StrongGirl Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 I went out with a guy for about 2 years, he was my first love, I was truly passionate about him. Well I found out he had cheated on me basically our entire relationship and we broke up. He moved in with another woman 1 week later (!). Anyway, we work together and he got a transfer to an overseas office soon after. This was such great timing, I thought here is my chance to impose No Contact and get over the ba$tard. Well 6 months later and he is due back in our office next week. I have not returned any of his calls or emails yet I have obsessed over him and overanalysed the relationship and the break up every single day since it ended. I thought I was suppose to get stronger but I feel so weak and horrible. I have tried to keep busy, and meet new people, but I can't get rid of this empty feeling. I am still madly in love with him even though he was the a**h*** of the Year. How can I wake up to reality and be prepared to see him again without having a total break down? Please help me guys!! Link to post Share on other sites
ojibwaywmn Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 I have been through the same situation as you. It was very hard and painful to see my ex with his on-again common-law wife. And yet I did the right thing by breaking up with him as soon as I found out that he was sneaking behind my back. The one thing that I have learned is "not to let them see you sweat". Even though you want to bawl your eyes out, do it out of sight. The break up was last summer and I still think about him alot. But whenever our paths cross, I act like he is not there. I figure that if they see your weakness then they will somehow find a way to use it. Also, my brother-in-law told me "success is the best revenge". Since our break-up, I have lost weight, grew my hair, and make sure that I look great when I walk out the door. It is quite the ego boost. I have come to accept that there are sides to my ex that I still love, and there is nothing wrong with that. But things happen for a reason and that reason will show up down the line. So when your ex comes back to work, take a deep breath and carry on like he is not there. If he does try to approach you, be polite but aloof. Take care and good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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