BlackWalker Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I know a lot of women like to settle down, have kids, a stable life, but sometimes an aspiring actor cannot always offer that, unless he has stable work in the industry. I live in the UK. Over here, we basically have to go to drama school, otherwise there is little chance of being successful in acting. But here's the thing, drama school is the same as university here, it's 3 years and takes up A LOT of time. Most days will consist of training/studying from 9am until 8pm 5 days a week, sometimes 6 days depending on if there's a show approaching. I am 24 now, I only decided a couple of years ago to pursue acting seriously! I do not have another degree to fall back on, so getting into drama school would not just mean everything to me, it would also be a massive opportunity. Because out of thousands of applicants, there are only 24 places on a drama school course, so you guessed it, you have to be talented. All I can think about is acting. I enjoy writing & reading, so studying English was a big thought of mine. But, I just cannot think of anything else I could see myself doing as a career. I'm rambling on lol, so my question is: Would you date a guy who wanted to pursue acting as a career? On the side, I was seriously considered trying out for fitness modelling. This would allow me to gain a little extra cash on the side while I'm pursuing acting. Thoughts, girls?? 1
veggirl Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I wouldn't bother. I honestly don't think I'd be able to trust a guy if he was acting and made it big. I think very few people can deal with the temptations that would come along with that, and I wouldn't be wanting to sit around and waiting to see if my guy was the rare gem that would remain faithful/grounded/etc. So no. Now if it was local stuff/he had no chance of making it big/it's a hobby, then sure. But a guy actively pursuing that as a career, no, esp if he has nothing else to fall back on. That last bit is just irresponsible, flat out.
Treasa Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Sure, why not? If it didn't work out, it didn't work out. Same as with anyone else. Except you'd be better to look at during sex. Now, if I had a chance to bang that guy who does all the Ian McKellen impressions, I would do it in a heartbeat, and date him to boot. He cracks me up. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I know a lot of women like to settle down, have kids, a stable life, but sometimes an aspiring actor cannot always offer that, unless he has stable work in the industry. I live in the UK. Over here, we basically have to go to drama school, otherwise there is little chance of being successful in acting. But here's the thing, drama school is the same as university here, it's 3 years and takes up A LOT of time. Most days will consist of training/studying from 9am until 8pm 5 days a week, sometimes 6 days depending on if there's a show approaching. I am 24 now, I only decided a couple of years ago to pursue acting seriously! I do not have another degree to fall back on, so getting into drama school would not just mean everything to me, it would also be a massive opportunity. Because out of thousands of applicants, there are only 24 places on a drama school course, so you guessed it, you have to be talented. All I can think about is acting. I enjoy writing & reading, so studying English was a big thought of mine. But, I just cannot think of anything else I could see myself doing as a career. I'm rambling on lol, so my question is: Would you date a guy who wanted to pursue acting as a career? On the side, I was seriously considered trying out for fitness modelling. This would allow me to gain a little extra cash on the side while I'm pursuing acting. Thoughts, girls?? Look at the other threads around here. There's one woman that's dating a man half her age that's leaching off of her and is nasty to her constantly. There's another woman that's dating a man that's a drug addict with no job that steals from her. You seem like a nice, ambitious guy. I don't think you'll have trouble getting a girl as long as you're confident. 2
Author BlackWalker Posted April 16, 2013 Author Posted April 16, 2013 Look at the other threads around here. There's one woman that's dating a man half her age that's leaching off of her and is nasty to her constantly. There's another woman that's dating a man that's a drug addict with no job that steals from her. You seem like a nice, ambitious guy. I don't think you'll have trouble getting a girl as long as you're confident. Haha, being on stage is scary, but women are scarier lol
StanMusial Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 Look at the other threads around here. There's one woman that's dating a man half her age that's leaching off of her and is nasty to her constantly. There's another woman that's dating a man that's a drug addict with no job that steals from her. You seem like a nice, ambitious guy. I don't think you'll have trouble getting a girl as long as you're confident. LOL. Yeah OP actually to impress these gals you might want to cheat, lie, and steal and maybe get a few arrests on your record. Just drop in on her every week or two and hit that right and you'll be golden. 1
yessy21 Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I know a lot of women like to settle down, have kids, a stable life, but sometimes an aspiring actor cannot always offer that, unless he has stable work in the industry. Thoughts, girls?? Black walker: Forget about what the girls want. how would you give them what they want if you cant give yourself what you want. it takes time... patience and really hardwork for your career to take off. Focus on making YOU happy in your career. when you meet the right girl she will understand the dedication that you have to your craft and talent. and a smart woman will know that if he's commited to his job he can commit. you shouldnt base your career on just performing.. you should learn to be behind the performance also, as it will help you attain more with your characters. Just Date and if it happens it happens...
miss_jaclynrae Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 I wouldn't rule it out. It goes beyond what a person does for me, its more about who he is, not what he does. 1
FitChick Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 No. They are generally self-absorbed and needy. If they aren't working, they are depressed, anxious and need constant reassurance. When they are working, they forget about you. Actors should date their own kind.
darkmoon Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 (edited) only if he maintained financial strength, god forbid, should a woman paying for a poor man ever say "pay for yourself" for rent food etc i mean, i've seen men get angry at being asked for money, to stop nagging because he's sure he's on the verge of stardom, maybe, but believe it when you see it months can go on like this, not husband material, but ok for an affair, not to live with either, too expensive Edited April 16, 2013 by darkmoon
wheream_i Posted April 16, 2013 Posted April 16, 2013 It's no different being a working musician. I'm gone a lot of weekends, I work the local bar scene on weeknights. A relationship is definitely tough especially since I've always put my music career ahead of everything else. And yes, I've had my share of failed relationships due to the temptations with women out there. I've learned my lesson as I am alone now but you have to take it for what it is. Even if you take away the other women and the temptation, could you put up with someone who is completely career driven, someone you will always be 2nd to them? Most women cannot.
Author BlackWalker Posted April 17, 2013 Author Posted April 17, 2013 No. They are generally self-absorbed and needy. If they aren't working, they are depressed, anxious and need constant reassurance. When they are working, they forget about you. Actors should date their own kind. Well, that's a big generalisation. What do you mean "actors should date their own kind"? That makes actors sound like different beings altogether. They are not animals, you know. 1
theloyalone1 Posted April 17, 2013 Posted April 17, 2013 apart of being in real estate , i'm also a songwriter in LA and i suppose i have a huge attraction for men with artistic flair..and truthfully it is tough dating a music producer who is big time, etc. the entertainment industry is nothing but temptation and is best to live a lowkey life date a shy guy 1
yessy21 Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 So... people that are "Famous" are at high risk to cheat? I'd have to tell you that it doesnt sound so plausible. the problem is that yes, there is a high amount of temptation but with so many eyes on you... at all times its very difficult to want to even bring yourself that unwanted negative energy. Im not opposing completley because i know thats its likely that they would cheat... but that is only if their not incredibly dedicated to their work and SO. Also, actors cheat everyday. Making out with other people...and Sh*t... with hot people too.... damn my father and mother for never throwing me into Acting school... i was bornnnnn to be an Actress! I can Act tired... I can Act hungry.. I can Act broke..,. Should have totally joined the Drama Club in Highschool... waste of my life.... I could be kissing on Ryan Gosling and Pretending to Pretend to just be doing it for the movie. I would have won 6 Golden Globes and 2 Oscars.... i tell u.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 No you need to have a legit job the cheating aspect doesn't even matter to me, the no-job having part/ poor part does. 1
MrCastle Posted April 19, 2013 Posted April 19, 2013 I'm an aspiring actor and have not had a problem dating. The people in here that supposedly have a problem only have an issue because you're not famous. If you make it, your afternoons consist of filling out restraining orders and your nights consist of fending off women with a broomstick or any large object that provides a good bit of separation. Don't worry about it. If someone truly likes you, you guys will find a way to make it work. 1
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