie. Apparently, she does'nt feel that her body is something that should be shared with people sparingly, and its "No big deal".

 

It makes me a little sick to my stomach to think about, and it bothers me that those same thoughts make her happy. She's not going to do it, and she's okay with that, but I'm a little disturbed that she has a want for other men to see her naked, and to dance in the laps of strangers. I can see the ego boost it must be, being sort of worshipped by someone in the moment, but shouldnt some things be sacred? She's not going to do it, but the fact that she wants to is what bothers me. I suppose it wouldnt bother her if I got naked and rubbed up with a couple women I didnt know. I swear this relationship has more and more interesting quirks by the day! Sometimes I just want to run away from this, but I love her more than anyone I've met. -Daemon

[Bananas]

Daemon.

 

Ive just posted a few days ago the tale about my (now ex) girlfriend was IS a stripper.

 

The difference being here, is that I met her when she was working, so of course, in the run of our relationship I knew and accepted what she does.

 

The girls who work in this field are a mixed bunch...some have husbands, and totally switch off..they are making money on an asset (their bodies) and thats that.

 

However, as my ex used to tell me, there are always a hard core bunch who meet with the customers, 'make out' with them, party all night after etc, so I think theres an influence that needs to be considered.

 

I truly had NO problem thinking about what my ex did...in fact, I felt a little proud that guys would want to pay to see her naked...and that when we walked down the street, she had a lot of attention..again, this made me feel that I was with a desirable girl, and was lucky.

 

However, my ex has a lot of emtional/psychological problems, not least buliemia, and a self confidence problem, so you may find that your gf is a little insecure and wants this attention.

 

Its good, though, that shes not going to be a stripper and that shes taken your feelings on board (my ex was selfish in 99% of her actions).

 

So, although im no expert, thats just a tale from the boyfriends point of view.

 

Rob