fatty Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 Hello, I will try to make this short and sweet. Here is the deal, In my relationship I am always the person that initiates all the sex,4play etc.. then my girlfriend follows. In 1.5 years of us going out she has never initiated any sex with me. What i mean by initiating is that I caress her body, tease her, run my hands up her body etc.. things you do to get the sex going. And sometimes she will just leave me hanging. It IS so frustrating to be left hanging especialy for a guy. After her orgasm she normally goes to sleep and i just have to go finish myself off. Now I have told her many times that it would be great if she initiated something but still she hasnt, this make me feel even more insecure about myself because if she did all those things I would know that she is still attracted to me. I have told her and all she says is "sorry, i am bad girlfreind" which in turn makes me feel terrible for even suggesting the thought. I am not that type of guy who is after pusssy, but It is just really frustrating when you are left hanging when you are all hard. Any guy would agree with me on this. I would love to here the ladies view on this and any guy who has been left hanging. Link to post Share on other sites
hugznkisses21 Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 hmmm Well I in the opposite situation i and the gf who always initiates....well not all the time! I find that we both want it but he is just not sure if I do or I just do for him or blah blah communication gets all crossed....funny eh I tell him not to think about it so much just go for it. I had a talk with him and he made me realize a few things. A) we dont really have anywhere to do it (so he doesnt initiate) true! we live at home still B) He knows after he does he like to sleep especially if at night and I will have to go home (instead of lying with him) true C)and he loves me thats why he wants to make sure that we do it in a respectful plce where we can lay in eacothers arms after. I am like you always hungry for it.....its crazy.... I think maybe she may be shy perhaps or not sure how to initiate it without feeling uncomfortable maybe.... Do u guys live at home still? It is very common for women to not be the initiaters in sex and sometimes even not always need it in a relationship Link to post Share on other sites
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