yaa110 Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I was hanging out with my boyfriend the other day while I did some school work. I was laying my head on his lap and i saw him search for something on his phone. the word "**** Buddy" came up in the history. I didn't say anything, but i was curious so i started to snoop through the history on his phone. Obviously guys look at porn, but a jailbait website popped up and it weirded me out a little bit. is that weird? he is 24 and I am 18 by the way. I also looked through his facebook but there were no messages at all. and i know he messages people on there, and he even deleted ones that i noticed were from a while back too. Link to post Share on other sites
ComeUpOutDaWahta Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Uh, I wouldn't go so far as to assume he's cheating, but he's obviously being a little sneaky. And it'll only get worse, more than likely. He knows how easy it is to keep things from you, so it'll only progress. Link to post Share on other sites
ses Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 The only way you'll know is if you confront him directly. Of course, you have to prepare yourself for the inevitable question of why you were snooping. What do you mean "jailbait"? Jailbait usually refers to a girl who is underage or looks it. Porn is completely normal but child pornography is a completely different matter altogether. I think you need to clarify. The search for "f*** buddies" is definitely disconcerting. Are you guys in an exclusive and committed relationship? He may have just been Googling the term for fun but he may have wanted something more. Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I was hanging out with my boyfriend the other day while I did some school work. I was laying my head on his lap and i saw him search for something on his phone. the word "**** Buddy" came up in the history. I didn't say anything, but i was curious so i started to snoop through the history on his phone. Obviously guys look at porn, but a jailbait website popped up and it weirded me out a little bit. is that weird? he is 24 and I am 18 by the way. I also looked through his facebook but there were no messages at all. and i know he messages people on there, and he even deleted ones that i noticed were from a while back too. Props to him for being 24 and dating an 18 year old! I'm sure it was nothing, OP. No worries. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author yaa110 Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 Yeah Jailbait as in young girls. I looked at the website and it was just provocative pictures of young teenage girls. It makes me see him differently now. The facebook thing kind of concerns me too though. the other day he was looking at his fb and he had a message but he didn't want to open it in front of me. when he finally did it was from a pretty girl and then he said "eww". Now he has no messages at all Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Keep snooping until you find out if he's cheating on you...at this rate and because of the age difference there's a high probably he is, his activity and behavior do sound suspicious. He's at a prime age to fall easily for temptation, and you're at a prime age of naivety. Be silent and keep your eyes open, cheaters always foul up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
foreverandalways Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 You have to look at this logically though. If you were looking for a **** buddy, would you simply go to Google and type in **** buddy? Where would that get you? Probably to an urban dictionary definition of the word, a few dating sites probably, stories of people having **** buddies.... Anyway, a google search isn't going to get you a **** buddy. If he wanted one, pretty much anyone can find them without using Google. We would all have our ideas on where we want to start. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yaa110 Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 i don't like to snoop but i think i will keep snooping because I don't want to jump to conclusions right away. Also I don't mind him looking at porn.. he's a guy but i can't shake the feeling that he is a perv for looking at a website full of little girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yaa110 Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 good point Link to post Share on other sites
ses Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 i don't like to snoop but i think i will keep snooping because I don't want to jump to conclusions right away. Also I don't mind him looking at porn.. he's a guy but i can't shake the feeling that he is a perv for looking at a website full of little girls. He may rationalize the behavior since you're still in your "teen" years. Some guys like 'em young. The girls may look young but be legal. There's no way of knowing for sure. I'm 24 but I could easily pass for someone younger due to my looks. I wouldn't worry too much. Go with your gut instinct. If you suspect something then your intuition is probably on the right track. Tread cautiously. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yaa110 Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 thanks. maybe i'm reading too much into it. i needed more opinions rather than my own and my best friend's before i acted on anything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 Thanks for reminding me why I shouldn't date an 18 y/o. Link to post Share on other sites
LindaSmiley Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 He's definitely hiding something. You should ask him about it. Don't go "crazy girlfriend" on him just yet. If you want to be taken serious & get answers be upfront & calm about it. (As hard as that sounds just try) God Bless. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
runningfar Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I do not condone snooping. If you feel the need you shouldn't be in a relationship. But given what you found, that's more than a little suspicious. I would talk to him. Link to post Share on other sites
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