ycart Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 URGENT HELP NEEDED PLEASE FOR TONITE COULD BE MAKE OR BREAK i have posted before what to do about ex who is father of unborn child my problem was we were on good terms very good last time we spoke but i have not heard for a month now dont know whats gone wrong sent a letter to his mum regarding the baby which im having in 4 weeks ive had no reply hes changed adresss and has no phone number i have found out where he lives but he obviously didnt want me to know this as i have heard nothing off him it is driving me mad as i really want to sort this out before i have the baby so do i go and confront him or not really worried about turning up on his doorstep as 1 girl hes been seeing on/off could be there 2 may be annoyed ive tracked him down 3 dont want to appear to be a stalker 4 may upset me too much 5 could go in to labour apart from the above points i really want him to be an adult about this and speak to me its not something that can be brushed under the carpet in 4 weeks a child will be the result of this and i want the best for it so tonites the night i have thought about it enough do i do it or leave it any advice please even yes/no i will go with the majority BIG THANK YOUS Link to post Share on other sites
Notorious Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 I don't think you should go there and confront him. He's obviously trying to run away from his responsibilities. It's his child too and when you have the baby, take him to court and make him pay child support. You shouldn't be worried about how he feels...he left you high and dry with a baby on the way. He's not a man. You need to take care of yourself and the baby, don't stress yourself out over him. Have your baby and then do what you have to do to hold him responsible. Good luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ycart Posted September 18, 2004 Author Share Posted September 18, 2004 thanks for your advice at the mo i just feel so angry and stressed with him and i dont understand his big turn round last time we spoke he wanted to be at the birth and move in together ever since hes not been in touch just do not understand him doesnt help that he has moved in a few streets away so temptation is great thank you for your views! Link to post Share on other sites
aFighter Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 That's lousey of him. What kind of 'man' [he's not a man] would run out on your woman when she's going to have your baby. I know it happens alot but for god's sake! I came close to being a dad once, kinda. She had missed her monthly and was 100% certain & I told her I'd be there. It turned out to be a false alarm but I was ready to support her and do the right thing! Guys that run away make me sick! Forget this jerk and just sue him for child support when the time comes. Link to post Share on other sites
shamen Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 I agree! Run away from him. Take him to court when the baby's born and get child support. The man is probably using again if he's stopped talking to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ycart Posted September 18, 2004 Author Share Posted September 18, 2004 thank you for your replys as far as i know he is using again thats what ive heard off several people and i think thats whats responsible for most of his mood swings i know its best to stay away its just really hard but thank you all for your support Link to post Share on other sites
mudobber Posted September 18, 2004 Share Posted September 18, 2004 My dear ycart, I agree with the others on focusing on yourself and your miracle. If you have friends and family, keep those who love you around you as much as you can. I know that you wish that you had the male support that you really should have right now. I wish you did too, but just a few more weeks and things will be mush clearer for you. Hang in there, Link to post Share on other sites
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