sock83 Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 i have come to the point now where i dont know what is happening anymore nor do i have any control of the situation at all. Everything was going ok with my ex until i went and saw her on monday night, well she said that she is trying to find that feeling that we once had but it's hard, she also said that she wants to 100% sure about me not 99% sure, so i said if thats the way you feel we wont see each other for a couple of weeks and for her to only ring me if she misses me, now what i am dying to know and no-one has the ansewr is; How does someone who has lost the spark get it back? is there anything i can do to help this process? and can you ever get it back. I have tried everything except no contact so hopefully she misses me that's the only way i can see it comming back or her seeing me with someone else maybe that will work? she is comming up to stay with me for 6 days i wonder that if she spends this long with me something has to happen it's like growing together again i hope! someone help im sick of trying so im not maybe it'll work maybe it wont who knows do you? Link to post Share on other sites
prevch Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 ya know man I have no idea. Girls are oddball creatures.....seriously. I tried everything with my ex and now I am just going to do no contact for one of two reasons 1. Hope she realizes that she made a mistake 2. Help me get over her either way I feel better eventually. I wish I had all the answers man if I did I would share them all with you. I wish u Heaven Link to post Share on other sites
Lonestar Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 get over her, smile lots, keep busy and interested in many different things and hobbies, become physically fit, find your self-esteem, make your life complete without her, date others... only then will she respark and you may not want her then Link to post Share on other sites
weweregods Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 read "Stop Your Divorce or Your Lover's Rejection" by Homer McDonald http://www.stopyourdivorce.com Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 prevch has it right. You need to NC her, just continue to live your life (like you did before she showed up in it) and just realize she isn't the whole point to your life. Chances are she'll then somehow know this and will contact you and give you some mixed signals if she still wants to be together but again, they will be mixed signals instead of jsut being direct with you and telling you her feelings. I often wonder if women like this game or are they just clueless they are doing it? Link to post Share on other sites
pixiegrrl28 Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 Unfortunately, it is not just women that do those kind of things! Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 23, 2004 Share Posted September 23, 2004 Weird....I would like to think its the latter...... Link to post Share on other sites
Brooklyn8503 Posted September 25, 2004 Share Posted September 25, 2004 i would normally say to do the NC thing but i was in the situation where my bf lost the spark. he cried telling me this and told me he would love for it to come back because we were in love with each other and extremely happy together. he felt very guilty. we spent about a month not talking in which we both hooked up with another and ended those relationships. We are talking again and we talk every single day and we usually go out and do something about once a week with each other. his spark is starting to come back. we're moving into an apartment together and hopefully we'll be able to get back what we used to have. i wish you the best of luck in whatever you choose. Link to post Share on other sites
katala Posted September 25, 2004 Share Posted September 25, 2004 Hello i just read you story and its pretty much the same as mine. Its been so hard this week but i found comfort in my friends and have kept myself busy. I never saw it coming so its been even worse but keep the no contact as long as you can because going from being together to not seeing or talking to each other will make her miss you. Respect her feelings and if shes meant to be in love with you she will. Good luck with everything. Link to post Share on other sites
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