Sad Gurl Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 I do not understand my EX. We broke up about a month and a half ago after being together for 5 years and continued talking as friends. He cheated on me and said that he was sorry for everything he had done. About two weeks ago, he surprised me at work one Saturday and took me to the mall and out to eat when I got out. During dinner, he began telling me that he would love to see me as his future wife and that I was the type of girl that not to many guys came across. Than, later that week, I find out that he still communicates with the girl that he cheated on me with. I found out because we were at my house when the phone rang and she called. We began talking about it as soon as the phone stopped ringing and he basically told me that he had feelings for the both of us. But, he told me that he saw no future with her and that she wasn't anything compared to me. Well, the following week, we had another talk and I basically told him that it hurt to know that he still continued talking to that girl. He told me at that moment that he was going to stop talking to me and coming over until he knew what it was that we were going to do because he knew that he was hurting me more by sticking around. That was last week, and he hasn't came by or called me anymore. During this past week, I have been feeling horrible and sick. I have no idea what I am to do because I don't know whether to move on or wait on him. I know that he still has feelings for me, but why is he staying away? He used to go out with his buds all the time and get home really late every night, but ever since he stopped talking to me, he doesn't go out anymore. I know this because his mother told me and also because he lives down the street and I see his truck there all the time now. If it hurts him not to talk to me, than why is he torturing himself? Link to post Share on other sites
Butchey Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 You've come to the right place. Hang in there it will get better. He may be torturing you. I had to read your post several times to get a better understanding of what you are asking. First you say he is your ex, so he doesn't owe you an explanation for not calling or seeing you. If he does call you and wants to see you..........then he owes you an explanation. He took you out to dinner and said some nice things. This sounds like it is still on between you. As far as I can tell you are letting him play you. He is in control and that doesn't work. If you broke it off you must go for no contact. He will play his games but don't let him do it to you. Sooner or later he will do it again. If he really loves you (a possibility), he has to make amends for cheating on you. Just live your life and work to get over the feelings of betrayal. If he works on his own problems for awhile and gets better, he may come back a better man. Right now you don't need him. You have to see that. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted September 17, 2004 Share Posted September 17, 2004 Sad Gurl, don't try to figure him out.... He cheated on you, then "comes to his senses" for a few minutes only to tell you later that he has feelings for both you and the other girl, well how nice for HIM. He says that he doesn't "See a future" with this other girl YET he hasn't cut it off with her and now says he just needs more time to figure out how he "feels" *cough bulls*** cough* This guy was lucky enough to be with you for 5 years and in all that time he STILL hadn't got it right.... and you know honestly if he was that into you, he would be calling you, at your house showing you that he knows he messed up BIG TIME in loosing you and SHOWING you that he doesn't intend to let it happen again. I just read a book last night (the whole thing lol) called "He's just not that into you" it is written by two of the writers for "Sex and the City" it is very insightful and I recommend you get a copy of it. There is a guy out there that doesn't "need" time to KNOW you're awesome girl (because you are!) Don't wait on this guys silly butt to figure that out;) Link to post Share on other sites
Valeree Posted September 19, 2004 Share Posted September 19, 2004 My head was spinning just reading your post. This guy is a player. Dump him and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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